Sometimes people who are upset try to offend others with words that turn out to be rude. Words can be rude because of the meaning we give them, or, depending on the place or the country where we live, there are some words where their meaning can be recognized as rude.

In each region there are words that are adopted by the inhabitants to give a strong connotation to a bad word.

When a person feels offended by another person he then makes use of those rude word idioms to offend the person who has supposedly offended him first and thus return the insult.

Words have an effect on us if we allow it, in another post I have already emphasized the meaning of the words expressed, that depending on the power that we give to those words their effect will have an action on us.

When a person throws towards us a word that is strong to our ears and that we consider rude it will depend on ourself if we take that word as an offense or if, on the contrary, we let it pass over us without giving it any weight or force or push so that it can do us mental harm.

I remember when my son was younger and in high school one day he told me that someone said a rude word to him that involved me. He got upset with the boy and apparently he returned the rude word back to the person of the mother of the other classmate who offended him.

It was the first time someone had said an insult to him where it seemed that my son must have been offended because it involved me.

I found it an appropriate time to teach my son something so that he would not forget it. So I just asked him what time it was that this student said that word to him and at the same time I told him what I was doing then, when my son was getting upset because of the words of this person, and said…

"At that moment I was at my job, enjoying my work, attending to a person who needed my medical services. That person left very grateful for everything that I did and had calmed down after knowing his diagnosis and left me with many blessings.”

“I want you to know that I didn't feel any change in my mind or in my body when that boy offended my name, and do you know why? Because words only hurt when you give them the power to hurt you.”

“Therefore, I hope you will never tell me again that someone said a word to you that you felt was offensive to you or to me, because at that moment I’ll feel that I wasted my time explaining this to you."

Another moment I always remember is an anecdote of Gandhi when he studied in college. Apparently he was not liked by his professor who always sought to offend him.

I remember reading that the professor was eating in the university dining hall and Gandhi tried to sit next to the professor, who at that moment told him… "Birds and pigs don't sit together to eat".

To which Gandhi quickly replied…" Excuse me professor, I'm flying away now."

Of course this annoyed the professor, who now thought of offending him again, and while taking an exam Gandhi demonstrated his intellect and returned the exam with all the right answers, the professor subsequently gives the results of the correction of his exam to the students and Gandhi gives it to him with the word "IDIOT" written at the top of the paper.

After a while Gandhi turns to his professor and says, "Excuse me professor but you handed me my exam with your signature but now I need you to put my grade on it."

Do you think the professor kept at it or did he change his offensive tactics…? I think he would keep trying to offend but Gandhi was very clear on his point, only he who allows himself to be offended is offended.

This is what I am trying to explain with my posts. We can only be offended if we ourselves allow it. If bad words are expressed against us we should not try to return with the same offense but instead try to not be hurt.

Remember that words have the effect on you according to the strength that you yourself give them, otherwise it falls without strength and has no weight.

Do not fall into provocations. Don't feel alluded to with the badly expressed words towards a group or towards yourself. Don't take words with the meaning that others want, give them your own meaning and make them mean nothing.

I'm @gertu13 from Venezuela.