In my own world

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Do you know the feeling when you just want to be alone and not disturbed by anything or anyone? There are plenty of nice and fun things out there but yet hiding in one's nest feels the best option. For some people, avoiding others implies that you are offended, so you don't want to speak to them. It's hard to explain unless you have experienced it yourself.

I am having one of those moments when I just need to take a break. It's been great to write articles and nice communicating with members but somehow in the last days I have been feeling overwhelmed. But since this is not a personal blog to tell about my own life, I decided to google this kind of experience. What I came across includes

  • having "me time"

  • social anxiety

  • depression

The wish to be invisible can mean many things, from perfectly normal to a sign of a personal crisis. (picture source: Unsplash)

Important "me time"

Having time for oneself is very important for one's well-being. This is particularly true if you're an introvert. I belong to that group, so I find it hard to relate to what extroverts experience when they are all on their own. But then again, I would imagine that nobody is a true introvert or a true extrovert. This is a scale and each one of us lies somewhere along it.

Many people in a relationship and especially parents believe that they have to give them all out for the family and ignore their personal needs. Deciding to go and do something alone without their spouse and/or children is equivalent to abandoning them and carries the stigma of selfishness... But is it really? Or, should I say, is that always the case?

When being alone is the wrong strategy

On other occasions, the desire to isolate from the world is actually a worrying signal. People with psychological issues, going through trauma or stress, for example, lose track and prefer to avoid situations that cause further pain. However, in those cases this just exacerbates the problem. Loneliness increases and the problem starts weighing ever harder on the shoulders. If the issue is not addressed, it may even be lethal. Many call people committing suicide selfish, when indeed, one reaching such a decision would be so miserable, sad and lonely that nothing makes sense anymore.

Maybe it's just the winter

Well, yes, short winter days indeed limit the amount of outdoor activities one can do but there are alternative options. Feeling under the weather can be a real issue for some, and they experience actual depression episode. No feeling of hopelessness should be ignored. It's a trigger, a warning sign that the mind is struggling.

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I like to be alone sometimes, to think about some things that happened to me, to make some plans, to do something creative. But if we want often to be isolated from the people, it will not be good for us. It would have more bad effects than benefits.

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There is no doubt that there are instances that we prefer to be alone but not lonely. When we're alone we can feel this deep sense of tranquility. Having that said, it gives us a way to escape from the bittersweet reality of life.

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Well said!

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Hiding is what I do best 😅💔

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Yeah, it's like a way to explore the world without being disturbed.

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