Before it's too late.
They say you don't know what you've got til it's gone.
But by the time you realize that, often, there's no way back.
The reason we don't know what we've got 'til it's gone is because we struggle to be grateful in the present.
Things in the future or the past seem more attractive because of the chase.
The chase confuses us about what is truly valuable and what isn't.
We underestimate what is right in front of us and overestimate what could be.
We undervalue what is right in front of us and over value what could be.
We take things for granted only to realize that we are the ones that lose.
Don't wait until it's too late to be awake and present when you're on a date.
Don't assume that people will always be there.
Don't assume that people will always wait for you.
Don't treat people less because you think there's more out there.
When you don't give someone your attention in the short team, you lose their affection in the long term.
When you don't give someone your presence,you lose the presence of their time in your life.
The more distracted you are from someone, the more attracted they will be to someone else.
Don't wait to lose the diamonds you have because you are busy collecting stones.
I hope this post will open your eyes...
Start valuing people who are always there for you, before it's too late, before you realize they are **GONE**... *forever*.
Stories of Successful People
You are a **leader**. You are **limitless**.
Once you increase your sense of worthiness, you won't even be able to open your mouth saying that somebody is taking care of you. You want to take care of yourself.
****Robert Anthony****
He's intelligent, 17 years from Major corporation they've spent thousands of dollars training him. He knows he has the book knowledge but his attitude is his vision of himself. His sense of deserving that says you can't have that. So he will fabricate all kinds of excuses on why he can't have it.
Robert Anthony said something. Rob Anthony said that you can only have two things in life, **reasons** or **results**. Notice reasons don't count. Folks will always point out reasons on why they are not living their dream, on why they're not manifesting their greatness. They will always be able to point those things out but none of those things count. The only thing that count are results and results don't lie.
They tell it all. Judge a tree by the fruit that it bears not the ones that it might talk about not the ones that it might wish for or think about or firm about but the fruit that it actually bears. So let us look I think that all of us are committed but I think that some of us are producing results in our lives. That level of commitment brings that we particularly don't like or find distasteful.
I don't think that as participant in life you cannot be **committed**. You either commit it to mediocrity or you commit it to greatness. You either committed to being productive or you're committed to being non-productive. You're committed to being happy or you're committed to being unhappy. See, whatever you're doing, however you spend your time, that tells you who you are so think about what it is you like to create in your life experience. Once look at how you commit your time. Once I do an evaluation on how you spend your time, I can tell you exactly what you're committed to.
People that say they have **dreams**, they want to open a business or want to do something differently than what they're now doing. They don't like their jobs are unhappy they're unfulfilled. People say they want to improve their income level. Look at how they spend time. How they spend their time, the commitment of their time, how they use that will really tell the truth people who said i'd like to do better but you don't find them in vocational or technical schools, upgrading their skills and their knowledge. How they spend their time that will tell you what's going on people who say they want to normalize their weight. They want to be healthy but every time you see them, they're eating. That will tell you that they are committed to being obese for the rest of their lives. People tell you they want to stop smoking and they're lighting up at that time. Say I want to stop drinking and every time you are in their face they're reeking with alcohol, that will tell you what's going on. Don't have to listen to what they say. Just watch they do.
**Commitment** shows up in your life in what you do, on the other hand, you can make the commitment to your life but you don't like the results that you have and that you're going to do something about it see that power is available to all of us people who look at life and decide I want something different for myself.
