Sign to change your Career
Well, actually this is not base on my own experience since I was working hard and making sure that I was happy to my work environment, it just that-one of my friend Benny (Melissa's cousin) seems too tired to his career and I know that he is not happy anymore to his work. We all can tell about it. So as his friend I asks him, why he looks so tired without even doing anything yet and look so down. You know minna, there are things that I realized when you have to change your Career and find a new profession that will probably makes you happy again.
I will tell you some sign that you should change your Career but it still your choice not mine, it just that, if you are not happy to do it and if you think you are not growing because you think your work is not helping you out of the box then why not? You cannot tell what is in the other door if you keep yourself lock to the door you're in without even moving or unlocking and knocking for the other door. Try to make things better for you and for the company, how can you help the company if you cannot help yourself right?
1. Working out of Salary
We all do this, don't we? We are working because we are expecting to get the salary, but the question is, are we still happy doing our work? Or we are just working because of our salary? Employees and workers are like that, we cannot find the happiness inside the working area except the people around us, but what if, people around us makes us down as well? It is not imposible to have this so called 'rival', people love competing to each other, people love to be on top than to others, have anyone of you know someone who does this kind of stuff? Or it was just in our company? This is also the factor why some of us, triggered to go to the work place for the salary, they wanted to end the working hour fast so that they can't see the so called 'nagmamagaling' na co-worker.
2. You don't want to do it again
I know someone like this, one of my co-worker said to me that, "why this work repeating again and again, It was done yesterday yet, I did this again? I can do this even my eyes closed" you see- from this line, you can tell that they don't want to do it again and again they wanted something new, they wanted to do some new things without even repeating the things they've had done yesterday. They were not looking forward to do the work again and again. If you are not looking forward to do it again, you will get tired so easily and you will be bored as if you are not satisfied to your work. This has the connection with number (1) one, you're also doing it because of the salary, because you're expecting for the salary.
3. You are not satisfied
If you think that you are not satisfied no matter what you do, even if your salary is bigger than anyone else but still when you got home and when you go to your work place you feel not satisfied, may be it's time to change your Career. You were just making the things hard for yourself. That's what happened to Benny, he feels like not want to do his work because he don't feel satisfied, he was just looking for something new, he even told me that, his salary is more than enough for him but he feels still not satisfied. He was just feeling tired and bored.
4. You are not growing
Lastly, if you think you are not growing anymore, if you feel like you were stock from the bottom and don't know how to get up again because of your dissatisfaction and because of your work that didn't even help you grow. Maybe it's time to change your Career, you have to seek your real passion, you have to seek your real purpose, it is not just about the money, it is about your real happiness with your passion at work.
I am not saying this to make you quit to your work, I was just giving you some sign and make you realize how important of you as the part of the company, employees/workers are the backbone of the company, without you company will not work well and company cannot work alone, they need you, they need the employees/workers who can work with them with passion and with interest.
That's all minna-arigathanks for reading my article for tonight. I'm still working for some time to write more article to give you advice and story but kinda busy because of work. Hope you enjoyed reading this one as well. ^^
Habits that keeps you POOR
Happy Sabado De Gloria to all Filipinos out there minna, for my today's article I will give you some tips to make your life with easy living and the habits that will make you think to stop to save and earn somehow. Actually these habits for sure you are all quite familiar with it. May be I was not the one who did this kind of habits, some of us but not generally speaking. Let's now start first thing and foremost, I will be gladly if you read this article with full attention and will make sure that you get enough message to my article.
1. Alcohol
Whose here does not drink alcohol? Who are amongst here still not taste the sweetness of wine? Have you ever thought to not drink alcohol to save some of your money? Or you just want to drink alcohol because you want to celebrate something? It's either a birthday party or any other occasions. It is not bad to drink alcohol or wine because I did it occasionally hehe but for some people who makes the alcohol like a water, I tell you what, stop doing like that, alcohol is not that good in anybody's health. Your money is as valuable as your life: how so? We cannot live without the money, money is part of our necessity to be exact. Stop buying too much alcohol just because you think it's right and you think it makes you happy, just save some of your money and earn by not wanting to drink too much of alcohol.
2. Smokes
Same goes to this one, actually I'm kinda undecided which one has the most bad effects to human's health and which one is the most habits that we humans are having. So I made the alcohol to be on the top, not because I love drinking more than smoking. Yep, I do smokes, I do drinks, to be honest, I always drink whenever I am happy or sad, whenever I am frustrated or not, but I don't smoke too much, I only consume for 3-4 sticks of cigarettes for a week. But if you smokes 1-2 packs a day, what do you think will happen? You are not just wasting your money for you own desire, you surely will waste your money for your hospital bills for later scenario. I am not stopping you for your own desire but just think about it even just a little, you can smoke but not too much, save some of your money, imagine your 6$ if you just smokes a small amount of cigarettes you can save 4-5$ a day or a week.
