family my greatest joy
for me the most important thing is my family, those people who every day are part of my closest link, those who every day encourage me to move forward, after so many things happened I come to the conclusion that the family is the basis of all human development, I was taught that the circle of life consists of 3 very important factors, a good family, a good job and good education.
my family, they are my greatest treasure, whenever I can I remind them how important it is, to always be united no matter what, every problem, every anguish we share as a family and we make every difficulty a solution or answer, when we are united nothing can destroy us, we are a kind of super heroes who fight to take care of each other, the importance of taking care of each other between each member has allowed each day to cope with daily situations.
It is no secret that every family has difficulties, some more difficult than others. Now, the important thing is how they confront these difficulties, we know well that to destroy a home it only takes a bad word, so it is important to act and respond in the right way always taking care of the integrity of each family member.
**Love for the children**
They say that when you are a mother you know unconditional love, I can assure you that it is so, when you have a child our whole world changes suddenly life teaches you that you can love someone more than yourself, this happens with children our love for a child has no limits, on the other hand, I have three loves which I love and I consider them to be my three stars, each one represents the pure and true love that I feel in my life. when you are a mother you learn to put up with so many things so that they don't lack anything, to take a mouthful of food out of your mouth to give it to them, you learn to sleep badly so that they sleep well, many nights without being able to sleep so that they sleep well. in short, when you are a mother or a father, you know true love.
my sons were born a year apart, luckily i was able to give them a stable upbringing and they never lacked anything, today they are already men. the photo represents a lot to me, maybe because it is useful to put it in an album or to keep it in a safe place as my three loves are in one photo. that day was the birthday of the youngest of the three, antonio was turning 14 years old, for me it was a day full of joy and different, because i felt that it was less time until one day they would have to go in search of their own destiny. I can't say that it didn't hurt me because I would be lying, as a mother I would really like to have them for the rest of my life but as a woman I know that one day they will have to make their own family.
also that night has a great anecdote for me, "antonio didn't know that he had a girlfriend, so he told me that he wasn't going to do anything that day, he wanted to spend the day at home as if nothing was happening, what he didn't know was that his girlfriend was planning a party, then one of his brothers invited him to go out to eat hamburgers as usual but in this case it was special because it was his birthday, antonio hesitantly said yes, when both young men go out to eat hamburgers, his girlfriend arrived with many friends to fix the house and place certain decorations everywhere, really everything seemed to be going well, until the unthinkable happened, antonio arrived before time, his brother carlos could not prevent him from taking a little longer in the street, when antonio was going to enter the house, I ended up closing the door, he wanted to enter but it was impossible he was going to realise what was happening, then, I shouted very loudly, Antonio wait a moment I can't find the keys, I really don't know if he believed the story, the truth is that when I went to check the door there was no one there, My son had been smarter and ended up jumping over the wall next door, when he entered through the back door, his surprise was to find so many people trying to throw a party for him, he really didn't know what to think, he started to cry and ended up hugging everyone, especially that lover who had plotted the whole meeting".
there are things that we will never understand and much less the loss of someone that we really love with all our strength, this photo has great value, here carlos was sharing with his younger cousin Emi, it is really difficult to accept the departure of a person but it is much more difficult when that person is so young and you know that he is fighting to want to continue living, I could say that many times I felt that if I could give my life for the life of that girl, I would have done so.
Emi was a very dear girl, she is no longer with us, she has touched our hearts with her sympathy, her humility and her charisma, in spite of her young age she knew how to be original and make a difference everywhere, I could say that she had as much personality as an adult, she knew who she was, what she wanted and where she was going, her confidence could be felt everywhere.
sadly she fell victim to cancer, a disease that nowadays takes many lives, I really don't understand how they have found a cure for almost all diseases but for this one they still haven't found one that is 100% effective, losing loved ones in this way is priceless, you feel how every day your heart tears you apart not being able to do anything and see how she suffers, our worst suffering was seeing her desire to continue living and a disease that was getting stronger and stronger every day.
love for our children is priceless, it has no name either, we only feel it, we know it is so great because we stop feeling for ourselves and start feeling for someone else, it is difficult to explain the feeling of love that you feel when you give everything to your child and even more so when you know that every day you are losing him or her.
