Deceiver
Episode 2
‘No no no no don’t go there Danny. It’s dangerous, Danny no.’
I woke up screaming and that was one hell of a dream.
‘Are you okay? Were you having a nightmare?’ asked Hazel worriedly.
‘Can I have some water?’ I said to her ignoring her question.
She grabbed the bottle of water from the floor and opened it for me. She handed it to me.
‘Thank you,’ I said taking it from her and drank it as she was patting my back.
‘Are you okay?’ she asked after I had finished gulping the water.
‘Thank you,’ I responded wiping my mouth and handing her the empty bottle.
She placed it back on the floor.
‘I had a bad dream about my husband. I don’t know it felt so real, it’s like he couldn’t recognize me as I kept on telling him to come to my side cause where he was heading to, it was so dark that I could barely see what was at the front of it.’
‘Hmmm that’s weird. Do you want us to pray about it?’
‘Pray? You know I am not much of a prayer warrior,’ I said to her and she smiled.
‘I will lead the way. You should start praying anytime you feel like it Naledi. The world is never a safe place, spiritually you need to be very strong in this life we live in. you will never know who is always on your side or who is planning something big for you. Not everyone is perfect my love.’
‘Okay Pastor.’
‘I will kneel down and hold your hand. You just sit on the bed,’ she said getting off the bed and walked to my side.
She knelt down on the floor and started praying. Hazel, I honestly don’t know what I ever did to deserve her. She was just so perfect with everything. Though the dream was scarier and I know it meant something. I mean before my father died, I had the exact dream but then Dad didn’t listen to me and that’s when I found him dead the next following day. He had been waving a goodbye at me. I am now worried that something bad might have happened to my husband. I wouldn’t want to think a lot. I will have to keep on praying just like how Hazel advised me too. Let’s just home that everything is okay with him.
I finally fell asleep after that prayer but woke up earlier. Well I had had that dream at around 3 am. Getting off the bed, Hazel was already awake and I had to make the bed.
‘You should have called me,’ she said walking inside the room.
‘You treat me like a queen granny. I also need to help.’
‘Come on. You are pregnant and I want you to rest. Let me finish off, and I pour your water.’
‘I am taking a bath before eating?’ I said with a hint of complaining in my voice.
She laughed.
‘Do you know why I always ask you to take a bath first?’
‘No, I don’t. I always think that you are too smart.’
‘Baby mama no. once you eat and get really full, trust me you will feel lazy to bath.’
‘Of cause that.’
‘Yes that,’ she said with a laugh.
Once she was done, we both headed to the bathroom and I can’t believe she had been helping me to bath. When we were done, she had ironed my clothes. Today I need to go to the restaurant since Hazel is supposed to be at work. We had our breakfast and I washed the few dishes whilst Hazel packed some food for me. Yes, she said that I needed to eat what she had cooked because it was healthy for me and the baby. We walked out of the house and headed to her car which had been parked outside. She opened the gate remotely and drove out of the yard. Her house is so big but she doesn’t mind cleaning it. She doesn’t even have a maid. Well she is like Danny, the trust issues thing. I don’t know if I am the bad one or good one amongst them, I have a weakness of trusting too much you know.
‘If you need anything don’t hesitate to call me,’ she said as we were heading to the door of the restaurant.
She was actually holding my hand. One of my chefs opened it for us.
‘Morning.’
‘Morning and thank you,’ I smiled getting inside with Hazel.
‘Here is your basket of food. Please do make sure she eats,’ she said to the man who had opened the door for me.
‘Yes ma’am,’ he smiled responding to her.
‘And she mustn’t stand at the stove for long. Okay?’
‘Yes.’
‘And make sure that she drinks water.’
‘I will.’
‘And….’
‘Okay enough granny. He will make sure that I do everything. Can you leave now?’ I said gesturing her the way out.
‘Alright my child. I will call you later to check up on you.’
‘Yes granny and I will be expecting your call that later on.’
‘Alright, ciao. I love you,’ she said kissing me on the cheek and headed to the door, she stopped and looked back, ‘Make sure that you eat.’
‘I will do that granny,’ I waved at her, ‘Pheew, she can be a grandmother sometimes.’
‘No wonder you call her that,’ he agreed and we both laughed, ‘But you are very lucky to have her as your friend. She acts like your big sister.’
