@mhel_dita 21 July 2022

When to burn bridges? In my life I met lot of people aside from relatives, schoolmate, coworkers/colleague. I have limited number of friends but I can say that those who stays are the solid one, some of them are my friend since grade school and some are my friends for more than a decade. But there are also some of my friend in grade school and high school that I do not have any communication anymore. I do not know why but it just happened, I miss the bonding moments since I really considered two of them as one of my closest friend, I tried to reached out before but I feel like Im just the only one who want to maintain the friendship or maybe they are too busy so I just let it go, I just told myself atleast I tried to communicate. I also have friends/ troupe during college days, it is very rare that we have conversation, I can say that mostly the conversation started if one of us posted an old picture in facebook or if there is one of us is celebrating our birthdày. There are also acquaintances and friends from my previous jobs, whom I randomly chat with and some are totally no communication at all. There are also some of my staffs that became my friend and till now we have constant communication. And there are some staff that I considered my friends but I found out later on that some of them are not real. There are things that are not beyond our control, and there are times that our thoughts are not the same with others despite of the closeness or moments you have shared with them. Not talking to those person does not mean that they are already not part of your life anymore. Maybe they have their valid reason. I believe that there are no permanent in this life coz everything may change and things happened for a reason. As we grow older our perception in life and priority changes. Personally the line " I don't get mad, I get even" is not applicable to me anymore. But one thing for sure I will never forget what you have done me wrong. And I will also remember what you did good to me and will always remember that. And the line " forgive and forget" is not applicable to me either. I can forgive but I will never forget, if you have done me wrong I can be very civil enough but that's all I can give, I can never trust that person again. And I am a type of person that if you made me feel that I am not welcome in your life, fine I will not make way to fill in and go on with my life. For me I do not want to burn bridges with anyone unless that person did something really bad to me or betrayed me . There is nothing wrong in burning bridges with someone if you think that it will make you better. Coz for me burning bridges is a way of letting go those toxic people that may take away the peace of my mind.....