3. Gambling
Does anyone think that gambling is a bad habit? My intuition said nah, actually we thinks that gambling are goods because we can win more than the money we had, we can earn more than the money we earned, but what if the bad luck is in the way? Does anyone still thinks gambling is good? Actually I, myself once in the situation were I bet all the money I've had in the casino, I was addicted to the point I forgot what my real purpose are. So when I got nothing left, I regret, I regret for what I did, imagine, I only realized that after I lose all the money. Just think of it as a lesson, but sometimes, some gambler are not easy to give up, they wanted some sweet revenge and get the money back to them, but you were just in the win-lose situation, you cannot predict anything, you might think you'll win if you try again but you might as well lose again. Just stop and enough for your desire to win as you cannot tell what will happen next.
4. Needs over Wants
Which one you think is most important in life? Was it your needs? Or was it your wants? People now a days were prioritizing the wants instead of needs. Just because we want to be in to the new era and wanted to be in some so called "uso". We forgot what is necessary and what are your needs in life. We just want to flex something new and after that, we are quite tired to that thing we bought after the flexing. What about the money you earn for almost half a year just to buy that desires of yours? Don't you think its too much for yourself just because you want to be in to the new class world? I didn't asks you to stop from doing that but please, know your limit and know your situation, isn't it better for you to just keep the money and save for it for the future than to buy the things that you only want, so others start to envy you? Save more than you needed to, that will be the answer to buy your wants in the future.
5. Eating out Daily
I am not saying that eating out is the bad habit of us, but daily? Seriously? Are your parents billionaires? Treating everyone outside daily? Wow, that's kind of a bit you know. Actually, I myself hate doing that since I am introvert, I always said to my friends that we should eat to my house, and will cook for them. That's a more way to save some money than to eat outside daily. I may be smoke and drink some alcohol but I don't eat outside that much. I can cook something which some high class restaurant cook, I'm not boasting myself but I am independent woman since 5, you can try me if you want haha. Keep in mind that it is not necessary to eat outside just because they asked you to treat them, it is not that bad to say no for the good reason.
**Remember:** *think before you act as you cannot tell the future. The money you earn from working hard, spend it wisely or save it for the better future. Don't withhold yourself to earn it'll help you real big time in the future. :)*
May be this is enough for today's article minna? I have so much more to say but it's too long that you might not want to keep reading my article hehe. These 5 habits are just the common habits that we have had encountered for daily lives, there still more but I won't keep you hold hehe. Hope you like my article today. Gambatte minna ^^
A Filipino Tradition
Konnichiwa minna-san, how are you all today? I think I find my inspiration to write another article again for tonight. Actually I've been looking and thinking what and which article I should write for almost 3 days haha, I'm not good at writing but I do love writing and giving some inspirational message yet full of story. I want to discuss now some of the tradition that filipino have had since 16th-17th century, actually I am not that quite familiar to it since I was not able to see it since I was young but, I learnt it from books and from my school, I am not that "walang alam" to not know anything, tho. my parents forbid me to go to school but I did everything to go to without their knowledge hehe. Because if I want something I will make sure to have it even everyone is against to it.
Who's here are Filipinos? Month of April is so much to celebrate for, there is the "Day of Valor" that was on April 9, followed by "Maundy Thursday" today's happening April 14 then "Good Friday" April 15, followed by "Black Saturday" April 16 and "Easter Sunday" April 17.
Day of Valor (9th of April)
Who's here celebrating the day of Valor? Also called 'Bataan Day' Actually some of filipino might not know about it since some of us already forgot about the heroic things that happened from the past, it can be also a regular day now a days, but for me, I really love this day. 9th of April, because this shows how the Filipino kept fighting despite all the struggles they have had in life, no matter how far it gets, no matter how hard it might be, they did not stop until they reach their destination. Reading the story of the 76,000 Filipinos who force to walk 150km without even rest gives me a goosebumps. You see over 20,000 of Filipinos died in that death March, how can we not remember that happenings? I did love this day not because of too many people died but because the thought of the survival, the thought of struggling that no matter how hard to get there they will surely survive. This is the reason why we have now the parade by barangay's, showing the sacrifices and showing the integrity we had as a Filipino that keeps kicking to.
Maundy Thursday (13th of April)
Is it nows happening , who is not remembering this? This is the day where our Christ last supper with his apostles/disciples. Maundy Thursday reminds us that we should treat each other the same and equals no matter what. It demonstrate the humility and an entreaty towards each one another. Actually we all know that Jesus foretells his death, saying he will eat no more until the kingdom of God is fulfilled. It also marks an act of betrayal. "One of you will betray me," Jesus says and that's how Judas betray Jesus but he still forgave him and treat him equal, so why we humans can't do that? Is it because we are just a mere human?
Good Friday (15th of April)
Actually this good Friday is the Christian holiday, why I like Christian is not because we vow in the figurine, or santo niño but because we remembers and acts what happened to Jesus according to bible, although Iglesia ni Cristo did not know that but still some of them respect our beliefs and so called "panata". Good friday is to commemorate the crucifixion of Jesus and his death at Cavalry, the sacrifices of his for his people, and that's how much he love his people good or bad, he still forgive and do everything to save us.