‘And she is one,’ I said staring at her as she drove off.
I was very lucky to have her as my best friend but she had turned out to be more than that. She was like a sister from another mother you know. I could never trade her for anyone.
‘She is single too,’ I said to him.
‘What’s on the menu?’ he asked changing the subject.
‘I can give you her number.’
‘I will just cook anything,’ he shouted while walking to the kitchen.
Mzi is a very shy guy, no wonder at his age he is still single. Mzi and I are co-partners. I loved him. I told myself that I will take him to my country. He is originally from this country but at the competition he was presenting South Africa. It was a tough competition and he became number 2. I figured out that it could be a successful restaurant if we become partners and add something to the food, a mixture and it was an excellent idea to partner with him. He was an amazing cook, trust me on that one and a very sexy chef. I am married but I need to hook him up with Hazel. I have seen the way he looks at her whenever she comes over to the restaurant. I don’t know why he hasn’t had the guts to ask her out.
‘But she is a nice girl,’ I continued whilst in the kitchen with him.
‘Peel these for me,’ he said handing me the potatoes.
He pushed the chair and took my hand. He made me sit on it but just after placing a pillow. This one is the grandfather, I am telling you. They will make a perfect couple with Hazel.
‘Don’t you like her?’
‘You are not giving up?’ he glared at me.
‘Not with that serious look. Why are you so scared to be in love?’
‘Heartbreak.’
‘What happened?’
‘My fiancée left me for another man when I had travelled for that cooking competition. She sent me a text message just after we had been given a break. I got so distracted and lost that competition to you.’
‘Meaning?’
‘I would have won,’ he said with a smile.
‘Silly.’
‘Anyway from then, I told myself that I will die single.’
‘You are too intelligent and cute to be single. You should find someone soon and get laid too.’
He laughed.
‘I am serious. Where are you even getting it?’
‘I can get it from you right now, right here and from the back,’ he winked at me and bit his lip.
‘Eeeeeew. You crazy man.’
‘Well to be honest with you, I do like your friend.’
‘I have seen the way you look at her.’
‘Yes, she is just humble and friendly. But I am scared that I won’t be giving her my all. I know what happened to her with her ex and I doubt if she is in a position of trusting anyone right now. I am just not ready too you know.’
‘I know and I wouldn’t want to see her getting hurt. But you are a good man and if you like her, do gather up some courage and tell her exactly how you feel. She might accept your request and you two look good together.’
‘Says who?’
‘Me a witness to your wedding.’
‘Isn’t it time for you to be eating your food.’
‘But I just got here now,’ I said to him and he laughed at me, ‘I hate you right now for always changing the subject.’
‘Peel the potatoes and stop talking too much.’
‘If you were not older than me, I would have beat the shit out on you.’
‘If you were not pregnant, I would have made you peel all the potatoes in those 5 sacks.’
He laughed, he enjoys making me suffer but nevertheless I am surrounded by good people. The other chefs arrived shortly and Mzi had to make me rest. I was just sitting in one of the tables doing nothing and granny Hazel had already called me. Business was fine as usual. People love this restaurant you know and our prices are not that expensive. In South Africa, Mzi mostly handles the restaurant since he is from that side but he had been telling me that he wants to move here permanently. Well that could be a good idea since Hazel stays this side. Me and matchmaking people, hilarious right. Time to knock off, Hazel came early and thanked Mzi for taking good care of me. We were now heading to her car when Mzi came calling out her name.
‘I will wait for you in the car,’ I took the car keys and headed to the car.
Oh my, I hope he was asking her out. When I got inside the car, I checked my phone and husband hadn’t called me. I had tried his phone but it seems as if it had been switched off. Hazel came to the car with a smile spreading across her face. She got inside the car and I handed her the keys. I thought she was going to say something since I had been staring at her.
‘What?
‘What did he say?’
‘What would you love to eat tonight?’
‘You bit…,’ I was almost saying but remembered that this is a woman of God, she had already glared at me.
‘You bitch,’ she finished off for me and laughed, ‘he just asked me if I was free tomorrow Saturday. He wants me to come over at his house and taste some new recipe that he would have prepared.’
‘And?’
‘I said yes.’
‘Hallelujah!’ I exclaimed with happiness.
‘And then?’
‘That simple means that he just asked you out.’
‘Did he?’ she asked blushingly.