****Carol Hatfield****
Carol lives in Detroit, single mother decided that she wanted to go into her own business. Did not have enough money to do it. She wanted to have a health food store. She sold her car and used the money to start in a little storefront. A little hole in the wall. She rode to work on a bicycle and then when she got enough money, she bought a motor scooter and did that for a long time. She's now a very successful person. She now has three health food stores. She said, *"i****t was hard as a struggle"*** as she said, but ***"I did it"***. She said ***"I made it. The commitment to do it and I did it."***
Why is it that people are **frightened** by commitment, because when you say the word commitment, that intimidates a lot people, why? Because it means you have to deliver, see, most people you ask him, Hey, look, I'd like you to do this, they'll say, **I'll try**. I'll try means that is my escape clause when I don't come through. It's really a polite **NO**. *"I don't have the courage to tell you."* Notice I'll tell you, *"I'll try."*
*"Hey, look at I need you to come to this meeting."*- *"I'll try"*, say what do you mean? You're gonna lean toward the meeting? Try and sit down, you either do or you don't. try and take this pencil out of my hand, you either do or you don't. It's no such this as try. So most people like to use that language. They don't want to commit themselves because **commitment** means among many things: **no excuse is acceptable**. That's what it means. No excuse that excuse. If you decided that you want to do this, if it becomes hard then do it hard. If its difficult so what?
What will happen when you don't keep your commitment. Number 1, it begins to **deplete** your self-esteem and it **erodes** your self-image. It **weakens** your faith in yourself. You don't feel good when you don't keep your commitments. The other thing is that you begin to develop **weak relationship** with people. People begin to realize they cannot depend upon you. They can't rely on you because you won't keep your word. You've established that kind of reputation.
Just think what would your life be like if you decided to **keep** your **commitments**. What will all of our lives be like if we decided to keep our commitments? That we decided to do the things that we said that we were going to do. That we wouldn't even speak it unless we were going to do it.
If we decided just for a week. Just see what your life can be like. Just let's do it for a commitment to make. Make it a seven-day commitment. That I won't say I will do anything unless I'm going to do it and find out what your life will be like. Let me tell you what, if you follow it through, if you keep your commitment to the commitment. At the end of the seven days, you feel **strong** and **powerful**. Because by honoring your commitment, each time that you do, that **empowers** you, whatever discipline that is required. Whatever it is that you must **do**. So I'm suggesting number 1, commit yourself to live in the present. Seize the moment, many of us are not able to move forward and develop and manifest our greatness because we spent so much time looking back of worrying about the future. Seize the moment, you cannot go into the future and manifest your greatness when you have various things in your life that's blocking you.
Let's look at how we can begin to keep our commitments. Remembering what Dr. Robert Anthony said about results, when you keep your commitments you are able to produce some different kinds of results in your life so how can we keep our commitments and do we keep all commitments? No, we don't. You will not be at 100%, however, you will have a greater percentage rate of maintaining your commitments to yourself. Whatever those things might be. If it's going into business if it's changing a habit that you know that works against you. If it's overcoming self-destructive behavior, if it's retraining your thinking, if it's reinventing yourself. If it's trying to begin to design your relationship differently.
All of us have a possibility by focusing and really harnessing our attention and concentrating on it. We really have available to us.
The power to honor our commitments in those particular areas so number 1, make it **priority**. No one would go get on an airplane if you thought your chances of getting there to your destination were as good as your luggage. The reason that you will reach your destination more times in your luggage will is because the airline has made it a priority to move a human beings from one point to the other safely, not send you off to someplace.
The other thing is whatever that you want to do, whatever you want to begin to create and beginning to manifest your greatness and strengthening your level of commitment and it's really exercising your will, find something that you want to do on your goal. One action step but make sure it stretches you, that it challenges you but it's durable that you can do it.
The four-letter word that ends all arguments.
Do you know that in the middle of heated argument there is one word that you can say that would ultimately ends it?
Relationship expert Hal Runkel says that the four letter word to stop any argument is "***OUCH***".
Instead of saying and going your momma this or your momma that, say "*Ouch*". Because you see *"****Ouch****"* is **Kryptonite** for arguments. Because when you say ***"Ouch"***, what you are saying is, I am open enough that you can hurt me, which is an expression of courage, of love and vulnerability.
See just like how fire cannot survive in an environment without oxygen. When you say *"****Ouch"****,*you take the oxygen out and kill the fire of the heated argument and ultimately what you do is you bring a cooling and a calming to your relationship.
Do you agree? Write your comments below. I want to hear your thoughts. ☺☺☺
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Kamusta mga ka read.cash? Kamusta naman ang simula ng linggo niyo? Sana mabuti naman kayo.
