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One of my Pastors shared this amazing thoughts on a relationship and I couldn't help but take note of everything while also adding substantially to this. I believe it would be worth it for our guys.


As a guy, if you find a lady that you are sincerely attracted to, CALM DOWN. There is always this history with guys. We always want to rush things hoping that would show our seriously and commitment or she wouldn't have to run off with another. Most of the time, we end up acting desperate and without a clear thought.


Wait, don't rush, don't shake, don't be afraid that someone smarter might take her, WAIT. This waiting is not a waiting of inaction but a wait where she would have sensed what you are on about before you open your mouth. So, what do you do? 


Request for another meeting, if she agrees, you are one step closer to finding that special person. 


Listen to her intuitively. Don't try to say too much to impress her. She is not a material to be bought over but a human with feelings and pride. Don't talk too much, don't say what you are not asked, don't interrogate her, just enjoy the conversation, don't say anything to impress her, find something good about HER, look straight into her eyes and tell her those things you admire about her, be observant and don't forget to let her know you are interested in knowing more about her as a person because most ladies would naturally think you are only drawn to the beauty you can see from the outside.


A lady's body language on a first date has a lot to say, so you don't waste more money on another date, especially if you took her to an expensive date. If she wants to hangout with you again, look for an open or lesser joint. 


You are not degrading her not testing her, but trying to know how she reacts to things. I would always say take her to places you can afford. It would not make so much sense to invite her to your place on a first, second or any kind of date when you guys have not really bonded for a long while. Always work according to your pocket and be honest about it.


Don't be carried away by her charm. Most ladies who know they are charming often use it to manipulate men, especially when they know nothing will come out of it, that's why it has been emphasized for you to calm down.


It's too early to fall in love, let alone nurse the thought to kiss. Take Charge. Falling in love is a process because it calls for you to know all her fear, insecurities and obvious inadequacies but still love her in spite.


...to be continued...


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