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@Alexy5050 6 May 2022

Five signs you're in a toxic relationship Lead image https://unsplash.com/photos/L8-0SAy-aoQ Hey everyone, and welcome. Today, we are going to learn about 5 signs you’re in a toxic relationship Now, let’s begin. **1. Failing responsibility** Toxic people rarely understand their own toxicity. They fail to take responsibility for their mistakes, and they often pass the blame to their innocent partners. When a toxic person shrugs responsibility, it’s a sign of defensive behaviour. They do not want to acknowledge their flaws, so they act like a victim in their relationships. They pretend you are the source of their problems. That way, they can justify their own toxic patterns.  If you let a toxic person blame you for their problems, their toxicity will destroy your self-esteem. No matter how many times someone says it, their toxicity is not your fault. Unless your partner is willing to take responsibility for their mistakes and make real changes in their life, you are in a toxic relationship, and it may be time to let go.    **2. Absence of support in a healthy relationship, partners** Want to see each other succeed? They encourage each other to pursue their dreams and goals. They support each other when trying new things, and they pick each other when they make mistakes. In other words, if you and your partner have a strong, loving bond, you want your partner to grow, improve, and succeed. But, in toxic relationships, partners rarely support each other the way they should. They don’t pay attention to each other’s goals, nor do they encourage each other to try new things. In toxic relationships, one partner may even sabotage the other partner’s success. If you want to know whether your relationship is toxic, think about the last time your partner genuinely supported your personal growth. Did they encourage you to step out of your comfort zone? Did they celebrate a raise or promotion you received at work? If your partner gives you the support you’re looking for, your relationship may be healthy and genuine. But if your partner doesn’t support your goals or ambitions, your relationship may be more toxic than you realize.    **3. Subtle isolation** Does your partner isolate you from your friends or family? Do they force you to create distance from the people you care about? Many toxic partners will try to control and dominate your life. They want 100% of your time and attention, so they use manipulative tactics to cause rifts in your relationships. For example, a toxic partner may dislike the close relationship you have with your best friend. When your partner sees the two of you together, they may become jealous, because they want to possess every bit of your attention. They want to control you, so they may subtly destroy you and your friend’s relationship. Toxic partners will make up lies and twist people’s words. They’ll force you to choose sides.  They’ll encourage you to argue and spend time apart. A toxic partner wants you and your friend to stop seeing each other. That way, you spend all your time trapped under your partner’s thumb. This toxic pattern affects a surprising number of relationships. From the outside, it’s easy to spot, but when you’re trapped in this toxic dynamic, it can be difficult to recognize obvious red flags. You may think your partner is trustworthy. You may start to doubt your friends and family. You may feel like you have to pick favourites or choose sides. But a loving partner never damages your other relationships. They want you to have strong connections with your friends and family, because they want you to be happy. Instead of telling lies or spilling secrets, a loving partner works hard to connect with the people you care about. If someone is important to you, that someone will also be important to them. So, don’t let a toxic partner disrupt your closest connections. It may feel like your partner is helping or saving you from a bad situation, but the truth is your toxic partner wants you all to themselves.  **4. Attacking personality** In healthy relationships, partners give each other constructive criticism.  You should help your partner identify and improve upon their weaknesses, because you want them to grow into a happier, more successful individual. But in a toxic relationship, criticism is rarely ever constructive. In fact, many toxic people regularly attack their partner’s personalities.  For one reason or another, toxic partners want to lower your confidence and self-esteem. They want to insult and belittle you. They want to make you feel weak and small, often because they are struggling with issues of their own. But how do you know if your partner is being helpful or toxic? Criticism from a loving partner is never cruel or accusatory. They don’t call you names, exaggerate your flaws, or hurt your feelings. Toxic criticisms, on other hand, quickly resort to name-calling and exaggeration. A toxic partner wants to hurt your feelings, even if what they’re saying isn’t fair or true.  **5. Stonewalling** Not every toxic Trait is loud or insulting. Just because someone isn’t yelling at you doesn’t mean their behaviour is healthy or loving. For example, have you ever had a partner give you the silent treatment? Or maybe your partner repeatedly ignored your problems or neglected your needs? In both cases, your partner is using a manipulative strategy called stonewalling. Instead of listening to your needs or engaging with you on an emotional level, they withdraw their attention and emotions from the relationship. In some cases, a stonewalling partner will stop talking to you for days or weeks on end. When this happens, you may feel like you’ve done something wrong.  You may feel like it’s your responsibility to break down their walls and earn their attention.  But that’s exactly what your toxic partner wants. Stonewalling is one way that partners subtly control and manipulate your behaviour. One moment, they give you their full attention. The next, they withdraw into themselves, leaving you wondering what you did wrong. But stonewalling isn’t something healthy and loving partners do.   Follow me on noise.cash  read.cash  https://noise.cash/u/QueenOlivia https://read.cash/@Alexy5050