‘Wait, why are you blushing?’
‘Am I?’
‘You whore. You like him. Don’t you?’
‘I mean he is hot.’
‘And you pretended to haven’t been noticing him.’
‘I only come over to that restaurant to see him, his body and face and lips…’
My goodness, I laughed so hard and here I thought she wasn’t going to be interested. You guys, this is so nice. It’s been long since she got that divorce, I will be so happy if they end up dating with Mzi, he is a very good man indeed. Hazel drove us home and when she parked outside the gate. There was a car which was parked near her gate. Hazel just smiled.
‘Who’s that?’ I asked her.
‘Come see,’ she said opening the car door.
We got out of the car and when the person opened the car door, it was my husband.
‘Babe!’ I exclaimed screaming as if I had last seen him centuries ago.
I hugged him and hit him hard on his back.
‘You were not picking up my calls.’
‘I had put my Zim line, I am sorry.’
‘You didn’t tell me that you were coming back today. Then how did she know.’
‘He passed by the hospital, he thought you were with me and so I had to come and pick you up whilst he drove here.
‘You two. I missed you a lot,’ I said to him.
‘I missed you more and my son.’
‘He missed you. What did you bring for me?’
‘Already?’ he said in a laugh.
Deceiver
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Episode 1
‘Can I ask you something?’ she said.
I was busy eating, nowadays I eat a lot. Why? It’s because I am expecting and so I eat for two. I am 6 months pregnant and this is my first child with my husband, Daniel. We have been married for 2 years and dated for 1 and half a year. We couldn’t wait to be together and so after I graduated he asked me to marry him and I said yes. I am happily married to him, for someone who is an orphan, he treats me well. I was the only child in my family. Mum tried to have other babies, but they all ended up in miscarriage, she died of cancer and dad didn’t take her death very well. After some few months he just died in his sleep and it was concluded that he had died of heart attack.
I don’t usually talk about my parents as it pains me a lot that they were not here for my graduation. Even when I got married, it was my grandfather (from my father’s side) who walked me down the aisle. My grandparents were the one who paid for my tuition fees and I am so lucky to have them in my life.
‘Ask anything sweetheart. I need more food,’ I said handing her my empty plate.
I was sleeping over at her house since hubby had travelled on a business trip. He didn’t want me to be alone or with the maid. Daniel has got trust issues please but I love how he is so over protective over me. The only person he trusts me to be with is my best friend Hazel. He couldn’t even let me go to his parents’ house. I actually get along very well with his mother but he didn’t want me to go there, I don’t know. I think it’s because the woman is his step-mother but she treats me well. I guess Daniel thinks that his mother left because of that woman. I don’t usually ask him about his mother because he hates talking about the story. Up to now I have no idea to what really happened between his mother and father.
‘Thank you,’ I said taking the plate from her.
So Hazel recently got divorced. She was in an abusive relationship and only to find out that her ex-husband had been married before, he killed his wife due to domestic violence. All I can say is that Hazel was very lucky to notice his changes and quickly left him before she would have been killed by him. The husband is in prison, we only thank Josh for putting him behind bars. He is like our lawyer with hubby and he is such a great man. His wife, let me not say much about Palesa, that woman is just so adorable and she opened her own charity organization. I am actually part of it too, as she asked me if I could be part of the project and I agreed. She has got twins, they are so adorable and naughty too. They are both 12 years old now and you can tell by the years that she is a grown up lady and I treat her as a sister, that’s how close I am with her. It’s like my dad once worked for her father and so Palesa’s father was really supportive when I was mourning my father. They are a good family and that’s why I suggested Josh to be our lawyer. He had helped me with getting my father’s death certificate. My grandparents were not familiar with these things. Okay this will be a story of another day,
‘Talk to me. What’s that you wanted to ask me?’
‘Okay, don’t get me wrong but I am more concerned about you. Can you slow down with that food?’
I stopped eating and looked at her.
‘Yes granny,’ I said and she laughed hitting me on my back.
‘Now you can continue.’
‘How much do you trust Stella? I mean she is best friend with your husband, they are co-partners at his company and they travelled together on that business trip. Aren’t you scared or rather feel threatened by her?’
‘Why?’ I asked wiping my mouth.
‘I mean Stella is attractive and when last did you have sex with your husband?’
‘Hazel.’
