Happy moments in a near fatal scenario
Happy moments in a near fatal scenario
There is always this thought that accidents happen to others but I was wrong. It was on Valentine’s Day, of 2006, the vehicle that I was travelling by, was knocked down by a heavy truck carrying Naphtha. We were two in the vehicle besides the driver but I was the only one who was badly injured.
For someone who is one moment bubbling with enthusiasm and the next is gifted with seven fractured bleeding ribs and two fractured vertebrae in the lumbar region it would be seemingly difficult to encounter happy moments in the 9 months that were required for complete recovery. But trust me I found them!! I know of people who have met with serious accidents and have also read about their trauma, and the painful recovery process but little did I know that there would be countless moments of joy in this whole experience until it happened to me.
I love travel and have been among the fortunate few that have the globe trotting experience. I have been in and out of several planes. Several cable, gondola and roller coaster rides have been a part of my travel package. Cruising down the pacific ocean in luxury liners, several boat rides in the still waters of the Hudson river in the USA, a donkey ride on the precarious hillocks of Phelgam, Kashmir, a walk in the Ice Palace of Jung Frau Alps in Switzerland and countless such adventures with no incidents of injury but nearer home I meet with this accident for reasons not known but it did happen.
Right from the moment I fell there almost under the truck till I was able to get on my feet it was a smooth ride everything having fallen in place – good doctors, good nurses, countless friends/family members to cheer me, thanks to my mobile phone which really saved my life as the required contacts could be made because of it, maids to take care of me , finances taken care of – thanks to the medical facility that I had - each day bringing in new hope – the physiotherapist with her smile giving me hope with encouraging words – I could go on and on.
suffice it to say there were moments of joy every step of the way. Who says calamities only give misery? I became a new person, having faith in myself, in my abilities and a new belief that one does not have to have a bed of roses to be happy.
Happiness can come from any source and I became a testimony of that. The greatest joy was when I was told I could take the first step and to see the sky, the trees, the birds which were hidden from me for almost 6 months. Sitting on my wheel chair I toured my house, my kitchen, my bedroom, my landscaped garden, all this I had taken for granted as being something that would always be there but I got a second chance a new lease of life that made me realize the worth of every small bit that gave me joy which otherwise perhaps I would not have even noticed.
I could climb up the stairs to my computer room – what’s so special really but after 9 months of total bed rest this sure was an invaluable gift to be able to climb the stairs one step at a time.
Everyone rallied round me even my Vet recommended that I take something to strengthen my bones, which he recommends to his patients!! The orphaned children who I had spent time with on several occasions were en masse praying for my recovery.. So I was told while I was in the hospital. Being a Reiki Channel I kept it as my constant companion which no doubt played its role.
Many who were witness to the way I handled this calamity returned with new hopes in their life as they also felt that no matter what if one knows to sail through any disaster that is what is needed to be happy. It is not how much one has but what one makes of what one has is the true road to happiness.
I am now introduced to Physiotherapy which should be a way of life with the young and old not necessarily who have had injured limbs or whatever. I do it on a regular basis and feel I have a spring in my step though not the kind of step I would want to take but a measured one. I no longer am strapped to props to support my ribs and back and am back to my brisk walks and busy about my chores cheerfully savoring every moment that has been gifted to me.
A place for the elderly in modern society
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I am a senior and I have merged well with society
There is a general feeling that the elderly do not get a place in society that they rightly deserve. Elderly people in modern society can fit in perfectly if they discard their 'old school' thoughts. Gone are the days when grand children would simply listen with rapt attention to the stories that were unfolded by their grandparents. In days gone by elders ruled the roost and their word was law. Not anymore. With the kind of exposure one has these days youngsters do not have to depend on the advice that would be given by the elderly with regard to how they should live their life. Technology being available with just a click of the mouse today's generation finds life far more interesting and absorbing than having to spend time with their elderly.
Hope is not lost however, in that with a bit of adjustment the elderly could on the contrary join hands with modern society and try to merge with it. There are several opportunities for the elderly to be a part of modern society.
We often see the elderly frowning as they feel that they get neglected and are dumped. This cannot be the fault of society in totality as the elderly need to adjust to conditions that are prevalent around them. Times have changed and therefore what they consider to be something that the society is doing to them needs rethinking. With strides in information technology the younger generation no longer will spend time with the elders in order to acquire knowledge from them and this is what the seniors get hurt the most.
When it comes to their family neglecting them here again it is they who encourage their children to go for greener pastures. In that situation it would be unfair for the elderly to expect them to be there as and when the need arises.
Taking for granted that their children and grand children will be at their beck and call is yet another thought that needs refurbishing. With encouragement from parents more and more youngsters leave their shores seeking greener pastures and when this happens, it would be unfair for the elderly to expect their kin to be at their disposal. Today's youngsters have to deal with problems that did not exist in days gone by. There used to be a joint family system and rallying round each other was more a rule than an exception.
Elders also need to play their role for them to be accepted in society. It is time elders gradually stepped back and gave youngsters an opportunity to be in the limelight. This is how elderly people in modern society can survive and be appreciated.
Elderly people in modern society need a place, a place where they can live with dignity and for this they have to plan their old age well in advance. The most important need is to be financially independent and this does not happen overnight. Years of careful planning is required that can ensure a senior, financial stability without which they will be a burden on society. Being a part of health care schemes is yet another area which the elderly need to pay attention to.
With children having left the shores, more and more elders are left alone to fend for themselves. It is time therefore that the elderly get mentally prepared to move into a retirement settlement where they will be taken care of and the thought that their elderly are taken care of would ensure peace to the youngsters.
Many elders take to social work and become useful to society and that is yet another way to ensure a dignified place for elderly people in modern society.
Elderly people in modern society will be appreciated and loved if they make no demands nor have any expectations from society.
Does 'Bestwriter' ring a bell?
I was devastated when my other account attracted zero responses to my posts that I had written there.
The topics were interesting and so were the contents. I felt like a stranger as no body even from noise.cash came to give me a pat on my back.
That set me thinking. Does an avatar or a user name play a role in attracting users to come to one's posts? I am tempted to believe it could be so.
I am 'bestwriter' at noise cash and am doing extremely well there. I literally work over time to distribute those FTs I keep receiving, feeling quite important there .
I am hoping to enjoy the same status here and yes give me some time and I will churn out good posts to justify your time spent reading my posts.
A bit about me. I love to give than to receive and so when I get those FTs I get a chance to do that.
In my real world I have a Trust that reaches out to the needy. Each year during Christmas time I throw parties for seniors and also kids from an Institute. The planning starts right from August as I get stuff online from distant places. Decorating the venue, planning games, planning the menu with the caterer, getting a few family and friends to join me and all this I find very exciting to keep myself occupied.
Here is a video of the last Xmas do for seniors at an old age home
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WdI-MHJ51rM&t=52s
During the pandemic I gave a helping hand not to the poor but to those middle class who were in my life having lost their business and jobs. They were small amounts but felt no matter how small the amount it may have helped them to go for their urgent needs.
NOW LET ME CLARIFY ABOUT THE AVATAR AND USER ID STORY - THEY HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH DRAWING USERS TO YOUR POSTS BUT READING POSTS OF OTHERS AND APPRECIATING THEM IS THE KEY WHICH I DID NOT DO.
SO HERE I GO GUYS KEEP SEARCHING FOR ME IN YOUR POSTS.
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