What could be harder than having a conflict with someone you've respected for the most part of your life? With that person attacking your choice and making prejudices with what you believe without first inquiring about them.

However painful, here are my suggestions in resolving conflicts. My classmate is having a hard time being in conflict with his mother.

Give Respect

First and foremost, respect the person. Don't forget about this. Don't do stuffs that will distract your interaction. You may want to run away and be over it but face the situation. Listen. You may also be wrong.

Be Patient

Be patient. Hear the person out even if the person is making judgment to what she lacks knowledge of. Make the person finish her statements. Write down arguments or memorize them. This will be useful during discussion.

Try to Explain

Craft your sentences well so you may lay down the facts of your situation. Don't filter things out and explain from your heart. Stop when the other party is doing all she can to cut you. So what? It's on her not you.

Keep Calm

Don't shout just because you are in disagreement with the person. Just accept if the person doesn't accept your position. If you are just calm the other party may as well follow through.

Silence

Stop when you're at a disadvantage with your explanation. No point in furthering your point when the other ear is closed. This is the absolute closure of the argument. Just stop. You're done explaining. If you're so sure anyway, just do your best to show your progress by working harder than ever. Your opponent will see your results later and she will eventually come and say sorry to you. Though that may never happen. It's always hard to accept ones shortsightedness so as long as you're in good condition, everything is settled.

Pray

More than anything, pray that there will come a time things will be cleared off and that misunderstandings will not persist.

Sometimes, if were hurt, we do things that are out of character but if we do our best to keep the setting healthy then our relationships will remain healthy as well.

To my friend:

In good faith go ahead and stick to your belief. But first keep your respect to your parents. Be careful not to hurt them just because you're right. When they'll see what you're getting at, then they'll eventually yield and accept what you wanted to do.

Peace be with us all,

Lincs