Remember that YOU are in control of your life more than anyone else. Sure we can blame the economy, our upbringing, our partner, politicians, bosses at work...and if all of that fails we can always blame God. When we do this we are giving our power away. But ultimately, its never out there, but always in here. This sums it up nicely: "Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings & emotions." ~ Will Smith Note: if you are the victim or someone's abuse, I am absolutely NOT justifying their poor behavior. What I am saying is they wont care enough to help you, so you must do it yourself.