@Alexy5050 5 May 2022

Play your part Lead image https://www.istockphoto.com/photo/lets-have-fun-gm666476954-121491971 "**Uuurrrggghhh**!" Julia vomited again, making it the fifth time she would be throwing up within a few hours. To make matters worse, every episode of vomiting was accompanied with stooling. She was so weak that she barely could stand on her own. Margret gathered her daughter in her hands and tried to make her drink some oral drip she had prepared. As soon as Julia gulped down some of the solution, her mother proceeded to remove her clothes. After cleaning her up, she placed her on the bed and then commenced cleaning up the mess on the floor. As she moved about, she muttered "the blood of Jesus" under her breath repeatedly. As soon as she finished cleaning up the floor, Julia got up abruptly and vomited again. This time, she was stooling uncontrollably. Margret rushed her to the bathroom and cleaned her up. Julia felt lifeless in her arms as Margaret carried her daughter back to the room. The situation so overwhelmed her that she just didn't know what else to do. She started to cry. Before long, someone knocked and opened the door without waiting to be invited in. It was her neighbour, Annie. She had heard Margaret crying and had quickly come over to make sure she was okay. "Margi," as she is fondly called, "what is it, is Julia getting worse? "Margret couldn't say anything, she only nodded her head. Immediately, Annie took charge of the situation. She announced they were leaving for the hospital immediately. She asked Margret to get dressed, as she found a dress for Julia. Margret hesitated. She said she would wait for her pastor to come over and offer some prayers before anything else. Exasperated, Annie screamed This child is dying! if she doesn't get medical attention immediately, you will blame yourself for the rest of your life!" Margaret shuddered. Shock waves travelled down her spine. that was all the motivation she needed. They were on the way to the hospital in a jiffy. At the hospital, Margret: could hardly respond to many of the questions the nurses asked her. She just sobbed as she watched a nurse place her daughter on drip. Annie consoled and encouraged her to stay strong. When she offered to go back to Margret's house to clean it up and prepare something for her o eat, Margret obliged. She was grateful and relieved. Back in Margret's house, everywhere was a mess. Annie did a thorough cleaning and arrangement of the rooms. When she was done, she proceeded to the kitchen to clean it up. As she stepped in, she was greeted with a gory sight of unwashed utensils that seemed to have been there for days. The odour from the utensils was nauseating. Annie had to open the windows and backdoor to allow some fresh air. She even had to stand outside for several minutes before she could go in to clean up the piles of dirty utensils in Margret's kitchen. By the time Annie got back to the hospital with food, fruits, and some change of clothes for both mother and child, Julia was already out of danger. Margret was calm. She thanked Annie for what she had done for her, but Annie kept a straight face. Margret withdrew and asked what the matter was. Annie didn't respond immediately. she waited for the nurses to leave and for Margret to eat something before giving her a piece of her mind. "Margi," she began, "if i don't tell you the truth, then i am not a good friend and neighbour." "Okay," Margi nodded and waited for Annie to continue. "Margi, if you don't want Julia or anyone in your house to continue to fall sick like this, then you'd have to make a drastic change." "god forbid! no one will ever get this sick again in my home. the god i serve will never allow that." "oh please, margi! leave god out of this! god will always play his part because he is a faithful god, but do you play your own part? will god come down and keep your house clean for you? would he send his angels to wash your dirty dishes? what about the waste bins and the sewage spilling everywhere? would he empty those for you as well? who knows what really happened to Julia. do you know she could have eaten from any of the unwashed dishes? you had better change before someone else gets sick again." Conclusion been spiritual is different from been lazy so many backup their with been spiritual, no matter our religion, ethnic group you should always try to play your part.Special shout out to @fashtioluwa, @meitanteikudo, @princessbusayi and @Olasquare @clixmoney @GarrethGrey07 for the support on my first article. Hoping @therandomrewarder stays by my side today.