Sa totoo lang wala akong maisip na isulat ngayon mula kanina pag gising ko at habang nasa trabaho ako, read.cash ang nasa isip ko. Ang hirap pala magisip ng magiging topic sa isang artiko. Yan ang naisip ko. Pero naalala ko kasi may nabasa ako dito sa read.cash maging totoo lang daw sa sarili. Kaya nag isip ako ng tungkol sa sarili ko.
Kaninang umaga, narinig ko yung mga magulang ko, may pinagtatalanunan. Alam niyo ba kung ano? Pampagawa daw ng tricycle namin. Hindi ko alam kung anong ipapagawa ng tatay ko, mukha namang maayos pa naman ang tricycle. Narinig ko sabi ng nanay ko, mas importante pa daw ba ang tricycle kesa sa pagkain namin sa araw araw at pambayad sa tubig at kuryente. Yan ang pinagtatalunan nila. Iritable ang tatay ko dahil hindi niya mapagawa ang mahal niyang tricycle. Sa totoo lang malaking tulong ang tricycle namin na ginagamit namin sa pansarili naming lakad. Mahirap pag wala kang sariling sasakyan tapos mamalengke, medyo malayo kasi kami sa sentro ng bayan namin, hindi kayang lakarin kaya kailangan talaga may sariling sasakyan.
Hindi ako sumali sa usapan nila dahil may trabaho ako, isa akong call center agent at dahil may Covid eh,maswerte namang pinagayan kaming magtrabaho sa bahay na lang muna pansamantala.
Bilang panganay sa tatlong magkakapatid. Napaka bigat ng responsibilidad ko. Yung dalawa kong kapatid ma sumunod sakin, pareho na may anak. Yung isa may trabaho naman pero hindi sa amin nakatira. Yung isa kong kapatid na lalaki sa kasama namin sa bahay pati yung pamangkin ko, pero walang trabaho.
Sa isang bahay, ang magkakasama, ako,nanay at tatay ko, yung lalaki kong kapatid at yung dalawang pamangkin. At ako lang ang may trabaho. San ba kami kumukuha ng panggastos? Sa akin. Sa sahod ko. San kami kumukuha ng pambayad sa kuryente,tubig at internet? Sa akin ulit, sa sahod ko. Kaya naman ng marinig ko kanina ang pinagtatalunan ng mga magulang ko, pera na naman. Ano iisipin ko, san na naman yun kukunin? Saan pa ba eh di sa sahod ko ulit.
Hayy, hindi ako nagrereklamo. Mahal ko ang pamilya ko. Pero minsan napapagod na din ako. Minsan naluluha na lang ako. Mahirap, mabigat ang pasanin ko. Gusto ko na ding magkaron ng sariling pamilya pero paano? Iiwan ko ang pamilya ko, pano sila kakain? Paano sila mabubuhay na walang tulong ko? Yan ang mga alalahanin ko.
Sa totoo lang nahihirapan na ako sa sitwasyon ko, mahal ko sila pero parang hindi nila naiisip na napapagod na din ako.
Minsan gusto ko naman maging maramot para sa sarili ko. Minsan gusto ko na lang lumayo para maranasan nilang mabuhay ng wala ako. Pero hindi ko magawa. Dahil mahal ko sila. Pero sana maranasan ko din na iparamdam din nila sakin na iniisip din nila ang kinabukasan ko. Gusto ko na sumuko. Pero hindi pwede. Kasi bread-winner ako. 😢
Hanggang dito na lang muna, at tutulo na ang luha ko.
Batang '90s
Kaway-kaway mga batang '90s dyan!
Pansin ko lang, ibang iba na ang mga kabataan ngayon. Napakaluwag na kasi ng mga makabagong magulang ngayon. Kesyo ayaw na daw iparanas ang naranasan nilang hirap at sakit sa pagdidisiplina noon. Masakit daw mapalo kaya ayaw paluin ang mga anak.