Black Saturday (16th of April)
We Christian Filipinos believe that in black Saturday we are not allowed to do the swimming, it is a traditional taboos for us since it is the day of morning for Jesus our Christ. This day commemorates the day that Jesus Christ lay in his tomb prior to his resurrection on Easter Sunday. Actually on black Saturday we can be able to eat meat but still black Saturday is the reflection and thanksgiving for the sacrifice of our Christ (Jesus). Another way Christians commemorate, is by eating fish on Good Friday because we believe since Jesus died for our sins by sacrificing his flesh on Good Friday, followers should avoid consuming meat on this day. And so Christ followers awaits for his resurrection outside the tomb.
Easter Sunday (17th of April)
Easter Sunday, also known as Resurrection Sunday, is a Christian holiday that celebrates Jesus Christ rising from the dead. Jesus was resurrected three days after the date of his burial, which took place on a Friday afternoon, after he was crucified by the cavalry. The Easter holiday has developed a range of more modern traditions, such as decorating eggs, making nests and chicks out of craft materials and gifting each other with chocolate eggs <--- have anyone of you tried this new tradition? This is now how we celebrate the eater holiday.
Over all point of view: we Christian Filipinos has so much celebration that we have celebrating for. It is not just this month but as well as for another month but this month of April is one of my favorite month not because I am out of work for holidays but because remembering the events that happened from the past and how we can cope up for it and how'ld we reflect ourselves, he died for our sins. We shall not forget that one. That's all minna. Hope you enjoy your holiday today and don't forget the traditions we have had since 16th-17th centuries. We bond to it and we will make it till the end hehe. Gambatte :)
Winning the Battle against Envy and Hatred
Have you ever feel envy? Have you ever feel angry? Have you ever make yourself drown from distressed? Konnichiwa minna-san, how are you today? I've been thinking for what article I'm going to write next, actually I am quite free tonight since it's my day off tomorrow, I just want to do the free-writing now , give some advice, and give a message to my article tonight. I might not be good at explaining things since I was young but I hope you can make my writing a hope to remember hehe. For my article, I want you to fight the battle against these two negative emotions, I can't say it is easy because I tell you what, it wasn't as easy as it says, I experienced it after all. When a person can't handle these emotions they might do evil things to another person.
Let me give you an example, and a story, my story to be exact; I was envy from my siblings not just because they are more important than me but also because my parents give them the love they ever asked for and me? Nah forget it, I even offered everything I could just to make them feel how sorry I was and how sincere I was but they still not give me attention and my siblings? They didn't do anything too, they can't offer what I can. That time I asks my parents, was my offer and sorry was not good enough? Why they can't just accept me? Actually, even if it's good enough my anger to my siblings and to my uncle wouldn't appeased. Whatever I do good things they doesn't care, they only care if I make a mistake, and they will punish me. You see my parents always makes me feel so guilty, guilty for the sin I didn't even do, I was so angry to the point I wanted to do evil things, I was so envy to the point I wanted to snatch one of my siblings life. Have you ever heard the word, every sin has its equal punishment? I thought it was not true since I only suffered and the people who are real guilty were just lingering around and having fun. But it's all in just a perfect time. They may be have fun today but tomorrow they will be punish more than they deserve.
I will give you some ways how to win the battle against your envy and hatred :) this actually works since it works to me hehe.
Change your thought of yourself
You have something that someone does not have
Be with someone who has a good heart
Be happy no matter what
One reason why we envy someone or other people even our sibling is because the thought to ourself, tell me, have you ever contented for who you are and for what you are? Tell me honestly! because I wasn't; whatever I do, I do think of myself that I wasn't good enough, I strive for the things I thought I could achieve. I was focused to the point I forgot to love myself and to respect my self, I was so focused to the things that I thought it could help me but it wasn't. Stop envying to someone who you think can make better than you. You are talented, you are more than good enough, you are unique in many ways. Your envy for them would nothing good for you, you only making yourself worsen just what I was before. Just keep in mind
Your life is worthy you have to stop to lived like everyone else. :)
Next is that always think that you have something that someone doesn't have, count it in, count it as your achievement, count it as yours and not somebody else. You might be always think that yours is still not enough and theirs are more than enough but remember what I said from my other article? "You are you and not someone else" yours are yours, live a life that belongs to you and not belongs to someone else. You are talented enough and wise enough to understand yourself.
Never compare yourself to someone else, you have something than someone doesn't have remember that
The third one, don't make yourself suffer to someone who has nothing good to you, always be with someone who can help you win the battle against your envy and hatred to someone who made you suffer, they will give you the advice you never had before. Take them as your strength and concur your weakness.
Spend your time with them and your spirit will become gratitude
The last one is that we forgot to be happy because we've been envy for the things that we can't have and we can't get, we forgot to be grateful for the things we have had, because we wanted more and more. Actually tho, it is not bad to ask for more because I myself even ask for more not for myself but for the person who helped me to get out from the suffering I once had in my life. This is the thing I forgot, I forgot to be happy, I was focused to give the best since I was young but I thought it could help me. I just make myself suffer more, and that envy and hatred of mine become bigger. So minna never forget to be happy no matter what.