@Alexy5050 4 May 2022

First post/ ways to help someone with low self-esteem! 4th of May 2022 Lead Image Hello read.cash family, my name is Alex but this is my first post on this platform and I’m very excited to be writing this article.I’m not a very good writer and I’m still in the process of improving my writing skills hence you may find that my articles may not be as good as everyone else’s here. Regardless of my writing skills, I’m looking forward to meeting a lot of people, interacting, and having some fun while also earning some BCH via @therandomrewarder. I consider this platform an opportunity to make my voice heard by several people from different walks of life, hence being here is an opportunity which I’m very grateful for- an opportunity I wouldn’t take for granted. https://www.istockphoto.com/photo/winner-gm1321551538-407746903?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=srp_photos_top&utm_content=https%3A%2F%2Funsplash.com%2Fs%2Fphotos%2Fself-esteem&utm_term=self%20esteem%3A%3Asearch-explore-top-affiliate-outside-feed-x-v2%3Ab I’d be improving my writing skills by writing everyday, reading several articles from various users such as @Fizza1 @meitanteikudo, @Olasquare, @princessbusayo, @gertu13. @pachuchay, @codename_chikakiku, @clixmoney, @ellen-he, @Tomi-ajax, @farmgirl, @theblackdoll,and many others. I’d be reading a lot of their articles and will be interacting with them and many others in a bid to improve my writing skills so I can provide users on this platform with quality articles. There’s not much to say about myself apart from the fact that I’m Male, 28, an aspiring writer, crypto enthusiast, electrical engineer, and BCH lover. I love meeting new people, making friends and learning new things, after all no man is an island but we can only improve by learning daily via constant interaction. Apart from a self-introduction, this article is a mix of an introduction and ways of improving self esteem which I’d begetting into in the next new words. A lot of people are dealing with low self-esteem which often results in feeling of worthlessness and eventually- suicide, which is why I decided to write this article in a bid to help whoever is close to someone with low self esteem issues. It should be noted that I’m not a professional on this issue, but I’m simply writing based on my opinion and personal experience. **Ways to help someone with low self esteem** **1. Recognize their feelings** When you're talking to someone with low self-esteem, your natural impulse it might be to counter or deny negative things they say about themselves or the world around them. Do not do this but instead be there for them as a friendly ear offering encouragement and positivity. **2. Change perspective for them** This isn't an excuse to be cruel to other people but for example, if your partner or loved one see someone and they say “oh why can't I be that skinny or that tall”, then just point out that they're perfect as they are. **3. Don't walk on eggshells around them** Whilst it's important not to be too overbearing around them, if they see someone being slightly assertive, you know generally feeling good about themselves and the things around them, then they might start doing the same and that's got to be a good thing. **4. Be patient with them** It can sometimes be frustrating when your loved one has very low levels of self-esteem and you could quickly become irritated with them, but please don't. Try to be extra patient with them and give them the time and the space that they need to develop their confidence. **5. Open up to them** Let them know that you understand what they are going through and that you'll always be there for them. If you've got an example of when you lack confidence or you maybe felt nervous in a situation then share it with them. Knowing they're not alone in these feelings can really help.