I don't know if you are an active user of Quora or Reddit but recently I'm using both of the platforms just for fun. Though I'm occupied by many things but answering some questions helps me to reflect my understanding better.
While I was using Quora the other day, one question popped in my feed saying, "If being alone/going outside alone is okay or it will make us" unsocialized'?
I guess this is an age-old question in our minds. If society will accept us if we stay alone sometimes or be single, whether or not we will lose our social skills. I also struggled with this, especially when I was a student at the University.
Society doesn't accept the 'alone' concept. It's still a stigma like if anyone shopping alone, eating alone, or being single. To me, I always believe that if you are comfortable being alone then there is nothing wrong with it.
Another thing is maintaining the fine line between alone and lonely. If I can manage to be alone without feeling lonely then that is the perfect strength we create for us. In this wired world, it's definitely a plus point if anyone has the courage to put things together on their own, right?
I answered the girl the same thing.
Moreover, I guess we all have the experience of feeling underpowered in a group hangout or shopping, whatever it is. I don't know how many times I questioned myself about my social skill, felt guilty because I was not fitting in. Later I understand that the things I was trying will never fit for me because as an introvert everything was not for me.
It's better to vibe alone, relax and have some 'me' time rather than drained out by being with people the people that don't value/respect/understand/treat ourselves better.
If people around you will really care for you, they will not bother you when you want to have some alone time. I find it very true in my life. And guess what? You will find some real gem, the person you are looking for if you follow this rule. Just like I found my man!
You value yourself. This is the motto of my life.
I spend half of my life waiting for others to make me feel valued and treat myself well. In this race I almost lost myself, I never thought about self-care, my mental health status. Don't fall into this trap. It's a plus point if you find people that really care for you. But always be there for yourself. Never let yourself feel down if you don't get validated by society.
Have a good day, everyone!
Ourself is more important then else. Instead of wasting energy and enthusiasm by laying at wrong lane Better to be alone and get more visibility, strength and power. Once in hand people will start admire automatically with respect.