"One day like many others my family ended up getting together, spending a different day where we could all share and enjoy, release all the stress of the morning work, free ourselves from the routine of every day, all to mark a different day in our notebook and that day was really very special, it was one of the few days that our little girl had left and without knowing what would come in the future that photo marked a before and after, look at the photo and just notice how happy, cheerful they were and so many things to achieve, I could have imagined anything but that one day she would leave in another direction, I really know that we all go for that same path but not her being so young, so it wasn't something to be expected, my son carlos was always close to emi, they were more like brothers than anything else he was very jealous and over protective of her, he knew everything about her and they were always together, on the other hand, when she started to feel bad she decided to tell him, Carlos was the first person to find out that something was not right with her, he just looked at her and started to cry, after several minutes he ended up looking for me and told me everything, for me it was like a bucket of cold water, I didn't know what to say, much less what to do, how to tell a sister that her son, my nephew is dying? I don't have the courage that he has, I don't have the strength to go and say so many things that they didn't give me time to say", I only know that my love for her will always be like that of a son and that every day I try to give my children all my love without measures.
my family a photo that will remain for the history remembering the union and the joy that always represent to be together, that day was the birthday of my beautiful mother, celebrating her 82 years and really it was a great day, each child ended up arriving and we ended up getting together all, the family has always been very united demonstrating that no matter how bad things are or how busy for the family there is always time, my brothers rarely get together but that day was like that, they all came to my house and ended up making a lunch, spending a different day and celebrating all together one more day of life for my beloved mother.
Some people who shared that day are no longer in the world of the living, so I always say that nothing like taking a good picture that captures the moment of something so beautiful and beautiful that is to be united and reunited as a family.
that day so many things happened, starting with a mysterious call to my brother, it all started around 10 in the morning, they called my brother and then a deep voice said "the day will come when you will see the darkness" my brother didn't know what to think, he didn't know the number that called him, he didn't know the voice of the guy, then without knowing what to do he decided to tell another family member and wait for what would happen, hours later the same number rang again, my brother doubtedly did not want to answer, after several attempts he answered, the same voice was there this time it said "for love we live and for love we will die" my brother answered; "who is it? "he received no answer, so he assumed it was someone playing a joke, several hours passed and the same number rang again, my brother answered the phone and said "what the hell is wrong with you, what do you want? "then a different voice answered, excuse me we are informing you that a family member had an accident and is stable but has no one to come and take care of him, my brother could not believe it, then the person told him to go to the central hospital and they would give him more information, For my brother who is an incredulous person what happened had caused some fear but did not know what to believe, my brother ended up going to the hospital and confirmed that a family member was recently admitted, unable to believe what had happened my brother told the other brothers and truly no one could believe the event.
after several sleepless nights my brother started to look at his mobile phone and received a message from an unknown number, is your relative in the hospital getting worse I am afraid that dark days are coming for your family? my brother answered; excuse me who gave you my number? after several hours he got an answer, it does not matter who I am, but what I am looking for, my brother did not know if he was upset or terrified, then he said to go to the police, after verifying the number was not assigned to any person. My brother decides to look for a father and tell him everything, the father only advises him that he should confess and ask for his own, after making the confession, he receives a call and that voice again told him "you looked for the only person who is beyond my limits, you were smart with that move, since you want to know who I am, I will tell you. I am... Your brother juan jose, you learned to seek the lord with that very important lesson, it turns out that jose was always one step ahead of my other brother and he knew he was going to go to the police so he moved his pieces and ended up creating a distortion in my younger brother, causing him to seek the house of God and put aside his thoughts of not believing in anything.
I like people to learn that they are not more than anyone else and much less that they can walk through life as if nothing is happening around them, my brother was a carefree man for most of his life until that big joke happened, he understood that just like everything else he could fall down and get back up.
For a better education of our children (reflection)
it is interesting how society has modified the personality of the people taking them to a point where they are people who spend most of their lives looking for a goal and when they get it they really realize that they do not feel any sense of satisfaction, this happens very often in those people who since childhood have been told that they must strive to get what we want, in part perhaps have a little reason the problem is when we are instilled that the effort is synonymous with competition, we grow up associating success with the culture of effort and competition; for this and other reasons is that nowadays nonconformism has been on the rise.
Like a "seed" that ends up germinating, the result is an empty person looking to fill a hole and even if they eat anything they will not be able to fill anything. This happens very frequently with those people that we see every day looking for success, the problem is that they do not really know how to achieve it and if it is not really success that they are looking for but to satisfy that need to compete to feel alive and they do not achieve it.
my life story is similar, from a very young age I was taught that I had to make an effort to achieve my goals, up to that point we were doing well, then my parents tried to make me understand that if I wasn't the best in everything I did it wasn't synonymous with effort, it was hard for me to accept that many times when I didn't get the grades I wanted, I had to accept that I hadn't made an effort, I was traumatized to the point that many times I ended up at the point of collapse, I could not explain it to myself, I knew that if I was making an effort, then those words of my father "if you are not the best in everything you do, you have not made an effort", for years I had this strong controversy, I came to think that really they were right and I was just another mediocre person in the world.
