Love is a beautiful feeling of emotion in which the parties involved share affection and commitment to each other expecially when the feeling is mutual.
Every one desire the need to love at some point but alot of people are held back with an overwhelming fear of falling in love which is usually referred to as philophobia.
Philophobia is a compound word comprising of Philo a Greek word meaning love and phobia meaning fear. Philophobia means the of love.
Causes of philophobia
The expression of philophobia can vary from one person to the other depending on the personality of the person. However there are common causes of philophobia which include :
Past experiences : Children who watch their parents go through divorce and domestic abuses are most likely going to develop philophobia as the grow up.
Present experience : Experiences on previous relationships can also cause people to have that fear of letting their guard down again to love expecially when the previous relationship ended as a result of betrayals.
Anxiety Disorder : people who are suffering from anxiety disorder are likely going to have the fear of falling in love
How to treat Philophobia
Acknowledge the fear : Like every other psychological problem, the very first step in overcoming philophobia is to accept that you have the fear. Come to terms with the fact that you are scared of falling in love.
Silence that voice : When those words that keep fear in your head speaks respond back with positive thoughts like telling yourself that you are good enough, it's actually possible for someone to love you genuinely...
Choose to be vulnerable : make the conscious decision to let yourself love.
Embrace your identity. By embracing your identity you will judge love by your own experiences and not what you have withness others experienced.
Don’t let that fear stop you from experiencing the beauty of falling in love.