‘I am just worried. What if she tries to throw herself at him?’
‘Hazel, I don’t know what you are talking about and what made you to have that conclusion but Stella is not that kind of a person. She is actually a good woman and besides she knows that Daniel is married. Danny also knows that Stella is engaged. Nothing will happen to them and this is not the first time they have travelled together. Stop worrying yourself because I am not. I know that you are looking out for me but you are over thinking now. I, myself I am not even worried about anything.’
‘If you say so love but..’
‘No buts, end of discussion. Let’s talk about something else. Can you pass me that pillow?’
‘Why did your husband ask me to babysit you?’
‘Because he knows that I can bother you anytime and he trusts you. He adores you a lot and I know why. Because you are a cool best friend, sister and you will be a good Godmother to this child.’
‘Those sweet words, child please.’
‘I mean it.’
‘Yeah right. Do you need anything else?’
‘Can you please rub my feet?’
‘Naledi Ndlovu, you are a burden.’
‘And I love you more my sister from another mother. By the way how is mum?’
‘Glowing, she has got a new man nowadays.’
‘Ben 10?’
‘Finally no. a decent one, I think a Pastor from some church,’ she said and that made both of us laugh.
‘Your slay queen of your mother dating a Pastor?’
‘The world is about to come to an end.’
‘Tell me about it. I need to visit her some time,’ I said to her.
‘We will go together tomorrow.’
‘Now I understand why you chose to be a doctor. I mean you are so good with this.’
‘Lady.’
‘I am serious, you are doing it more perfect than Danny.’
‘Danny goes to gym.’
‘Yes that’s why his hands aren’t that soft at all. I won’t let him carry my child with those hands he got.’
‘You will be a baby mama drama queen.’
‘I am falling asleep.’
‘Goodnight,’ she said and continued rubbing my feet.
Hazel was the sweetest friend, she was so adorable you know and now I understand why husband of mine liked her a lot. He also helped in bringing down her ex-husband. Hazel’s man was very powerful and I think that’s why he hadn’t been arrested for murder and all the bad things that he did. Anyway I fell asleep, only to wake up the next following day with the smell of some nice food hitting my nostrils. I got off the bed in a yawn and walked out of the room. Hazel’s house was very big. She had made a good name for herself. Not only was she a doctor but she did other things in her spare time that made her a very successful business woman.
‘My favorite chef,’ I said to her whilst walking to the stove where she was.
‘You know I learnt this from you. You are the chef here.’
Yes, I was a chef by professional. I even opened my own restaurant in town and the other one was in South Afrika. It was my mother, she was once a chef and so I learnt all of this from her. She had wanted me to do something else besides cooking but my passion was in the kitchen. I actually won an award in this Afrika best chef competition, I became the first one and won an award.
‘How is it?’ She asked me after making me taste what she had cooked.
I smiled.
‘Perfect, it taste better than mine. I am proud of you.’
‘Thanks, I learnt from you,’ she said to me and went to sit down on the chair.
‘Have you seen my phone somewhere, I need to app husband and ask if he arrived safe.’
‘Hmmm I placed it on the table. Let me go and get it for you.’
‘Thank you.’
She walked out and came back few minutes later.
‘Ohhh there are missed calls from him. Let me try and call him back. Our time and UK isn’t that different right.’
‘Yeah it isn’t.’
‘Okay. I will beep him. He will have to call me back.’
I beeped him and minutes later he called back.
‘My wife.’
‘Husband of mine. How are you?’
‘I missed you last night.’
‘Oh please,’ I blushed and Hazel just smiled at me, ‘how was your trip. Did you arrive safe?’
‘Yes, I did my wife. And did you sleep well without me by your side.’
‘I did, Hazel took your place. She never left my sight.’
‘That’s why I took you there. I know that she will take good care of you. How is she?’
‘She is okay. And Stella? Are you with her?’
‘Oh no, Stella went out for breakfast with her fiancée.’
‘Oh you went with him?’
‘No, he was already here for some things as well.’
‘Awww you must be lonely babes.’
‘No, I am actually watching our wedding videos. I really miss you a lot and I can’t wait to come……Mr Daniel,’ they are here,’ someone said to him, ‘Okay I will be right there. Wife of mine,’ he came back to the phone, ‘Can I call you later? The people I travelled to see are here.’
