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My New Year Resolution I made a post recently why not to follow memes criticizing the concept of new year resolutions. https://read.cash/@nomadghada/new-year-2025-new-me-4087dad8 I have made a couple of New Year post before and shared my resolutions for those years. Some I had been able to complete some not so much. But that doesn't mean that we should stop trying. Here I am sharing my own resolution for 2025: _ My Resolution is ***To Talk Less*** *_* " I feel like I am treating ReadCash as my personal dairy now a days, rarely anyone reads my post anymore. Plus a lot of people have quit the platform specially Filipinos, Indians & Pakistanis (I am not criticizing or blaming them for anything, just stating the facts) ever since the Tips have dried up. " The reason I have made this resolutions is because of my personal history. I use to be an introvert that always sat at the backbenches, never spoke with anyone nor did I socialize. But later in life I had to forcefully reinvent myself and be more talkative and outgoing, otherwise I felt I wouldn't succeed. And while some may say that introverts can be successful, let me tell you that I wasn't particularly talent (Not that I have any great skills now) and I was one of those socially awkward introverts. Fast-forward a few years I was masquerading as an extrovert, I was out going I made jokes made people laugh and those things. I learnt from various online sources and one skill that every guru said was important to master was to make other laugh. Particularly if you wanted to attract a romantic partner. But after years of pertaining and trying to be funny I became one of those guys that joke everytime at any situation which became off putting. Now, because of that it has became my weakness that I have to make comedy out of every situation, a really bad habit. Now, I am at a stage in life where I am comfortable in my space and don't need to attract more people in my life. But I still have to come up as approachable and likeable, particularly in my professional environment. Therefore, my resolution is to be less talkative and dial down the awkward comedic busts.
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Thanks for the insight, I feel that the 80% people that you mentioned failed to keep their resolutions are the one without a plan. The steps you mention definitely be helpful for those you want to achieve their goals. Some of the points I have to admit I have missed but I am going to include in my plans. One thing I would also like to add is, being ok if you fail. Sometimes even with the best of planning a resolution we started with just doesn't work out and that's ok. Like from your example, if you planned to read 1 book every month but failed to keep up in the 2nd or 3rd month that's ok. When then you have read 2-3 books, but people focus on the booked they didn't read instead of the one they have read.