Smile makes the things lighter :)
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That is all for tonight's article everyone. Hope you get what I want to tell, and hope you get something from this article. Just do whatever it takes to win the battle and make that you weapon to concur the day. :) Gambatte minna-san.
Life Saver
Do you believe in ghost? Do you believe to something that some people can't see? Do you believe that somehow ghost can save you from danger? Konnichiwa minna-san, just want to share this true story of one of my friend, actually I do not have many friends just few of them the rest is just acquaintance. I only have I think 4 of friends hehe, I am not that friendly tho, I don't know how to talk first and make the situations awkward haha. One of them has this so called "third eye" she's 4 years younger than me. I met her in my college life, she's a loner too like me, she don't know how to approach someone too like me, we have too much in common that's what I like her, it just that her story is different from mine.
She got bullied from elementary till she got in college because they think she was weird and creepy, honestly speaking tho, she does look creepy because of her state that time, a black long hair with black dark eyebags, she doesn't know how to look presentable, she's always talking with herself, which I find it really creepy, but then she became my friend hehe, she's really good tho. you really can't judge someone base on their physical appearance. After my siblings knew that I was studying in a public university, and that my parents locked me in the warehouse, my friend (Veronica) who has third eye knew about it, even I haven't told it to her. She just knew, I don't know how, but she said she has many friends since she was young, they've been friends,. I was so confused that time, I don't know what she's talking about. She told me her story yesterday night that's why I want to share it here, just to make you know that not all ghost should be afraid of, some of them can be also your friends.
Story of Veronica
When she was in elementary, her classmates always makes fun of her, there is no single time that she didn't get bullied, but she didn't mind them, she doesn't care what they talk about her, at the young age, she seen many people who died, who will die next and what can be their death case, hearing that from her makes shiver from fear for what my death looks like, but she just laugh at me, she said it's not my time yet, she still can't tell my future. I don't know if I will believe to her or she just making fun of me because she knew that I am scared of anything that cannot see. Let's go back to her story, there is someone who didn't stop making fun of her until they got in high school, he kept bullying her, he kept calling her "freak" and "creepy woman" but she doesn't care, she still kept herself shut and didn't mind that classmate of her. She's also a working student, one time when her shift was done, she was walking alone, around 11:26 pm, there still some people in the street but not much, someone suddenly grab her arm, and she knew that she was in danger, she's shaking from fear, she was begging to let her go, she was shouting that time but no one heard her, she was crying for her life, she thought that time that she was too young to die, (I interrupt her story tho, I asked her if she can't see her future death but she answers me with no) and that someone who grabbed her arm was her classmate who bullied her from elementary till highschool; she was begging to him to let her go but he seems not to hear her, and when that guy tries to harras her, she says something I don't understand, I think she was saying something only her can understand, and she said that man who tries to harras her died suddenly, I was so shock from the what she said. She told me it was her friend who killed him, she run, until she can't smell the blood. I asked her if she told to the police what happened that time but she said no because she was afraid she might go to jail, so she said nothing, she kept herself shut just like what she used to be. I don't know what to say that time. I can't react I was so shock.
When she was in college, that when I met her, may be that is the reason why she looked so messed despite of her beauty. That indecent makes herself guilty for the rest of her life, she just don't want to die and got harras from someone who bullied her since elementary. I don't know if it's only a self defense or not besides she's not the one who did it, nah? It's either her who died or him. When I met her she doesn't look like herself, something is up to her but that doesn't mean I don't want to be her friend, there is something with her that keeps myself towards to her. We have so much in common but I just can't believe her story. Not because I don't believe to a ghost but because it's too unrealistic events, nah? I was so focused to her story to the point I forgot to ask if she thinks that her friend who I can't see a good or a bad one. She just said that, her friends are her life saver, because they did not left her when no one is with her, life saver when someone tried to harras her, life saver when someone tried to kill her.
Well, one thing for sure I can say, you shouldn't judge someone who can see something someone couldn't see, scientifically speaking ghost is not real, it just that our thought who made them up because we are too stressed and too depressed but if you are not in that someone shoes how could you say so? You don't even experience their experiences, you don't even know what anxiety could that bring to them. Honestly, tho. I myself don't believe to a ghost but I don't judge to those who has "third eye" because I think it's so cool to see something like that and to talk to them, to know what happened to them why they die, how they die or who cause them to die,. Veronica is one of my dearest friend, she knows me very well, I just don't know how maybe because of it. May be for others having a "third eye" is a curse but for her it was a blessing in disguise.
That's minna, I just can't keep this story long haha. Actually it is not just a story, it is a life story and true story of one of my friend Veronica. Thanks for reading :)
Smile
Konnichiwa minna-san, how are you today? I was just wondering what to write for today's article, was just thinking if my article gives you a positive vibes or not. For today's article I want to write how powerful the smile could give to us, I want to know if someone smile gives you a delightful feelings, and I want you to realize how smile could make someone's atmosphere become good for the whole day.