‘Okay husband of mine, no problem.’
‘I love you and take good care of yourself for me.’
‘I will and you too.’
‘Alright thanks,’ he hanged up and I placed the phone on the table, ‘Auntie Hazel,’ I called out for her name, ‘I am hungry.’
‘Are you done talking to hubby?’
‘Yes, he was asking about you. Why can’t he make you his second wife?’
‘Because you and I are best friends. It will never work. Your water is ready.’
‘Am I bathing first?’
‘You thought you were eating first?’
‘Well yes.’
‘I am sorry baby mama but you have got to bath first.’
‘I feel so heavy,’ I said struggling to get up.
‘You are only 6 months pregnant. What will happen when you 8 months. I might as well start looking for a wheelchair for you.’
‘That might work too.’
‘I will help you bath.’
‘Really?’
‘Yes.’
‘Please remind me not to leave you or break up with you. You are the best thing that ever happened to me.’
‘Oh please. Can we go for a walk after having breakfast? It’s good for the pregnancy.’
‘Yes granny.’
She just smiled and off we went to bath together. If you don’t have a friend like mine, I honestly think you should start looking for one. You won’t find a perfect one but at least you need someone to be there for you. By the way I am Naledi, had I introduced myself? I don’t think so….
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Amy
Found this... Guess you will love this one...let me know if I should continue.
Moment
Life is beautiful, but not always. It has lots of problems you have to face everyday. Don't worry though! All these problems make you strong, it gives you courage to stand alone in future. Life is full of moments of joy, pleasure, success and comfort punctuated by misery, defeat, failures and problems. There is no human being on Earth, strong, powerful, wise or rich, who has not experienced, struggle, suffering or failure. You have to work hard to reach to the highest position. Life is full of paths, you just have to choose the right one. Life is interesting and amazing like the stars up in the skies.
Happiness, sorrow, victory, defeat, day-night are the two sides of the me coin. Similarly life is full of moments of joy, pleasure, success and comfort punctuated by misery, defeat, failures and problems. There is no human being on Earth, strong, powerful, wise or rich, who has not experienced, struggle, suffering or failure.
No doubt, life is beautiful and every moment – a celebration of being alive, but one should be always ready to face adversity and challenges. A person who has not encountered difficulties in life can never achieve success.
Live your life however you want
Have fun! Dance as much you want!
Take risks.. Trust yourself. Believe in yourself....
Damn care about haters! There is so much to do so stop faffing about.
Life is too short to save it for tomorrow.
Don't give up and Hope always!
Love Forever!! Do what your heart says...
DREAM AS MUCH AS YOU LIKE AND MAKE IT TRUE!
YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE SO MAKE THE MOST OF IT.
Thus, life is and should not be just a bed of roses; thorns are also a part of it and should be accepted by us just as we accept the beautiful side of life.
The thorns remind one of how success and happiness can be evasive and thus not to feel disappointed and disheartened rather remember that the pain of thorns is short-lived, and the beauty of life would soon overcome the prick of thorns.
From this i learned awful a lot things. I started to enjoy life instead of listening to sad songs and sitting alone. Happiness came into my life but there is sadness as well. Everyday i used to dress in dull clothes now i love colours i used to hate going out of my house but guess what all these sound outside sounds attractive than sad songs. Rock music is what i listen to now, sometimes sad as well All things in life depends on what your mood and the situation
Those, who are under the impression that life is a bed of roses are disillusioned soon and become victims of depression and frustration. One who faces difficulties with courage and accepts success without letting it go to its head is the one who experience real happiness, contentment and peace in life.
Those, who think, that good times last forever, easily succumb to pressure during difficulties. They do not put in required hard work and efforts because they break down easily.
People die, life changes, people come and go but guess what you have to go with it however much it hurts . You miss people who were in your life, that's the way they remind you that they still exist in your life. I know the feeling of that, I miss my handsome uncle as well but i know we can never meet again. I know he is not here anymore, So what i will still love him the most in my life. People say forget the past, life in present and save the future for tomorrow. I think that is true, but i cannot forget my past, it has all those beautiful moments which mean the world to me. It is the hardest thing but i just try try try and try. Don't give up or lose hope on anything.
Life has not been a bed of roses for them. The adage ‘Uneasy lays the head that wears the crown’ has been rightly used for people, who are successful and are enjoying power and authority.