Then one night when I went to bed and couldn't sleep I thought, I know that I am making an effort, maybe I won't get the best grade or be the best in what I am doing but, I know that I am making an effort and I can't give more than what I am giving if I keep thinking that I am doing things wrong, that night I felt that I had understood many things, that the bad versation of words of my parents had caused in me, a way of thinking that had no concordance, I knew that I was making an effort and I had always done it.
Today I don't judge my parents for what happened, nor did I want to have a conversation in which I would end up expressing the pain they had caused me for years, all for saying the wrong thing.
Today I am a mother, I try to be fair when I say anything, as a mother I learned that if you want to give the best to a child, we should not give them so many things, only the necessary tools, on the other hand, I also understood that it is good to have conversations with them, beyond the typical "how are things son" "how are things going in class? "or "you know I'm your friend, you can tell me whatever you want" these types of conversations do not lead to anything, as parents we must remember that part when we were young we know how we think at some point, we can not ignore that many times when we were young we wanted to share something that caused us noise with mom or dad, we do not get to tell them anything because sometimes parents do not realize that they have a child who should be heard that needs someone to trust beyond their best friend, that's why their parents are there to ensure the happiness and mental health of their children.
Many times as parents we end up making that typical mistake of not wanting our children to live what we lived through, preventing them from living experiences that may be vital for a healthy and fulfilling life in the future. When I try to talk to my children the first thing I try to do is to break the ice, whenever I have a conversation of any kind, laughter gives way to endless questions that will be answered without fear or embarrassment, creating a good bond is very important, teaching them that although the effort has rewards, often the effort does not necessarily bring a reward with you more than what you can give yourself, to know that in an exam or anything that did not turn out the way you thought you would associate it with not having made an effort is wrong, that is our own fault, to recognise that if we make an effort despite not having achieved what we want, that moment will come, on the other hand I also try to teach that time has a reason in our lives.
perhaps what today was not another day will be, it is all a matter of learning to be patient, the teaching of a father or mother is better when it is done through practice, it is not necessary to implement the theory so many times because we already know that the best for a good education is to set an example, yes, yes, every time I heard when I was young, you must set an example of being a good person I asked myself so many times, and how do I know that I am a good person? Obviously I was close to the answer, I just asked myself the wrong question, we know that we are doing good when our actions do not have an end of their own and are directed towards others, without asking or expecting something in return, another example of being a good person is, having values, education gives a lot to talk about a person, I would say that it is the introduction of each being when having a conversation or greeting someone.
As I mentioned before, to deprive my children of learning on their own would be selfish of me, to make them understand that they should have their own stumbling blocks as a sign of their own growth is the healthy and right thing to do.
Today I can say that I am free of unhealthy thoughts, I learned to accept the different situations that my path has brought me, some are not good others are much better, I learned that we must have courage and above all courage to face our own fears rather than face those that come from outside (external), learning to know ourselves will help us not only to have better control of our lives, also to plan it, to lead an organized life that costs a lot and is worth so much, my words are addressed to those people who feel that they still do not achieve their goals despite so much struggle, friend, you better change your thinking, perhaps you have already achieved many goals and you have done it unconsciously, my first goal I got it that night when I woke up from that nightmare caused by my parents, that thanks to be able to rethink the question I managed to understand that only I said what to do with my life and how I was going to rewrite it...
**DEDICATION**
I dedicate my words to those people who have had to live a life marked by their parents, those selfish people who without thinking that they do so much damage with just a few words can damage the lives of others, those people who feel they do not fit in and do not achieve anything, just look, look inside yourself and find the strength, then start from that line and set yourself much simpler goals and then look for longer ones, you will learn to have a winning behaviour, then there will be nothing to stop you, you will know what to do in any situation, you will be a wise person and once you were just lost.
It has been a real pleasure to be able to share with you part of my life, I am not ashamed to tell you anything, maybe my words will be useful to other people, I hope since that is my aim, to help you understand how important it is to know who we are and that nothing and nobody can tell us what is wrong or what is right, nobody else but us.
A free spirit getting to know different places (A love of travel)
Hello dear friends of read.cash, I hope to meet and share part of my life with you, do not take it wrong, I like to meet new people and above all learn a little of them, today I will share with you one of many moments of what I like to do or more than like something that I am passionate about.
Being able to travel and meet new places, new people and also new experiences could be described as one of the best lifestyles for someone like me, since I was a little girl my father taught me that there is nothing better than knowing, when you visit different places and learn new things, you are sharing your time in something that makes a lot of sense.
Today was one of those days that I would like to repeat, when you are my age you feel fulfilled and doing what you like most which is to know, you can't ask for anything more, the level of satisfaction is very high and to be able to feel completely fulfilled is even more wonderful. Today I visited a beautiful place near my village, called pradadero, a wonderful place full of abundant and colourful vegetation, if you look closely at the photo you can appreciate the beautiful view, the colours of the lake and the plants. In addition to the most beautiful thing in the photo, which is me.
