Do we really need a partner to be happy?
This is a common belief but it's not always the truth. You should know that happiness comes from within, however, your well being is not another person's responsibility either. It's yours to take care of yourself even if that means you need to be independent and make your own decisions.
The quest for a fulfilling relationship often makes us think we’re going to need to be strong and independent. We need to stand on our own two feet, free from any reliance on others, right? But if you believe that kind of thinking, then you're missing out on some very concrete realities about what really happens in a healthy relationship with another person.
This is true. Although, I could possibly be missing out on something because I've never had a relationship that lasted more than a few months before it was over. Maybe we aren't meant to get married or have a family someday and that may be sad but at least I don't need you to make me happy. You're there for me when my friends don't understand or constantly tease me or make me feel like crap because of how much they love someone else but they can't see their way to loving you back.
Condependency
You’re probably wondering how someone could stay in a relationship without becoming codependent. To me, it sounds like an impossible goal: we’ve all heard people say that love can heal all wounds and take away all pain. They also say it’s the most magical feeling in the world, and that sticking around for long-term happiness is one of the most important parts of helping your partner feel like he’s loved.
Yet, there is something else that biology says about our relationships: we do need others. The short answer is no, because as much as we tell ourselves we don’t need anybody, biological differences tell a very different story.
*Attachment Theory believes that once you become attached to someone, the two of you form one physiological unit. We’re no longer separate entities—instead, our partner regulates our heart rate, breathing, blood pressure and levels of hormones in our blood as well as our psychological and emotional well-being.*
No matter how independent we are, when we fall in love it becomes hard to be objective. When we realize our partner is someone who can make us happy, then all too often we feel compelled to do what he or she asks of us. You might have to give up your old life, you might have to move away from family and friends, or even change your career path. When we choose someone special, powerful and often uncontrollable forces come into play—new patterns of behavior emerge regardless of how independent we are or how strong our conscious wills are.
Dependency always exists, even if you're not looking for it. If a situation occurs that makes one partner dependent on the other, this dependency can become a “trap” because of the power differential between the partners.
Dependency has become a harmful word that causes us to avoid responsibility and assume the role of victim. Let’s not! We are all dependent on each other for survival and meaning, but we must determine our own sense of worthiness and surrender to the power of connection in order to be truly free.
The most celebrated advances in evolutionary biology have been ones that demonstrate the physiological benefits of the human couple becoming one physiological unit. For example, if a man and woman are fighting and their blood pressure spikes, that’s good for the survival of their offspring. If a man and woman are upset with each other, they can physically help each other cope with stress; it’s also good for the survival of their offspring. In sum: when a couple makes love, they are not just sex partners—but also partners in life.
***Codependency*** in relationships often happens when one partner requires more attention, support and validation than the other partner. It can become a struggle for both partners, but it's also something that can be better understood and addressed, together. If you're in a relationship with someone like this, learning to listen to them better and meet their needs will likely help.
***We need to be honest with ourselves and ask ourselves: can this person provide what I need in order to be happy? And if it turns out that they can’t, which is okay and it happens, it’s better to determine that early on, because if our needs are not met, we cannot be truly happy.***
Random Thoughts : Self
You cannot downsize your dreams to fit your reality. It’s a waste of time, energy, and effort. Your beliefs are your keys to unlocking the door to success. Beliefs define who you are. Make them more powerful and precise by choosing beliefs that match the desires for success that you have created in your mind.
Do you ever wonder if this world is just a dream? When someone looks at you, do they see the real you or your life story? There are no great days in the past and only small ones in the future, but there are great days ahead.
Today you have the opportunity to make a difference in someone else's life. Go out and have hope!
Whether you are in an old building or a new one, it is your choice to make. You can create a space that you love and nourish yourself by making choices that keep you feeling good.
Your life is going to be okay, even if you don't feel like it. There are a lot of things that you can control. Your emotions, your actions, and the state of your mind are the only things that you can create.
Have you ever noticed that the very person who is consistently unconfident, usually feels he has nothing to offer or lacks something? He sees his limitations and believes he can do no right thing.