You see, people are long deprived of seeing smiles during this pandemic even at our present times but we can still smile even with the facemask on. I just realized that when one of my co-worker said to me that why I was smiling even they can't see it because of my facemask, and yah, I kinda felt it weird but then, I said why not? Smile gives us a positive vibes, we've been too much hardship not only from work but also from our home, doesn't we deserve to smile and give each other a good atmosphere? Smile is like a magic that creates and radiates to someone else as a friendly gesture. Certainly it easy to smile when you feel good and when you are at easy situation but one thing I like for being a Filipino is that no matter what the situations are and no matter what hardship we are in, and no matter how long we can get through to that suffering we still smile, we keep smiling and gives a wonderful and positive vibes to anyone. When I was young I long forget to smile, when I was in my teen I was seldom smiling, and when I was in my current age I realized how wonderful to smile, how important your smile for someone else. Just your smile is enough to make someone keep move forward.
You see, I write this article as connection to my previous article with encountered to Ms. Donna who gave me a delightful feelings that until now I can't forget about her. She said "feel free to smile, it cost you nothing but it can cause someone else a good atmosphere, do not withhold your smile to anyone else" how wonderful to heard that to her, how wonderful to heard something I thought I couldn't give. So minna, hear me out, let us therefore take time to smile no matter how hard our situation, you can do it, you certainly can do it to get through just keep smiling, smile until your heart reach it content.
Remember: you can smile when you can't say a word, you can smile anytime anywhere. There are reasons to smile and there is no reason to withhold it. Even a warrior knows how to smile :)
Have you ever feel that when someone smiles at you, you smiled back to them? even you don't know who they are, when they smiled at you, you automatically smiled back, and that's is a wonderful feeling ain't it? Something like a connection that tells you that everything is gonna be okay with just a smile you became stronger and feels like can concur everything.
One more thing minna always choose to smile than to frown, whenever you are and whatever you are. So are your smiles ready today? It is not that big, and it is not that hard, well, honestly speaking, I found it hard before but now, I find it easy hehe, it so nice to smile and gives a wonderful atmosphere to everyone. Let's not withhold our smile to anyone minna. That's all, thank you for reading my article hope you find it enjoyable and hope it gives you a positive vibes even just a while. Gambatte :)
Be who you want to Be
Be who you want to be and not what others want you to be; people judge by your appearance, they will judge you for sure, everyone judges each one another, we cannot avoid the possibility that you might get judge by this society that perfect should be the only thing that could be seen.
We are only humans, humans that could make a mistakes, mistakes were we can become our weapon to stand up once again. You should always remember that no one can ever dictate who you are and what you are and no one decide what you become, take their opinion but never let them devour you for who you want to become.
For my today's article, I want you to give an advice for something you should not be scared of, (to become who you are) society is society, people in it may judge you but they have no power over you, to what you want to become, it is still up to you, it is still up to what you really want, do not let them devour your whole self from the judgement. We are scared of judgement that is reality, we are scared to what other might think that is what it's all about, we actually end up becoming depressed just because of what others said but does that really meant to you? Or you just assumed that it might affects your whole self well in fact it wasn't. I am not here to judge for who you want to be, I am not here to just give you an advice just because I experienced it, I am not here writing this article just because I am bored, I am here, writing this article, writing this advice to make you realize how important to be who you really are, how important to choose who you really what you want to become without even minding someone else's judgments. Society becomes full of judgments, whatever you do, good or bad, they still have some words to say and that's is one of our right ( to speak freely) as we are in democratic country but do not affects to the words they may utter as you are the only one who knows the real you.
Remember: You are you and not someone else. What you think that is all that matters.
I hope after this article you wouldn't be afraid anymore to show who you are and what you want to become, this can be related to a gender and identity of one person, if you are afraid to show what you really are then you are not ready to be you, you are not yet ready to become a person to what you really want to become. If you are afraid for the judgement of someone else, you might as well hide from your shell, but hiding yourself from you own shell isn't bad after all, not unless you decide to do it for your whole life. Remember if you want to become to what you want and to who you want to be, do not afraid to take a risk, do not afraid from the judgement, do not let society devour your whole life from judgement. Show them what you really are and who you really are.
This might be short but I hope you get my point :) I might not good at explaining things but I hope I gave you something which can help you go outside your shell/box to be something you want to be for real and not for someone else's want you to be. Gambatte minna. I wish you a very good luck for becoming you and only you.
Inspire other People
Konnichiwa minna-san, I am back again, I do hope so you all did a good day everyday, I was just busy from my work and also thinking about what article I should write for you to inspire other people and for you to give you some inspiration despite all the challenges and changes that we've had been through. You know, everytime I remember my past it makes me think that, I am the most unlucky woman that has been born with, but you know I do now realize how lucky I was despite for all the suffering that I had been through from my past. When I was sitting on the bench near to the company I'm working with, I'm mesmerized how beautiful the things that surrounds me, I realized how lucky I was to see this things and this nature, the people that makes me happy, and the things that makes me move forward, I was in a deep thought when a woman sit beside me, I don't know but I kinda pity her, she was blind, she was alone walking and don't know where to go.