Sa sobrang pagmamahal at ayaw masaktan ang anak. Nagiging palasagot at palaban na tuloy ang mga kabataan.
Naalala ko noong kabataan ko. Noong mga panahon na yon, lagi ako pinapagalitan ng nanay ko. Pinupukpok ng sandok sa ulo pag nagkakamali. Lagi mainit ulo ng nanay ko noon, gusto laging malinis sa bahay. Naglinis ka na nga, madumi pa din daw. Sandamakmak na sermon at nagliliparan ang kaldero,kutsara at kung anong gamit ang mahawakan kaya dapat maging kang umilag ka at masasapol ka talaga.
Umaga palang ang ingay ingay na ng bibig ng nanay ko. Alas 4 palang ng umaga, nauna pa siya pumutak kesa manok ng kapitbahay. Hindi na kailangan ng alarm clock. Kailangan gising ka na para magluto ng almusal, magdilig ng halaman, maglampaso ng sahig, kailangan mo yang gawin bago pumasok sa eskwela. Tapos maglalakad pa papasok at pauwi. Hindi naman kasi kami mayaman kaya naglalakad lang kami. Masaya naman kasi madaming kasabay papasok. May kakwentuhan habang naglalakad.
Gusto din ng tatay kong sabay sabay kami kakain sa mesa. Lahat nasa mesa, walang magsasalita habang kumakain. Yung kapatid kong kumakanta habang kumakain, tatanungin ng tatay ko, ***"kakanta ka o kakain?***'", tatahimik nalang ang kapatid ko habang kumakain.
Noong panahon, takot kami sa titser namin kasi pag maingay, kurot sa tagiliran ang aabutin mo. O kaya naman babatuhin ng pambura na may chalk.
Ngayon, ibang iba na, bawal na daw saktan ang mga anak. Di na uso ang tradisyunal na pagdidisiplina, ikukulong na ang magulang o kahit ang mga titser na kumurot sa mga anak.
Ngayon hindi na libro ang hawak ng mga kabataan, mas madalas, selpon na. Madaming kausap kung sino-sinong hindi naman kilala sa personal. Pagkatapos makikipagkita ng patago. Kaya napapahamak.
Elementarya palang ngayon umiiyak na dahil nabigo na sa pag-ibig. Samantalang nung panahon ko'y. Dyolen,teks, luksong tinik, luksong baka, patintero at habulan ang inaatupag namin. Iiyak lang kami pag nasugatan dahil nadapa sa kakatakbo.
Noon ang pangarap ng kabataan, makatulong sa magulang pagkatapos ng pag-aaral. Ngayon, mas iniisip pa kung ilan na ba ang taga hanga niya sa FB, sa Youtube, Instagram, Twitter at kung ano ano pa. Ngayon mas inuuna pa si ML bago ang libro.
Noon,sinusundo kami ng nanay sa labas habang hawak ang tangkay ng bayabas o kaya tingting o kaya hanger pauwi galing sa maghapong pagbilad sa araw. Ngayon, magulang na ang nakikiusap sa anak na lumabas naman para masinagan ng araw. Sayang daw ang bitamina galing sa araw.
Nagbabago nga ang panahon, noon masaya na sa pagtatampisaw sa ilog, sa paggawa ng bahay-bahayan, titser titseran at habulan. Ngayon, hindi na alam kung ano pa ba ang magpapasaya sa kabataan. Madaming kabataan ang kinikitil ang sariling buhay dahil sa depresyon. Noon hindi naman uso ang salitang "depresyon". Pag may problema ang anak,alam ng magulang at magkakasama silang lumulutas.
Ibang-iba na talaga ang panahon. Kung noon ay nagagalit ako sa nanay ko tuwing pinapagalitan niya ako, pinapalo ng kung ano-ano. Ngayong malaki na ako, nagpapasalamat ako sa mga magulang ko. Kung di sila naging mahigpit sa akin noon ay baka napariwara na ang buhay ko. Matatag ako ngayon at nakakaya kong solusyunan ang mga problemang dumarating sakin kesa sumuko at kitilin ang sariling buhay. Sayang. Bukod sa isa itong napakalaking kasalanan, magagamit pa sana ang buhay sa pagbibigay inspirasyon at tulong sa kapwa.
