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Being The Youngest

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[#145] Date: 21st October, 2021

When I was a kid and going around with my parents and siblings, when strangers got chatting with my parents, they liked to comment that I was a boy. When they were corrected, they then said, "Oh, youngest daughter? How precious."

How hateful, 'cos that's just too far from the truth. 😂 It's the common perception that being the youngest, we always get pampered by our parents, enjoy some luxuries in life, and generally get treated better compared to our older siblings.

This may be the case for most, even among my friends, but I know for a fact that it's not so with my family. Parents can deny all they want that they treat all children the same but nobody can beat that unique position of being the firstborn. From my observation, parents can handle two children at best. More than that and they run out of gas. They can't be bothered about hygiene or doing things for and with their subsequent children, because as the Chinese saying goes, "A child is God's gift, God will take care of him/her."

And if the age gap is wide between the children, the parents are older by then and lack stamina. For children who are older, they might even need to help care for their younger siblings. This also cannot be a sweeping statement, though, as I know of a girl who refused to take care of her younger brother, 11 years her junior, because, and I quote, "He is not my son." 😂

People who are close to me know that even as the youngest, I was never given preferential treatment. This is not the case of me playing victim, and I don't care either way whether I am treated better or not, because I am an adult now and my own individual. It's just that I love studying people and I've seen all sorts of parents, without passing judgment on whether they are doing right or wrong. I guess I can do so because I am not a parent myself, hence impartial. 😂

Even when you read up on the syndromes of birth orders being the oldest, middle or youngest child, the youngest is said to be overly pampered or coddled and is considered a negative trait. Again, in my family, whether oldest, middle or youngest, we were all overly-protected due to the deep-seated fear that our dad has of losing us somehow due to an accident or whatever.

The funny thing is that when my friends discovered that I'm the youngest in the family, and yet the one shouldering the bulk of the responsibilities, they joke that I was picked up from the dumpsite. Hahaha I actually would like to think that, but then again, when people look at us, they claim that we are from the same cookie cutter. There's no running away from DNA, even though I personally do not see it!

Oh yes, and then there is also the "only child syndrome", described as 'spoilt", which I think is almost the same as being the firstborn, especially when the second child arrives only after many years, some up to 12 years!

So, my question to you is, what is your birth order? Are you the oldest, middle child, or oldest? Or perhaps you are an only child? Are common perceptions or stereotyping about birth orders accurate in your case? I actually do see the traits in my older brother (authoritarian as the firstborn) and older sister (even-tempered as the middle child), but just not on myself, as the most precious baby of the family. Hahaha what a joke!

*Lead photo by Artem Podrez from Pexels

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I am the youngest devil. You are welcome dear 😋

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1 month ago

Hahaha I am the youngest also, but not a devil!!

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The last one is the most spoiled, that is not so, I say it with certainty, unless this changes here, the spoiled one in my house was my middle brother, I do not complain about that.

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1 month ago

hahaha... great to learn about your family dynamics.

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Does a first-born have privileges? It's more responsibility that we bear. You have to serve as role model for younger siblings, you have to take care and protect siblings... It can be a burden. Fortunately, our folks treated us all equally, as much as possible. I think it has to do with 1) my dad being away most of the time while we were growing up 2) my mother always had househelp, including nannies, who watched over the kids. We were taught about doing housework, especially since we were all girls, and to tidy up. Did our youngest sibling get preferential treatment? Nope. So the stereotypes about children, it's not in all families.

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I think it also depends on the age gap between the 1st and 2nd born. No one can take away the bond between the first child and parent, where the child enjoyed at least one year of getting sole attention.

I also think that the age of the parents also counts, when they have their last born. Also, how much hardship did the parents face in conceiving the child? Ah, so many factors come into play to equal the way children are treated by parents.

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1 month ago

Most of the stereotypes we hold about a child's position in the order are usually applicable in most cases. Of course, there might be exceptions, like you.

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The stereotypes are really sweeping, and cannot be applied on all families, but then there is truth in them, I think.

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1 month ago

It's very sad that even these days, the younger ones or the last ones in the family are no longer given any form of preferential treatment like what usually happens in the past when they were petted like babies and given all they had wanted

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1 month ago

Hahaha this never happened in my family. In fact, I am always the last to get anything.

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1 month ago

I'm the oldest. With all that that implies! :) I have a sister, 7 years younger than me

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Do you feel the responsibility of taking care of your sister, due to the big age gap?

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My sister is already married and with children. I keep abreast of her, but obviously she already has her life.

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I am the middle one in my siblings, but I don't think that parents can behave in this way, because they hold their every children dear, so behave equally.

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Most parents will say so, but I believe that they do have a favorite child or children, although most will not admit it.

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Being the eldest, it feels like I am expected to bring out the most value in our family. But thankfully that changed in the recent years.

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That is a real burden when you are expected to be a role model, or superhero who comes to their rescue. It is really tough but not all firstborns will take on this responsibility as you do.

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I'm the second child. But the only female child as well.

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Do you get preferential treatment? Not for being the second child, but for being the only girl?

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Yes, they treat me as a princess. But when it comes to fight, they will all gang up against me. But my mum and dad would always support me.

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