Do you think extra? Do you try to find special meaning in everything? When someone looks at you while walking down the street, do you just walk the rest of the way thinking about why they are staring at you? Or if a coworker in the office makes fun of you for the rest of the day? Does it take you a long time to make a decision? Can't think of what to do when? Often lost in the world of thought while working?
If the answer to these questions is yes, then you are thinking extra about almost everything, which is not very good for your mental state. Because the habit of thinking excessively will gradually take away your peace of mind. Guilt can work in us after thinking too much about something simple. And the worst is when we waste our precious time thinking too much. 'Excessive thinking' can sometimes take the form of 'depression', which can have very bad consequences. Suppose you are doing something. But while doing the work, you are constantly thinking about how the work is going, whether it is going well or not, what people will say when they see it. A lot of thoughts, a lot of fears keep working in your head that occupy a lot of your mind. And that's why you may not be able to do your job properly, Lack of focus at work. The results of the work may not be as expected. And gradually this habit leads you to depression.
Today in this article I will highlight 11 features that will help you to understand whether you or your friend has a tendency to think excessively. However, just because one or two of the features here match differently does not mean that he regularly thinks extra. There may be exceptions
. The features are: - 1. The tendency to apologize too much
For those who think too much for no reason, one of the biggest traits is to ask for extra forgiveness. Even though they did not make the mistake themselves, they repeatedly apologize for it as if they made the mistake. Many times they repeatedly apologize without any real reason. On the one hand it is very annoying, on the other hand this habit puts them in various dangers. Admitting someone else's mistake as a result of one's own mistakes may cause the victim to realize that he or she may have made the mistake and may be punished for no reason at all!
2. When I go to sleep, I think of the whole day
When I go to bed at the end of the day, I don't often remember, "Why did I do that three years ago?" In shame then one can no longer control oneself. Many of us have this habit. But for those who think a little too much, things are different. When they go to sleep, they remember whether they have done the important work of the day properly! Turn off the lights in the house? Turn off the gas stove? Did I close the door properly? Such thoughts keep revolving in my head. As a result, sleep at night is not good.
3. There is always the thought of making others happy
Believe it or not, they almost always think about what others think of him. They always try to keep everyone happy so that no one feels bad. But doing this is not always possible. So many times they have to be bad in the eyes of someone. But in order to make everyone happy, there is a saying that one should be happy, it is not in their head many times. So most of the time over-thinking people are seen to be upset.
4. Stay as far away from danger as possible
No matter where you are in school, college or university, there can be some problems with your friends. We have to find a beautiful way to solve these problems. But in these cases the extra-minded people are not very close. As I said before, they always try to keep everyone happy. Whether it is to keep everyone happy or to keep themselves good in the eyes of everyone, they always keep themselves away from these troubles.
5. Suffering from indecision and often taking the opinion of the other party
It is not a bad thing at all to get someone else's opinion on something. It gives a good idea of the quality of work. But in the case of additional thinkers, things are a little different. There is a tendency among them to suffer from excessive indecision. After finishing any work, they do not understand whether the work has been completed well. That is why they take the opinion of various people. But even then, in most cases, their doubts do not go away. They always have this suspicion in their mind that their work may not have gone well.
. Almost always busy
As a result of thinking about different things, these people are often seen to be busy. Whenever you call them, they will be busy with some work. That is why they are often seen to be inattentive. Random hair on the head, no specific rules of eating these are very common features. It takes them a while to get the job done. Their goal is to get the job done ahead of time. Then their peace.
. Keep scratching your head about anything
Haven't you seen cow chewing? He is chewing with grass in his mouth. There is no news of swallowing. We browse the internet for hours on end, just as cows cut their jaws. But in the case of our extra-thinking friends, the type of jaw-dropping is a little different. They bite into their thoughts. Suppose this morning there was a quarrel with the bus helper about the fare of one passenger. You noticed this sitting in the seat next to you. Then the thought will run through my head thinking that, Why didn't the passenger want to pay the fixed fare? Does he fight like this every morning for only 5 rupees? Is the helper renting more? Are other passengers also paying extra fare every day? Is he himself counting the extra rent every day? Once the thought has started, it will not want to end. Thus it is a habit of people to think excessively about an unnecessary thing for a long time.
. Judging people
by their appearance is probably the worst habit of those who think more than they need to. In order to evaluate a person well, it is very important to know the correct information about them. A person should never be judged by a small message. Although the evaluation of a person's work can be done by looking at his work, in order to get a good idea about a person's character, one has to mix well with him first. But those who tend to think more than anyone else, they want to evaluate a person as soon as they see him. It often creates an unnecessarily bad idea about a person.
9. Trying to find hidden messages everywhere
A terrible habit of those who think excessively is to find out if there is any other meaning behind a word. Simply put, if we don't use emojis in a serious way when chatting on Messenger, we often don't realize that the person on the other side may be angry with us for some reason. We make such mistakes because we do not understand the way others talk while chatting. But when they think too much, they often do not understand what is being said. If they are naturally told, "You did a very good job." Make sure they leave out any other meaning. It's a lot like cutting the previous jaws.