Hinding hindi ko ipagpapalit ang aking mga alaala sa mga modernong gamit ngayon. Mas masaya pa din ang kabataan ko noon kesa sa kabataan ngayon. Bilang magulang diba dapat iparanas sa mga anak kung pano tumayo sa sariling paa? Kung talagang mahal niyo ang mga anak niyo, bigyan niyo sila ng pamanang magagamit nila pag wala na kayo. Hindi habang buhay ay may magulang na laging sasalo sa anak. Kailangan nilang magkaroon ng tiwala sa sarili at responsibilidad.
Sabi nga sa banal na aklat: "***Turuan mo ang bata sa daan na dapat niyang lakaran, at pagka tumanda man siya ay hindi niya hihiwalayan.".***
Salamat sa pagbabasa ng aking akda. ❤️❤️
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Stop Cat-calling
What is cat-calling? For those who are not familiar about what cat-calling is. Let me explain it for you.
If you are a man, cat-calling is an act of whistling that girl or woman just passed by in front of you. It is calling that lady you don't even know, "beautiful", "sexy", or whatever words you are saying that you think is being taken as a compliment. Yes, cat-calling is SEXUAL HARASSMENT.
I really cannot understand what men are doing those for. Is it to get an attention, I don't know.
Do they think they will look cool?
Is it because they want to prove their masculinity?
Why?
Do you think that lady who wore fitted jeggings o leggings for workout is trying to be sexy for you?
Do you think that girl who wore make-up in her face wore it to impress you?
Do you think calling them beautiful and whistling making this young lady to be proud of herself?
You are WRONG.
For a woman to be cat-called is a trauma. It is never a compliment for her. That makes her unsafe. That makes her afraid to walk alone because she might again encounter that jerk who she don't even know and will call her names again.
You don't know how much courage it takes for a conservative woman to walk pass a group of cat-callers? If only that woman would take another route just so she can avoid those bunch of jerks.
It is never easy to be a woman. Man can make it easier for them if only they can feel they are respected whoever she is. What body type she have and what color her skin is. Woman should be respected and never be sexually harassed.
The world is full of hatred and pain. Make a difference.
Stop cat-calling! Stop sexual harassment.
Tag-ulan na naman
Sa nakalipas na mga buwan, naranasan natin ang sobrang init sa Pilipinas. Sumabay pa sa pandemya.
Pagpasok ng Mayo, ayun tag-ulan na. Sa wakas maiibsan na din ang init na nararamdaman natin.
Madami na namang bagyo ang paparating ang sabi ng Pag-Asa. Kaya dapat lagi tayong handa.
Natutuwa din ba kayo na umulan na sa wakas?
Masaya pag tag-ulan. May mga batang nagtatakbuhan sa labas, nagsisigawan habang naliligo sa ulan.
Hindi ko tuloy maiwasan na maalala ang kabataan ko. Gaya nila, masaya din akong naliligo sa ulan kasama ang mga kapatid at kalaro ko.
Tatapat sa alulod ng bubong habang tumutulo ang tubig ulan at isinasahod ang ulo. Takbo duon, takbo dito. Ang saya lang!
Ang saya balikan ng kabataan.
Nung medyo nagkaisip na, nagdalaga na at nasaktan sa pag-ibig. Hindi na ko naliligo sa ulan para magsaya. Hinayaan ko mabasa ng ulan ang buo kong katawan habang tumutulo ang luha.
Minsan naman, gusto mo lang ng makinig sa ulan, hinahayaang tangayin ng ulan ang iyong isipan.
Andyan pa din ang ulan. Nakakaupo sa may bintana, habang hawak ng dalawang kamay ang mainit na kape.
Ang saya ng ulan!
Anong kwentong ulan meron kayo.
Pwede kayo magkomento. Salamat! ❤️
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