To sum up, life is beautiful just as roses but it has challenges which are like thorns and have to be faced and overcome by all. Those, who accept these, challenges and succeed, are the ones, who know how to live life in its true sense. Thus, enjoy life but also be prepared to bear the pricks of pain.
@HappyBoy @Crownofbeauty @Gaftekloriginal @Amazing-grace Thanks for the encouragement, advise and check up... I loff you 🥰🥰🥰
Who am I...
I am a girl and that is all the facts and stats that I will be mentioning in this who am I article. I won’t be talking about where I come from, who are my parents, which school I study or what class am I in or what my age is. Because these are just things that just represent me but not define me. My character and persona is what defines me and hence in this entire who am I essay, I will be talking about my character, personality likes and dislikes.
I am an ambivert, which means I enjoy socialising with people once in a while and at the same time I also enjoy being alone, at the comfort of my own company. This nature of mine has helped me in my studies as well as free time. In case I find a subject to be difficult, I and my friends do group study and have fun while doing so. At times, when I prefer to be alone, I try to learn some new habit like reading a book or learning a how make new things.
I am a kind person by heart and I intentionally never try to hurt people., as I said at the beginning of this “who am I article”, I am an empathetic person with no ego and attitude problems. I can gel well with people and my friends like me. But, like every human being, I too have some bad qualities. I usually get angry at my mother whenever she makes potato because I don’t like potato and sometimes waste the food that she has cooked for me. I bite my nails which is an unhealthy habit. I am a person who works hard and is trying to improve myself.
Well, people say I’m naturally quiet. This is partially true. While I may come out as shy and reserved to people who don’t know me, I’m actually quite talkative. The reality of the matter is I rarely make the first approach to talk to strangers. Therefore, I’m usually a lone wolf in social settings, unless my pack decides to accompany me.
But, when a person approaches me, I’m very friendly and when the stranger is patient enough s/he may witness my jovial side. Not to be mistaken as a social reject, but my lack of interaction is not a weakness or a deficiency. It is just that I dislike engaging in small talk. I enjoy intelligent conversations and these are rarely found in social settings.
I hate conforming to social norms. I don’t go around breaking rules for the sake of it. However, I cannot be coerced to do something just because everybody is doing it. I live my life the way I want it to be. I love thinking for myself and making my own decisions. The mob mentality is not for me. This is probably the reason why I have very few friends. I only associate with people who respect me and trust my decisions. Large crowds are usually accompanied by too much negativity, back biting and dishonesty. I actually feel lonelier in crowds than when I’m by myself.
I’m very loyal to the people in my inner circle. Loyalty is probably my biggest virtue. I give it to the fullest and also expect the same from the people I give it to. I show utmost care and love to the people that matter to me. I will do anything in my power to keep them happy. I am also slow to anger and can tolerate whichever is thrown at me for some time.
I tend to overlook the first instances of misbehavior. However, if the person is persistent with it, then I give them a piece of my mind and avoid them entirely. It is actually hard for someone to piss me off to the point that I don’t want to associate with them anymore. However, if such a point were to reach, then I would never forgive him/her even if it was the last thing for me to do on earth.
I’m also very funny to people who have a knack for intelligent humor. My jokes go over the heads of many people, because they do not understand the intellect behind them. To my friends however, they can’t get enough of them. I never make obscene or racial profiling jokes, because I know the repercussions that they may have on people around me.
What I dislike the most in life is dishonest people. With dishonest people, you can never know what they are planning for you. Dealing with hypocrites is very difficult, because they trick you into letting your guard down and you become very vulnerable. They will attack when you are down or when you least expect it.
The worst thing is that we are always surrounded by them. I’d rather come face to face with a killer, than be stabbed in the back by a pretender. I also dislike uncleanliness, both physically and spiritually. People should keep themselves and their immediate surroundings clean. If a person cannot keep his/her body clean, how is he/her going to keep his/her spirit clean? The body is the temple of God and God cannot live in a dirty environment.
Answering the question “who am I” is quite complex, because our lives are very wide that there are areas in our lives we have no knowledge of. Sometimes, we do not see ourselves the way others see us. For instance, we may think we are confident, whereas the people around us feel that we are too proud and arrogant. Furthermore, our behaviors, interests and other things that define us may change after a while.
@Damiedeola