How to make it easier

Acceptance. You have to accept the situation you are in, accept all your responsibilities, accept that you have to work off schedule, that you have to make sure every loose end is tied. If not, you will complain nonstop, complain about not only your job but also about parents and students, school admin and so on.

Being an adviser is not a light job. Fingers will be pointed at you. You can’t argue otherwise if you failed to do your job. Even just one mistake might cause you your career. So on you go, work overtime if you have to until all messes are cleaned.

I always had the tendency to not contact parents regarding their kids’ performance. I maintained that I should focus on the student. And telling on the student to parents might make the situation worse. But I have come to realize that my job, after all, would be to pass all delicate matters to admin and the parents.

Next time, I will just have to sumbong to parents if their kid is not doing his/her best in school. I will make sumbong to admin if I have a concern with the student. I shouldn’t take it upon me to try to convince the student. Besides, if a student really is interested, then he/she should not be slacking off in the first place.

But please!!! Spare me your fingers! If you really were concerned about your son or daughter, then you should have been following on up on him/her at the onset of the school year. I tried my best giving assistance to a particular student. I turned to the information sheet but found no contact number of parents, the one turned to me over by the previous adviser. Which would mean I should contact the office to get the student’s parents’ numbers. But before completing my job with the student, I was kind of distracted by the other kids’ concerns. And it happened, I only contacted the parent after the school year was over.

I still feel bad. Honestly, I feel bad about my irresponsibility. I had time to write and all but fixing a student’s mess I couldn’t even do well.

I wanted to resign. To get over all those things I’ve done badly but even resigning is an awful matter. I can’t resign. I shouldn’t resign. I know it will be the worst decision ever if I do resign. So I will accept everything that has happened so far and will create a program that will do me favor and to parents as well, hoping the students will also do their best.

I’m a terrible adviser. I can’t do my job well. I don’t deserve to be one.

But you know what, my well wishes for you dear students is for you to learn resiliency. You should learn to fend for yourselves. In time, you will be on your own. Your parents won’t be there for you every time.

I am feeling mixed emotions. I am equally angry at myself and to parents. We both failed at our duty to ensure the students’ welfare.

I apologized to the parent. I could feel that she is feeling resentful towards me but even she couldn’t fully throw her anger upon me because she also didn’t ensure her son’s compliance with school requirements.

But I had a deeper realization. Forget the blame game. I will simply accept my mistake and accept sanctions that may be given to me. There will be no formal sanctions but I will be informally reprimanded forever unless I will go on, redeem myself and continue on with this job that I have chosen.

At the onset when I came down from college and stayed with senior high school, I always anticipated the possibility that I will not be able to be thorough with my advisory job. I am lazy to start with. I do work well when I work but there will always be some students who will be left out of my compassion. Not that I desired it. It just happens. God knows it just happens.

Now that I have ranted, I will forget all my excuses and start anew with my job. I now know what I had to do. I will contact parents at the start of the school year. I will dearly inform the students that all their moves will be reported to parents and that I will not be taking chances. I will do my job. I will OVERDO it if I must. Just so I will be relieved of all this misgivings I have committed so far.

I maybe lazy but I am also idealistic. And sometimes, idealism isn’t bad at all, it will be a guide to work on reality. My ideals will guide me and if I were half of my ideals, then I should be able to do my job very very well.

So much for self-incrimination. Let us go on with life. Let us be positive. Let us not try to take the world on our shoulders. Let us enlist the help of authorities like the admin, the guidance center of the school, the office, the parents, and other stakeholders. We are not working on it alone. We have other offices to help us.

I deactivated my Facebook account and only retained my messenger. I hate it when I do not do my job well and still have those quotes and sayings put up on my timeline. I will first redeem myself then reactivate my social account. I know it sounds OA but this is me and I am not masking anything anymore.

I am currently drafting a resolution for myself that will help me with the program I am also creating. In order to lessen the undesirable results that might arise.