I saw myself to her when I was on my teen age, but the thing that we're different is that, she was blind and I am not, she was smiling but I wasn't, she was full of courage and I am on my distressed, she was shining despite she was blind. I was looking at her, and I know she knows that I was looking and she smiled at me, that smiles that gives you relaxation, the smile that gives you courage to continue the life even the things that we couldn't possibly do but if you see her smile you know that you can do it. She asks me how things that going to my life and I answered her nice, ever since I met mamang (manang rosie) my life became so might lighter, and she was again smiling at me. And I asked her where and who is her companion but she answer me that she was alone.
She was telling me a story about her life, she was not born as a blind woman, she can see the things that's surrounds her before and she was once and used to be see the beauty of this world but she falls in love with a blind man, she falls in love with someone who cannot see, she works hard for the operation of the man she thought that could be by her side forever, she even willing to give up her own eyes for that man, and yes, you heard it right. She gave up her own eyes for the man, she donated her own eyes for the man she love, and yet after what she did, the man left her alone, and now she use to be alone, she was scared to love again. But one thing that mesmerized me about her is that how happy she is despite what happened to her, she even said that she didn't even hate the man she loves before, because she said that, if you love someone you are willing to give everything you could give without even regret, you can do everything and anything without even asking for a return. She even didn't hate the God for the things that happened to her because she was till holding to the saying that God has a plan and if God plans her to be like that then why not she said, she even smiling while telling it, you can tell that there is no hate at all in her heart. She was pretty eradicate the fear that could bring for being blindness but she doesn't care, she was carefree, I like it, I like to be like her, I like to have her positive vibes.
I wanted to pity her but honestly, it was me who should be pitied, she inspired me despite her disability, she inspired me despite all the things that happened to her, she still willing to forgive and Forget and didn't even plant a hate in her heart while I was still hating my uncle and my parents for giving me to much hardship and suffering, I even hate the God but this old woman makes me realize that it shouldn't be like that. You can hate but don't take it to much to your heart and you should also forgive as what the Lord forgave his every child. I was in the deep thought when she was looking at me even she can't see me I know she knew what is inside my heart; that's what I like for the blind people, they can tell if you are happy or not, they know that you're just pretending, they can know how much your sadness takes over you, even you said to yourself that you are happy, there is still some missing piece in your heart. Blind or not, healthy or not, we are bound to inspire each other, we are bound to give each other's hand.
You see guys, I wasn't blind yet I am blind for the things that I can see and that I can feel, I was being blind because of my hatred because of my thought that I shouldn't forgive and Forget the things that happened to me from the past, but this woman, she was blind yet she can see and she can tell. I was so focused to my distressed. I was so lame, but she inspired me, she does inspired me really,. May be this time, I am ready to forgive and Forget. Let's inspire each other, let's give each other a hand that they can reach to move forward in the life. Don't let them feel how down they are, just your bright smile and positive vibes could also be a help with them like what Ms. Donna did to me, I forgot to mention her name, I hope she still gives a wonderful aura to everyone, I wish her a very good and a healthy body
Until then, minna, I hope this blind woman gives up inspiration to keep move forward and to forgive the people that once we hate to move forward and to make us a genuinely happy. Thank you for still reading my article and I hope you get some of inspirational message here.
Forgive and Forget
Is it really okay to forgive and to forget? I've been heard countless of times the word of forget and forgive, but is it really that easy to do so as easy as it says? This question still stacked in my head; and my answer is Nah! Forgiving and forgetting will be unnatural especially if it caused you too much in life, you cannot easily forget, you cannot forget that person.
When I was young at the age of 5, I was begging for forgiveness for almost 15 years, I begged for my parents to something I did not even do; I don't know what to do that time, my uncle looked like a devil who can devour anything whomever he see. That time I was playing with my brother (Nicholai) is his name, he was 3 and 1/2 years old, I was 5, he was my little brother and I do love him, I love him more than my parents does.
Our parents were always busy to the business, business that my momma give to my father, they keep working day after day, they did not even asks me or my little brother if we're doing good or not. You see, I was so young yet, I know what is going on, I know how much they worked to give us a good life, but we didn't asked them that, we didn't even want to have a good house, good dress, and lot of money, we just want to have a mother and father who can hug us and give us a warm feelings that every children are asking for.
One time, my uncle Dan went to our house to stay for just a month, but he stays for almost half a year, and parents let him be, because he was my father's brother and I don't like him to be honest because his look doesn't give you a good vibes, and I told that to my mom but she didn't even listen to me, she just said that, I am being paranoid and I was too young to know anything, but I do know anything because I saw him snipping drugs, I do know that, and my uncle saw me, that is why he threatened me that if I say something to my parents he'll come back to me and it gives me shiver down my spine, remembering that sentence still gives me some goosebumps and it makes me feel uneasy; And oh yes, I did told to my parents what I saw but they didn't believe it, they just said that I am too young and everything I saw was not real. Why they just don't believe me? I was their child too, but they didn't even believe me, you know at the young age, I was thinking that " I am really my parents child or I was just an orphan that they adopt?