Let's say two good features.
10. I want everything to be perfect
As I said a while ago, people who think too much suffer from too much indecision. But there is a good reason behind it. They can't see the flaws in anything because they think too much. They want any work to go smoothly. There can be no mistake in anything. Because of their nature, it is often not possible to finish work on time. However, this practice is not bad at all. Such people think that they are doing anything for themselves. So when it comes to working, they want to do their best. Even if it takes a little longer to finish the work, no one can have any questions about the quality of the work.
11. Nice plan out of any work
This is the best of all the qualities of those who think extra. A good plan is needed before starting any work. And they are the best in this work. They come up with ideas, and to see them flush it out, it's really fun. So if you want to make the right plan for any difficult task, you must keep them by your side.
Do you understand? Do you think extra? Those who think extravagantly can do such a thing very well on the one hand, on the other hand they have certain traits that force others to give an extreme test of patience. However, it is not a disease. It is a habit that develops in a person over time. Not exactly a habit, a lot of bad habits type. But we can get rid of this bad habit only by following a few steps properly. Let's not know what those steps are; -
your own thoughts Are you thinking too much? Are you thinking negatively? At the beginning you have to understand your way of thinking.
You may be wondering what else! But the reality is that we are often drowning in a lot of negative thoughts unknowingly which we can't even grasp until we are completely drowned. So take some time to observe your thoughts. Try to understand the world inside your head objectively. Observe your thoughts in the same way you observe strangers walking down the street. Only then will you understand whether your thoughts are positive or negative. Accept the reality without acting like 'everything is fine'. Because accepting one's own problems is the first step in the development of personality. You can't change anything unless you're sure you're thinking extra.
2. Creating a diary of thoughts
Our brain produces about 60,000 thoughts every day. Surely it is not possible for anyone to remember so many thoughts. So to better understand your thought process, create a diary where you can write down your daily thoughts.
Try to write down the thoughts as soon as they come to mind. Of course, it is not possible to write down every detail. But at least try to write down the ones that drive you the most. Maybe there will be a lot of negative thoughts in between. But this diary will give you a clear idea of what is going on inside your head. And as a result, the changes you want to make will be much easier.
Meditation, which we call yoga in Bengali, is very good for both your body and mind. Meditation will undoubtedly help to sort out your thoughts.
You need more than luck to succeed in affiliate business. You have to teach your own mind what to think, how much to think. You have to build control over your thoughts. When you meditate, you have to focus your full attention on your breathing. It may not be easy at first. But gradually you will learn to control your attention. Your brain will learn to pay full attention to even the most subtle things. And when you pay full attention to anything, no extra thoughts can take root in your mind. Don’t give your thoughts a chance to control your life. Rather you learn to control your thoughts. Only then can you reach your goal.
4. Focus on work
Another way to train your brain is to pay full attention to your daily activities and not allow the thoughts that are running through your head to distract you. There is no need to worry. If you have any thoughts, do it before you start work. Make a plan before doing anything. What to do, how to do, Write down all the time on a piece of paper. So that you don't have to think about anything while working. Fully focused on work. When the work is being done, focus only on the work. There is nothing else in the world. Start working with such a mindset except your work. Pay attention to the environment around you without getting lost in the world of thoughts while walking down the street. It's normal to be distracted when doing simple tasks like watching TV or a video. Control your attention and watch the video with all your attention. In addition to daily activities, try to learn something new that will keep you mentally engaged, such as driving or trekking, Where you are forced to pay full attention. Force your brain to be busy with your real-time work. Always keep your brain busy. These habits will work to train your brain. If you keep practicing like this day after day, one day you will see that it has become your habit.
Another way to control your unnecessary thoughts out exactly how you want. It's actually a part of training your brain. Whenever a voice inside your head tries to grab your attention, convince yourself that it is just a voice that you control. You can say anything with that voice if you want. And if it is absorbed, you will have a lot of control over your mind.
“Thought is reflected in nature. If someone speaks or acts with evil intent, sorrow follows him. And if someone talks or acts on such thoughts, happiness follows him like a shadow. ” - Gautam Buddha
If you want, you can use that voice inside your head to inspire yourself, to reach your goal. And if you can't, then your life is very unlikely to go your way. So it is very important to try to change your thinking. And that's why understanding your own thoughts was the first step in this process. Whenever you feel the presence of a negative thought in your mind, think about how to turn this thought into something good? How can this idea be used to your advantage? Practicing this small change every day can take you from a place of extreme depression to a stage where you don't have to worry about anything negative.
I'm not saying it's a bad thing to think about. But don't let that thought hurt your real life. Remember, excessive thinking, especially if it is negative, is a bad habit that can make your life completely messy. So think now, what exactly do you need to do.