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How to be a badass- A comprehensive guide

***Do you want to be a badass — tougher, smarter, and more awesome?*** First, let’s figure out exactly what that means. You don’t have to buy a motorcycle, wear shades indoors, or learn to fight. You can if you want, but what you drive or wear will not make you badass. It is badass to figure out how to make a unique mark on the world — and throw everything you’ve got into your mission. Like Serena Williams This guide will show you what it means to be the strongest, truest, and most focused version of yourself. So you can live your most badass life. And yes, this article will show you how to be a badass woman – but it’s also for the men too. Can you learn how to be a badass? Badassery isn’t a quality that’s easy to come by. It’s earned by **perseverance and struggle**. It’s granted only in pursuit of a vision that’s bigger than the person who imagines it. https://study.com/academy/lesson/perseverance-definition-quotes-examples.html So yes, you can learn how to become a badass. It’s a journey that you can begin right now. *****Step 1: Be true***** One thing you notice right away about badass people is that they are unapologetically themselves — uncompromising. That doesn’t come easily to many people. Standing out is impressive when you’re successful, but what about before that? It’s just being weird. It often leads to negative judgment and even discrimination. For example, imagine telling people you are about to walk away from a respectable career to start a mountain trekking business: Your parents: “Sure, just throw away that degree.” Your spouse: “Nope.” Your friends: “Have you lost your mind?” The thing is, getting caught up in other peoples’ expectations makes you forget to live your truth. You lose sight of your values. You slip into earning validation instead of developing what makes you unique. In fact, you may not even know what makes you unique. Your first step to becoming more badass is finding out who you are. **How do** ***you*** **define success?** This is much more important than what you think other people want for you. https://soulsalt.com/what-does-success-mean/ In short, you need to learn **how to find your purpose in life**. https://soulsalt.com/how-to-find-your-purpose/ **Your mission: Find your true self** Badass behavior starts with strong core values and knowing yourself deeply. Step one is to explore what matters to you most, and why. If you’ve been lost in the grind for so long that you don’t know what your truth is, take some time to work on this. Here are two ways to get started: **1. Talk to people** Talk about these ideas with someone close to you, like a partner or a close friend. A lot of people hesitate at this part 98because they’re worried about being judged. Feeling this way is totally normal. Have these conversations anyway. The fear passes after you begin. **2. Think about what makes you feel good** Journal about times when you felt most like yourself. Why did those moments make you feel happy or satisfied or fulfilled? These are clues that reveal your core values. It’s best to spend some time alone, preferably in nature, but anywhere that you can think. You want to avoid the influences of others so avoid social media entirely. *****Step 2: Be Strong***** Badasses aren’t superhuman. It seems that way because they are so outstanding in one or two areas. They excel at what they do because they don’t waste time and energy on things they don’t care about — or things they suck at. If you want to make big changes in your life, you need to know what you want. You also need to know where your strengths are, and where they’re not. Once you figure this out, you can become unstoppable. You can achieve any badass goal when you know your strengths and weaknesses. For example, here are some different approaches, that are only possible when you know what you can and can’t do: Throw yourself into learning a necessary skill. Uncover a weakness and manage rather than avoid it. Outsource or bring someone onto your team with the strengths you are lacking. **Strong enough to be honest** It takes physical strength to do well in a gym. It takes mental strength to become a badass. It takes internal work, and often, facing hard truths. For example, it could mean facing mental demons that have kept you stuck in **self-sabotaging behavior**. https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/basics/self-sabotage Basically, you have to stop lying to yourself. *****Step 3: Be focussed***** You can’t perform at a badass level in everything at once. Think about people you know, or read about, who pull off amazing feats. They may be **training for an ultramarathon**, but are they killing it at work? Are they writing a novel? Did they just have a baby? Are they starting a business? https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/apr/02/ultrarunner-ultramarathon-racing-100-miles No. They are out running every night and every weekend. They are focusing with intensity on their biggest priority. What enables them to succeed consistently is burning away all the unnecessary parts of their lives. And they know **how to refocus when life** pulls them in new directions. https://soulsalt.com/how-to-refocus-your-life/ In short, they focus on what matters most, and they focus on one thing at a time. It’s not easy, but it’s simple: relentlessly pursue one dream until you make it real. **A badass goes after what they want** Living a badass life is a lot like the old ***Choose Your Own Adventure*** books. You are the protagonist. Every day, you make choices that determine the story of your life. https://www.goodreads.com/genres/choose-your-own-adventure No matter how trapped or stuck you might feel, you have to look for options. Find ways to take action toward the result that you want. You might have to get creative to find those options, but it’s important that you resist the idea that you’re stuck. Living the kind of badass life that you’re aiming for means not giving up. If a way doesn’t exist, figure out how to make one. Sometimes you might feel like there is too much to do, and the path is too long and too hard. At times like these, focus on the one thing in front of you. It sounds badass to take giant leaps, but in reality, it’s the tiny, incremental, consistent steps that will transform your life.

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