And around 3:36 am, August 3, 1999. I still remember that time, I still remember very clearly, this was the day where my uncle did something I cannot forget, something I don't know if I can forgive him for what he did to me and especially to my younger brother; I don't even know if I am willing to see him even its been 2 decades. Is it really okay to forgive and to forget? Maybe I can forgive but I cannot deny the fact that I cannot remember and I can forget what happened from the past, from what he did. I will choose to forgive him not because he deserve it but because for myself to move forward, to keep going from life. But one thing I learnt from my life experiences towards my uncle and to my parents is that no matter how much they hurt me real big time, I can still forgive them but it doesn't mean that they are still welcome to my life, I can forgive them but I won't let the past to repeat again, I may not be able to forget but I am willing to forgive to ease the pain that they cause, I just wanted to forget the pain and make a peace with it that is why I want to forgive them, I want to have a peace in my heart and in my mind. Just like what I said, I will forgive them even if they did not asks to, I will still forgive them not for their sake but for myself. And when the time comes that I and my uncle face each other again one day, I know I can be brave not to shiver and not to fear him just like what happened from the past.
I have so much more to tell a story to you guys about my life, I am willing to share my life story but I hope you have some learning from my story, you don't have to pity me nor to cry for me, I just want to share my story here so I can breath normally, I wanted to share my story to tell you that if you think to give up in life, never do that, never do something which you may regret later on. I am here, to tell many stories about myself so if you think to give up just think that there is still someone who did not given up even if cause her life. Gambatte minna. Thank you once again for reading my story,.
Debt, Debted, Indebted
Hello once again everyone, I want to share you a short understanding about life of being debt, debted and indebted. Actually I once one being in this situation but I made it through and now I am fully recovered from everything and help someone whose in a great help to me and forget someone who never remembered me even I'm with them. You know life must go on, even life is hard to us, it doesn't matter, actually it really helps us out to be stronger, to be more realistic, to be more equipped in life.
Although money has tremendous power over us (humans) and can do anything to any one of us, there was a saying that, "money can't buy happiness" was it really true? Or we are just being ignorant? People are happy with having a lot of money, we are happy to have a lot of money to make things easier for us but what if we are in debt and we cannot pay it back? What should we do? What could we do? What would we do?
And now let me ask you one question have you ever asks someone for money? And promise them to give it back once you are in a good shape? Well, may be everyone experience it, even riches people does that too to cover up their businesses, what more the one who is really in need right? In life, we really can't avoid being in debt, we couldn't even possibly know what could bring this to us, we just wanted to survive, we just wanted to fight more in life, and debt help us out somehow, it help us in a way to cover our suffering even just a short time.
But there is something you must know if you're in debt:
Never run away from someone who helps you out to cover your suffering.
Don't be ridiculous
Remember to be down-to-earth /assurance
Say thank you no matter what
If you became successful don't forget to look back
First, never run away, (some people not generally speaking), some people who is in debt runs away, this is not what you should do, you are indebted to someone who helps you to cover your suffering yet you run away just because of your thinking that you can't pay them back? Isn't much better if you stay where you are and use the money for something useful to make things more easier for both of you and to someone you indebted? Or are you just being covetous? Being greedy will do nothing good to you.
Second, don't be ridiculous, you are the one in debt yet you are being ridiculous when you are asking to pay it back? People are hard headed when they're asking to pay the money they lend to someone, they sometimes run away or they sometimes hide to someone, I myself experience that way do not worry haha, but remember if you are given a chance and still not pay for it you might as well end up in a bad situation, don't make things hard for both yourself and to someone you indebted.
Third, remember to be down-to-earth, down-to-earth doesn't mean you are going to kneel in front of someone you indebted, you just need to be humble, to be more precise to when you are going to pay the money you lend, remember give them assurance and they will give you enough time to gather some money to cover your debt to pay them back. You do not have to run away, you do not need to be ridiculous and hard headed just because you cannot pay it, just give them assurance and they will surely be your supporter.
Fourth, say thank you no matter what, people who is in debt never forgot to say thank you to someone they've had indebted, but some of them, when they are being pressured and when they are being force to pay the money they are mad, they are getting irritated, and furious, so when they have money to pay the debt they have, they couldn't even say thank you and worst they are giving shitty comment to someone they indebted. People are like that, we can't do anything about that, we don't just want to be pressure and to be force but sometimes it helps us out to pursue and to keep our self to to work more to pay all the debt, it become our weapon to get it through.
The last one, look back and never forget someone who once help you on your worst and bad days, my friend Melissa asked me once, do we really need to look back to someone you helps us before just because we are indebted? Do we really need to say thank you just because we are indebted? Do you really think so? And I asked her back, don't we? Shouldn't we? And she kept herself shut and think deeply. We are not oblige to look back but we are humans, we have this called indebtedness, even they did something bad and even they pressured us, they still help us out to bring ourself to the brighter side of the future. Do not forget and do not make yourself in selfishness, remember you are once in debt, and you are indebted.
