@Ali5511 9 June 2020

One year after she called me an Idiot

Important Lessons She asked a question in a general group on WhatsApp. I responded to the question professionally. She tagged my response and typed: *"you're an idiot"* I replied: *"Thanks so much, now that you point my attention to this idiotic part of me, I'll surely work on it, God bless you my dear..."* *And the whole place shook. Over 118 people commented and were so surprised by my response. Of course she was terribly bashed to the extent that she left the group.* *An hour later she called me to apologise* for her stupidity bla bla bla. We became friends. Then I ended up handling her premarital counselling sessions. Two days ago, on my birthday, she and her husband gave me a gift worth over 1.2million naira. This was a year after she called me an idiot. *Life Lessons from this experience.* *1. MATURITY:* Your reaction to negative feedbacks or situations shows how mature you are. *2. CHOICE:* You have the power of choice whenever anybody does or says anything offensive to you. *3. SELF CONTROL:* If someone calls you anything negative and you lose yourself and begin to fight or shout or do anything terrible, you only prove them right. *4. SILENCE IS GOLDEN:* It is better to keep quiet and people think you're a fool than for you to open your mouth and they confirm you're truly a fool. *5. DISCERNMENT:* You cannot because the baby pooed in his bath throw the baby away with the bath water. *6. POSITIVE POWER:* You have the power to win people through your maturity and composure and not through overly being more sanctimonious than the person. *7. POSITIVE IMPACT:* Life is all about people. If I had responded to her negatively, I would have lost a friend forever. *8. WISDOM:* There are people who are sent to you by God to help your journey in life to be worthwhile, your meeting point might be at a fighting point. Be wise, even when you're angry. *9. HUMILITY:* She was humble enough to call and she apologized. *10. RECONCILIATION:* Maybe there's someone you need to reconcile with today also, go ahead and do just that. *We can all get better with ourselves, with these key lessons.