Share your thoughts
Some of you may relate about this matter or not, especially those not being in a relationship since birth? I was scrolling on TikTok when I saw this question,
"Do you believe you need to help your partner to be close to your family and vice versa?"
So, it made me think for about 10 seconds. Arot. I'm not sure how many seconds there were. XD Let me share my experiences with my 2 exes who I let my family meet (yung iba kasi hindi nagtagal kaya hindi na dapat ipakilala haha) and became close to them.
First, to my ex-boyfriend. We were already in a 2-year relationship when I introduced him to my parents. But my family has already known about my relationship with him since day one. It was supposed to be just a few months we had been together when I asked him to go to our house but he refused. Haha. Our friends teased him that he was scared of my father and my two brothers hahaha. Don't get me wrong, my family is kind. XD
Back to the main story, after the day he met my parents he always initiated to go here or drive me home. Then later on he always plays online games with me, my brothers, and my older sister. That became our bonding. Also, my mother always asks me to invite him whenever there are family gatherings and outings.
See. What if I didn't ask him to go here? He will not be close to my parents, especially to my siblings. But in my case, to his family, I'm not that close. I don't know, I feel like I'm not welcome at their house because of his mother. Haha.
Second, to my ex-girlfriend. We were in a 2 weeks relationship when she met one of the members of my family - my older brother. But before that, I already told my family that I have a girlfriend. At first, they wouldn't believe it since they didn't know about my past relationships. XD She met my brother unexpectedly. Haha. We were eating dinner that time when my brother asked me where I was. So, I told him where I am and I'm with my girlfriend. Then he really wanted to confirm if it was really true so he went there. He still couldn't believe it until I brought my girlfriend to our house.
She became close to one of my sisters only. She told me that she was shy. Well, she is a shy type of person. But unlike my ex-boyfriend, I became close to her family, her parents treat me like their child too. I really had a great time with her family as well as with her uncles and aunts. I even cook for them. Her mother is really one of a kind.
So, my answer is NYES. HAHA. It depends, some of us become close to them when our partner initiates but if we don't like to even if our partner helps us, it's useless. Like in my ex-boyfriend haha sorry I just don't like the aura of her mother.
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