That's all everyone, thank you for giving your time to read what I wrote, I hope you understand what I want to tell, and do not get my work in a wrong way, this is all just from my experience. And I hope I gave you some realization even just a while.
Young, Teen and Right Age
Hello everyone, I am new to this platform, I don't know how I can cope up to everyone here but I know I will enjoy this platform since I love writing, I love creating words of wisdom and words of my own experience and my story.
Let start my story when I was young, at the age of 5 years old, I was thought how to fight through the endless battle between my emotional pain and my physical strain. You know the thing is, I was right in front of the crime scene where I survived and my brother did not, I was the oldest yet I didn't do anything to protect my younger brother, that is the reason why until now I'm still fight for the endless battle of my emotional pain nag physical strain. I've been trying my best to show how sorry I was to my family yet they can't forgive me, and I know and I feel their thoughts that I should be the one who is being massacred that time. I was young yet I've been through a lot, I've been trying hard to survive and yes I do survive but not mentally, physically maybe, you can even envy me for how strong I was like a soldier but deep inside I was so broke to the point I'd given up. At the young age, my mother kept her distance away from me, I was begging for forgiveness, I was kneeling for almost a year to say sorry but no one responded, no one even giving me attention except for disgusting look they gave to me. I thought, no mother can endure her children but how could my mother makes my life miserable just because I did nothing as an older sister? Should someone like me, a 5 year old girl could do anything? Aren't they happy that I survive from that time? May be it ain't happen if they did not tolerate my uncle's doing, yes minna the one who did something like that was my own uncle, they knew that my uncle was snipping some drugs, I did said so, but they did not believe me, until they seen it in their own eyes yet they did nothing, I was so scared that time, even at the young age, I remember what he said to me "I will come back to you soon" this sentence gives me shiver down my spine. He was now in jail and I was in traumatizing stage but no one cares, no one even asks me how I was, no one even thought that I am the one who is still here, they only care for my little brother, they cried for every night and they blamed it to me. At the young age, I'd thought that if it was me whose gone may be they can easily forgive me, may be they also cry for me at least, or may be they'll care for me even just a short time.
At my teen age, I was a fighter, I fought to survive, I fought to tell them that I can do it own my own. They didn't even let me study, they did not support my study, they treat me like a maid although I was their own child, they even let their maid bully me, and the only people who keeps me and treat me as her own child is Manang Rosie, (I call her mamang) as short of a mother, she was giving me enough food so they can't treat me as bad as before. I work as a part timer in the fast food chain in the night and in the morning I was studying secretly, because if they know that I was studying, they will surely doubled my hard time. Mamang help me to study without worrying of my family to find it, and it makes my situation a little more easy, I was so thankful for her, and when I was in college, I still doing the part time and studying. Working in the morning and studying at night, and that's the time my other siblings finds out what I did and they told it to my parents, my mom burst out into anger while my dad stares dig a dagger throughout my soul. And they locked me in the warehouse, they locked me and they did not give me some foods for 4 consecutive days, I was begging just like when I was young, I asked for forgiveness just like when I was younger, I cried for forgiveness but they didn't even bulge, they didn't even hear me I guess. And that time I heard mamang pledge to my parents to not locked me anymore and give me some foods because if they continue to what their doing I might die, and then they unlocked the door and give me some foods and drinks. I ate like a maniac, I drink like it was my last drink, and my other siblings stares at me with disgust but I don't care, I only know that time that I was hungry and I need some strength to keep my life move forward. And so, mamang asked me to move from my parents house but I said I don't know where to go, that if I move from my parents how would I survive? But she smiled at me, the smile that could break my heart into pieces, I don't like to see her smile like that. I don't want to see how pity she was in my situation, and then, she said that I should go to her to their home, and I was shocked, I was so glad that she is willing to help me out even if cost something more big. She doesn't care, she just wanted to help me. And now, my teen was over, just like my miserable life's over on the hand of my parents.
At the right age, I graduated magna cum laude at the age of 24. Companies of this island even sent me some emails to work for them, they are willing to give me the salary that could satisfy me. You know, one thing I learnt from my experience and story of my life is that, no matter how hard your situation is, no matter how many people kept your life miserable, even your parents or siblings, just keep yourself move forward, prove to them that even they disgust your existence you can still survive. Hard time makes you became stronger more than anyone else, just focused to what you really want. You know, when I was young, when my brother died in my uncle's hand, i was focused to get some revenge, I even planned it haha, but when my parents treated me something like a dog and treated me like nothing, I'd give up for the revenge I only want to survive until they forgive me, but unfortunately they did not. Even I cried out loud for forgiveness, they will still not forgive me, and waiting for forgiveness from them makes myself being strong day after day. And now that I'm on my right age, I worked at xxxxxx company and I'm still with mamang house. Actually I bought a house for mamang so her family can stay there with me. I am happy now with them. I am so grateful that even what happened to me from my past mamang didn't leave me alone.
Thank you for reading my story everyone. I am so grateful to learn this platform from my friend milessa. I hope you keep yourself move forward no matter how hard your situation is, even if everyone is against to it, just keep going, prove them how wrong they are. Gambatte minna.
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