Don’t Set Goals for 2022 The more New Year’s resolutions you set, the faster you’ll feel like a failure. I used to pick five, seven, ten new goals each year. Sadly, making it from New Year’s Eve to January 1st never turned me into Superman. I was still the same old me, still hopelessly overwhelmed with trying to change too much all at once. Within a month or so, I failed and had to start over. Smaller. With lower expectations. For a few years, I gave up on resolutions entirely. Then, instead of a barrage of targets, I tried setting one goal, and that worked a lot better. The real game-changer, however, was using a different concept altogether. That concept is a theme. A theme is a laid-back, human-proof, considerate approach to improvement. Having set one for several years, I now think themes are 10x, maybe 100x better than goals. Let me explain why and how you can set one. Goals are a bad way of trying to achieve happiness. But why? First, goals are a constant source of pressure until you achieve them. They undermine your self-worth. You feel like you “lack” the result of the goal, and until you fix it, your self-esteem will remain in the dumps. Second — and this is even worse — when you do achieve a goal, your sense of fulfillment never lasts. You celebrate for a minute, then move the goal post (pun intended) and set your sights on the next one. Let’s say you want to be a millionaire. You work your ass off, but for the better part of a decade, you feel totally inadequate. You constantly compare yourself to existing millionaires and always come to the same conclusion: You’re not measuring up. Regardless, you grit your teeth and persist. One day, you hit the magic $1 million mark. You jump with joy. You pop the champagne. You walk around like you own the world for a day. The next morning, however, you wake up and go: “Okay, now what?” You realize the million means nothing. Maybe it’s not liquid. You don’t actually have it in cash. And anyway, it’s not enough. A million’s not what it used to be! You start worrying about inflation. You look up house prices. My god, a flat now costs $500,000! It only takes a few minutes for you to decide you need $10 million instead. This might sound ridiculous, but you know it’s true. Moments like this happen all the time. Every day, millions of people turn their greatest achievements into ashes in their minds. https://www.trybooking.com/BWOOW https://www.trybooking.com/BWOOY https://www.trybooking.com/BWOPB https://www.trybooking.com/BWOPC https://www.trybooking.com/BWOPD https://www.trybooking.com/BWOPE https://www.trybooking.com/BWOPF https://www.trybooking.com/BWOPG https://minimore.com/b/WgGNq/1 https://www.bankier.pl/forum/temat_btc-new-over-20-000-bitcoin-atms-installed-in-a-year,51989691.html https://steemkr.com/news/@cacareth/tiktok https://www.blockdit.com/posts/61cead6df26bb24fc11c290b
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