On this day I was not alone either, I had one of the best companions, my sister. Although she is not a blood sister I feel her as one, I hurt like one and I enjoy her as only a brother can enjoy. That great road that you can see in the photo is the road to Happiness, it is also worth noting that to get to this place we had to travel almost 15 km, it seems little but the mountains are very steep. It takes about 2 hours to reach the highest point of the mountain, you have to make several stops to be able to rest and continue ahead.
The climate is quite humid and the flora here is colourful, there is a high variety of exotic plants that are only common in this kind of places because they are humid and temperate most of the time. On the other hand, the road on which I cycle is well maintained and clean, I can't complain because it helps me to have a better control of the rhythm and not to get so tired.
Something that I like too much is to know, if visiting places like this helps you to enjoy and disconnect from the world, to me it does that and much more, I am a woman who most of her days are busy working and without time to rest or take a day off. In view of not being able to enjoy a quiet moment, when I have the opportunity to travel and visit new places then I do it and go out and enjoy myself.
I had been trying to go to this beautiful mountain for about 3 years but it really wasn't easy, as I mentioned before I have to be very consistent in the job I have and the job I have to take care of.
"Many times we need to get out of the city, connect with nature and then connect again".
At this point we were already feeling the tiredness in the body but it is worth every moment, this picture was spectacular, my friend and travel companion and I were resting and then we were arriving to a fishing port, the place was fantastic, a great view.
Whenever I travel I like to be able to take lots of photos, I always want to have a memory and that my grandchildren can observe and enjoy the adventures of their grandmother, although I am already a grandmother I don't feel like one, I have a lot of vitality and desire to continue travelling to different places.
"Travelling makes me feel free, travelling on my bike makes me feel alive and when you meet new places and people you learn one thing, no matter where we are, humility makes us great and helps us to have more communication with other people".
This is what I mean, we arrived at a village that is located in the high part of the mountain, they are nomadic people who live there, they go to the city, mostly by water, it is easier and much faster, the way they live makes you remember how life was many years ago, they have no electricity, no telephone signal, living disconnected from technology and dedicating themselves to agriculture and other things that the women here do is the basis for these people to have such a good culture.
We were able to share a little with them, at first they were shy and shy and did not want to approach us, but after several attempts they decided to meet us. The time we spent with this person was valuable, to know the way they live their cultures and lifestyles are so different from ours, although this does not mean that we are not the same, the way of being is the same, the same language. On the other hand, I was struck by the fact that these people only live from the house, fishing and sowing what they sow themselves, they have a kind of house where they meet and discuss all the things that the people need, that is to say, they present their concerns as in a kind of meeting.
When I see children in this kind of places the first thing I imagine is the freedom they must feel living there, children are almost always very restless but children who live in open places do not suffer so much because they have many places to go and to be distracted, also they grow up in an environment without technology, I can not say that it is totally good, maybe it is necessary to be communicated and also to know a little of the advances of the world, the truth is that these people do not suffer so much for not knowing basically what happens in the whole world.
Joaquin and Daniel two little friends we met, they are adorable kids, I wanted to talk to them a bit, they both study, they told us that they have to walk to the other village to be able to see classes, normally it takes them 45min to get there, so it is a bit far for people who walk, on the other hand, Joaquin says they use transports like the mule as they are resistant and can last much longer than a traditional horse.
Daniel also talked a bit with us, he told me that they don't have any kind of technology, when it is 7 pm they are already in bed waiting for sleep, this is how things have always worked, Daniel says that he wants to be like his father a woodcutter who has been working as a carpenter for more than 20 years, he is proud of him and wants to be just like him.
The greatest happiness of my travels is that I feel free, there are no ties and above all I am myself, I love to share with my friend and live new experiences. Maybe it is the only thing that I will take with me in my life, all the places I met, besides the people, each one has a place in my heart.
When it comes to identifying myself, I could say that I am a free woman, I like to get to know new places, new people and live the unique and incomparable experience. I don't care what people think about me, maybe they can say so many things, the important thing is how I feel about myself. All my life I have been looking for something without knowing what it is, maybe it has no form, maybe it has no name, maybe what I am looking for does not even exist in this world or maybe what I am looking for is not very far from me, maybe it is inside me, it could be so many things that maybe it is none, my life is not complex, I like easy things like having a coffee and sitting down to watch the sunrise.
"Sometimes the simplest things have more value than anything else, it's all a matter of perception".
Have a nice day. Take care of yourselves.
@ExploreGo
