I Want A Child At 35

First I thought that you wanted to trick a one night stand into becoming a father. 🙈 I'm glad that's not the case. 😅

I don't think I could find a husband material. Someone who will truly love me unconditionally. Someone willing to take me as I am.

Why do you believe that?

I hate to say it, but are you unwilling to work on yourself for the sake of having a relationship?

I think Eybyoung gave you really good advice. Having a child is not all about completing your life. It's also - or probably even more about the child.

I'm not the best person to suggest that, but it would be better for the child to have parents who are doing well together.

I understand that you don't want to put yourself in a vulnerable position. However, maybe you can find a partner who you can live and raise the child together with - even if you're not heads over heels in love with him.

Hmm your plan is nice but try to consider the baby welfare growing up without a dad, take it from me. No matter how much you poured love to the child he/she will be incomplete, in the later he/she will start asking who is her/his dad.. and felt insecure, inferior and anything that has something to do with psychological and mental aspects.

I am sorry for all the heartbreakers you have..but pray that someone will come to help you fulfill your dreams without leaving you. Please learn to trust again but with limits, and know that there is no perfect relationship, we always have lapses so we should expand our patience to compromise.

I like something about your plan, good luck!

I think it's very good that you want to be a mother. But I’d be afraid the dad would kick up the rules he initially accepted once. I don't really know how this works, can't you get / buy sperm from a sperm bank and artificially fertilize you? If you don’t want a man in your life by any means, this might be the best option.

It's a serious matter that need to think many times and feeling ko naman napag isipan mo na ng ilang beses so, support kita jan sis kasi I can't judge you if yan talaga gusto mo at pananaw mo. As long as it makes you happy and fulfilled diba 😊😊😊 I hope when that time comes meron pa, rin ang read.cash 😊 para mawitness namin yun.😁😁😊

-Hi Sis! It's a brave and bold decision..and I admire you for your determination and courage. But having a biological child only comes with Gods blessing through any way or instrument., like having a husband, that is the legitimate way in moral aspect, yet each of us has our destiny even the child that is going to be born because each has its purpose why we need to exist here in the mortal world, because of Gods plan for us with a purpose. Maybe your plan may be the way for you to have a child..but please take extra careful Sis, you should know well the person even face to face. it's not as easy as ABC, there is a physical involvement, you could never be sure of your feelings, and at the same time of the guy's intention. Please don't get offended it's a payong kapatid ha? Have a soul searching and spiritual unwinding..ask it religiously with God and he will give it to you in the right way in his perfect time, this kind of thing that only God could ever decide when it will really come to you ok? I have a n adopted child, I got him at the age of 18 because I witnessed how his mother died from giving birth to him, since I could afford to raise a child with the help of family I spent a lot of money to get him because you know well the policy here in the Philippines 🇵🇭, without money influence so hard to adopt legally then I was so young that time and single..but in the future I also wishing to have 2 to 3 children as I get married..thats why I also need to become an NBI to investigate well, my husband to be in the future hehheh! Just kidding...Career goal first for me this time...All I want to say Sis..seek Gods guidance..ask this according to his will ok? He has plans for you..enjoy life..you are a blessing to your siblings kids and to others just enjoy what's in your hand..count your blessings! When you walk in Gods path pretty sure you will get the best thing for you..I could never say it's a child or a husband..what is sure to happen IS, what's best for you is what God will give to you! So cheer up! You are beautiful, brave and courageous..your worth is a gem! OK always think of that!!!! Love lots Sis! ❤ Have a blessed day!🌷

Being a mother is a big responsible. That's why even my mom and I are not close, I really loved her , honor her and respect her. When I still young I always say that I just want a child, but seing those people that still looking for a father even their mom is already enough and raised them well, the longingness having a father is still there. The first foster kids that we foster before and now adopted of Americans, still longing for their real parents. Adoption - that's my line before, I don't like to adopt. But when we became a foster family saw alot of babies being abandoned, I was like - I'm going to adopt if I can. It's not their fault to be born without a parent. It's like my cat, I adopt straycat instead buying. Breed because no one wants to adopt them and give them a good shelter. And I neutered him because I don't want him to pregnant other stray female cats and abandoned them 😂✌️. For me, adoption is not bad. Even God adopt us because his original tribe is Israel ,Jew .. but us pagan adopted him because of his unconditional love. Oh davah article na.. 😂. Wala lang 😂..

sis basin naa d ay moabot..pila na imo edad? getting pregnant at 35 indeed has a lot of risks.. I was 33 when I gave birth to Matti, it was hard. If I knew mas okay mabuntis na bata pa, mas bata pa unta ko nagpabuntis..hehe anyway, basin naay plan si Lord nimo.. we'll never know.. commit to Him your heart's desires and plans...

