@mhel_dita 17 September 2022

Some important reminders in choosing your partner While scrolling my news feed on facebook I read a post in Peso Sense one of the page that I am following, its a post in regards to one of the follower who seeking advice about her partner who does not treating her well. Actually that is not the first time that I read that kind of scenario, you can see it also in some tv programs. A wife seeking advice what she will do in her situation where her partner is not treating her well while some ends as a complain. While you are still on a boyfriend-girlfriend stage of relationship you must observe the character of your partner, coz you will not see it during courting stage coz definitely they will show only positive things. I believe that entering in a romantic relationahip your goal is to lead that in more serious stage. Its a way of knowing if both of you have the chemistry and if he/she has the character that you can stand until the end. It is also a way to set standards and bounderies of dos and donts. As a girl I stand firm that never ever allow your partner to hurt you physically and used abusive language towards you and never allow your man to shout or even raised his voice on you coz for me its a way of disrespecting you. Call me super OA or too sensitive but that is my stand. The moment your man raised his voice on you gurl you better think right away , I consider it as a red flag and its a big NO NO. Coz I believe that once you allowed it, he will think that it is just ok with you. And there will be possibility that he will do it over & over again.

Since I grew up seeing how my father treat my mom, maybe thats why I ended up setting that standard. Coz I have never seen or heard my father shouting my mom and I never seen them fighting (maybe they are very discret about it). Thats why at the very beginning of my relationship with my ex boyfriend now my husband I emphasized that rules. I am not sure if its because I said it thats why he is not doing it or it is really his character. But definitely I can say that my husband is a good man. Although its too early to tell. But in our almost 4 years relationship I never experience to be shouted by him. Try nya lang, he will see the devil in me 😂😂.I am not saying that our relationship is perfect but there are also some tampuhan that mostly because of my sensitivity lol. And I am really glad that he never make patol😂. And I hope that he will stay that way 😂. As early as boyfriend-girlfriend stage you must know the attitude of your partner, coz it will be harder if you are already married when you will find out that you can not stand with his or her not so good attitude. Coz when you are already married you have to consider lots of things especially when there are children involve. These are just some of the many things that you have to consider...... I am not a pschology expert nor a love guru but all what I have mention are based on my opinion😉 Thats all for now.