One of the greatest lessons that I have been taught is that, if you want to be loved, be yourself. If you are not happy with yourself, then how can others be happy around you? If you do not like yourself or view yourself as important, how can others view you as important? Self-love is essential to being in love with life and living it to the fullest.
The most important thing in life is to be a positive person, to live with passion and spirit. All that glitters is not gold and if you're looking for something then you will attract it. If you want a love partner, a great career opportunity, or another relationship with the right people, then you must be able to show up as the best version of yourself. Be that person and attract what you desire.
We’re all human. We’re all capable of mistakes, self-sabotage, and obsessing about the past. But if you can find a way to work through it and think about what you want from your future, you can get there.
Think about it. If you’re working hard and doing your best, but people think you’re not good enough or smart enough to be there, does that take the fun out of your job?
Your perception of who you are can be changed, with effort and the right mental attitude.
Don’t let fear hold you back. Go for it, and if it doesn’t work out, then it was meant to be. When things don't go as planned, or you run out of time, remember what could go right. You'll feel better about yourself, and let yourself relax so you can focus on the task at hand.
Falling down is an accident. Staying down is a choice. You can choose to give into the pressure, or you can make it stronger by pushing through it. You can choose to hide away from the situation or you can face it head on. This shirt is for those who want to make a difference, who are ready to stand up for themselves and push through the difficult times.
Life's not about regrets -- it's about what we learn from our experiences. If you regret something, chances are that it has something to teach you and could help improve yourself in one way or another.
We all have a story of who we are, but sometimes that story can be changed. Make a difference today in the lives of others and see your story unfold!
I'm a Photographer and Writer. Hello, I'm new here.
Hello, I am CryptoSda, a Filipino. I just discovered this platform recently and I want to try it.
I'm a photographer, video editor, writer and a graphic designer based in my hometown. I'm interested in exploring the world of crypto - something I've been getting into more and more recently.
I really enjoy the world of writing and photography. I've been writing since my college days, but mostly about portraits and landscapes. Recently, I discovered about cryptocurrency and it has become one of my passion to write about this topic in fun way.
sample of my work
I've written a little bit of poetry, short stories, and articles in my past. I especially love writing about food. I do writing as a part time job at home before, and I really enjoy it. With the latest trend of food photography, landscape photos and portrait photo.
As a photographer and writer, I always want to express myself through my photos. Well, I'm not happy because my parents think that my expertise is not something useful for them. But I am sure that many people would like to use this expertize in their life.
The truth is, because of them and the way they want things to be, I do not get everything that I want. I will never know how certain things would have turned out if I was supported by my parents. Okay, that's enough. I know i'm a little bit too late here in this platform but i still want to continue my journey here. I also want to learn more about bitcoin cash and other cryptocurrency.
But for now, what I know about Bitcoin Cash is Bitcoin Cash is a refreshing, free-thinking cryptocurrency created by Satoshi Nakamoto that could change the world as we know it. The value of the bitcoin cash (BCH) will be determined by the market. Bitcoin was once a small and obscure currency until it became one of the most popular assets traded on major exchanges. Before creating BCH, its creators made sure that this new digital currency would provide increased privacy and better security than what was possible with payments over the Internet."
It's a direct alternative to both the current international settlement system and fiat currencies such as the US Dollar, it enables online payments to be sent directly from one party to another without going through a financial institution. Bitcoin Cash Is a Safe and Secure Way to Make Payments Online.
I am also interested in learning about other cryptocurrencies and how they work. Bitcoin is a type of cryptocurrency that is widely used throughout the world. It was the first digital currency to be created and it has gained a lot of popularity over time. I’d like to learn more about Bitcoin and other cryptocurrencies such as Ethereum, try it out for myself and see for my self what all these coins are about.
So I was wondering what would be the best way to learn about them? Is there any course that covers the basics of cryptocurrencies such as Bitcoin, Ethereum, Dash and Ripple. I want to learn more about these coins so can you recommend some resources? Please let me know in the comments.
I think that’s it for now. I love to write, and I'm so happy to have the opportunity to share my thoughts about life with others. Please let me know if there's anything you'd like to know about me, and I hope we can become friends. *Do you have any suggestions for a newbie like me here in this platform? If you have any questions or suggestions, don't hesitate to tell me.*
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