Sa totoo lng sis meron dto samin gusto din mgkababy nang walang husband. And yes, nafulfill nya ang goal nya. Ngwork sa abroad ay yung amo nyang lalaki ngkaanak sla at no strings attached. Nung nbuntis na sya umuwi sya ng Pinas at dto na ngstay. By the way nag ipon muna sya for the future bago inexecute ang plan nya. And now malaki na baby nya kasing edad ng baby boy ko, going 2 years old na. 😊 I think walang masama dun as long as wala ka nmn inaagrabyado. Wanting a baby isn't a sin after all. Pero who knows the right guy will love you and be blessed to have a child with you. ❤️

considering the reason, i support your decision but a decent man first not the one with future problem as you mentioned. Good luck in finding the right one

Wishing and praying for you to have it, Ate. But, unlike you, mas gusto ko na may lalaki sa tabi mo. A man that will accept who you are, with a disability or none. I know that bcz my Mama had proved that. Papa also has a disability, but Mama still love and accepted him, wholeheartedly. Maybe you say that you can't find that man, but you can. Kusa 'syang dadating for you :) Same as your baby, your own baby.

My dear this is not being desperate. It is called making one's stand and working towards actualizing it. Its your decision and no one can alr you. Goodluck in your search for the right man. I hope you'll get one soon.

Your desire for baby is legit and it is your right po. I am about 23. Yeah! It was good you fixed terms and conditions. It was sad you are also broken hearted like me. I always desire to visit Philippines and surely I would do that. I shall pray for both your good husband 1st and your baby next. Sooner you will get good result.

Good luck in achieving you dream...dont be discouraged, I see a great significance to what you intend doing. And who said you wont find someone who loves you for you are and understand you...I have seen it with my own eyes happen. Also just commit it to God.

I feel ko din po iyan pinag dadaanan mo friend. Gusto ko na rin pong mag ka baby pero may mga priorities pa na dapat mauna. Mag 30 na rin ako next year, si dapat talaga magkaroon na bago pa magsara ang bahay bata natin friend. Pero di rin naman natin alam kung ano ang mangyayari dahil si papa God lang ang nakakaalam sa kung ano ang mangyayari.

Gusto ko yan. Kaso ayoko pla ng broken family 😅 at yung iisipin ng anak paglaki na walang tatay 😢 Kya better single nlng forever.. Total dami ko kapatid 🤣

Totoo yang sinasabi mo sis na pag nag 30s kana mahihiraoan kana talaga sa pagbubuntis mo pero pag nasa tamang paghandle ang pregnancy is hindi naman risky. Pero kadalasan pag ganyang edad na nabuntis padalas cs bihira na ang normal. Hindi naman sa desperate ka kundi isa talaga yan sa mga gusto natin na magka anak

Naisip ko din yan dati yung gusto ko Lang anak at ayoko na mag asawa dahil puro heartbreaks Lang nararanasan ko but I end up having a happy family now. Ipagpray mo Lang MJ. I know God has some plans in you. Wag mo isipin na wala nagmamahal sayo unconditionality.

Speechless. I usually thought that this ideas only happen in dramas. But here you are, so bold and brave to exposed what you really want. I salute you for that. Well, I respect you and your decisions. Wish you the best in life 🤗

You need to get a man first lol

So, you want to conceive naturally but only want a man for a sperm donor. If you want to eliminate emotions from the equation that may be a little difficult. Your best bet would probably be IVF with an anonymous donor. And from a fertility specialist I spoke to before, a woman's egg ages faster after 35 so if you want to preserve the quality of yours, harvest it at a much younger age. The older the egg, the more difficult it is to fertilize and conceive.

I support! Haha 😊