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CHEATING: Reasons why I am afraid of relationships before.
Yepeeehh! Last day of the month of June, harvest time lalalala. Joke! I am just excited to see how much BCH I accumulated within this month. I am planing to split my earnings though. Some of my Bch I will put on my coinsph for me to have extra money if I need something to buy and some of it will be added to my GOAL Wallet for my HODL. I learned it from sis @leejhen before when she replied to my comment in one of her articles.
Okay, enough with the chit chat. If ever you have read my article yesterday, it was about cheating as well. You can read it here. But I plan to write another article about Cheating today and now it's about me.
I am afraid to be cheated like my friends who experienced it. They went through a lot and almost lost themselves because of the guy who they loved and trust so much. I saw how messed they are when they felt the heartache of being betrayed through cheating.
What happened to my friends that made me afraid of having a relationship after their partner cheated on them?
When they learned that their partner cheated on them. They look for the girl who's now the new girlfriend of their exes. And they will start to do self pity. Sometimes they compare their self to the girl and start bad mouthing. I don't want to experience it and I don't want to see myself degrading other people just because of heartache. But I can't tell it really coz I never experienced it though, maybe if that happened (wag naman sana), I might not know my self too. Insecurities will activate coz they will compare their self to the girl and then look at their self like they're the ugliest person in the world even they're not. They start asking if they're ugly or not sexy to be cheated on. They start asking if they have bad attitude why their ex cheated on them. And that's tiresome. So tired answering their questions that sometimes I want to slap them hard so that they will be awaken to the reality that their ex were not contented with them. But I restrain myself doing it though coz they're in pain, I should understand them.
Losing self-esteem or confidence.
Because of the cheating happened with their relationship, some of my friends lost their confidence. They're not confident anymore about their self and asked to which they done wrong and what's lack with them for their partners to cheat on them. They're not confident to have a new relationship and some of them closed their doors. Cheating gave them the trauma.
After experiencing cheating from their partners, they have trust issues. They won't easily swayed anymore and all they think is that all guys were the same and that guys were not trustworthy. They always have something to say if they see guys having sweet gesture to their partners. Sometimes they're telling me that there's no forever coz boys don't know how to be contented and boys were good at first only. But when time goes by, boys will change.
Forget to take care of their self.
My friends were body conscious but after they felt broken hearted because of cheating, they forgot to take care of their self. They lost appetite and don't even take time to fixed their self. That is why I remind them that they should take care of their self and let their ex realize what's mistake they've done for cheating my friends. I also told them that drinking liquor is not the solution. Some of my friends will drink liquor to forget the pain but then I know after that they will still remember what had happened and they will just have a hang over. I am just glad that they've listened to me. And they took care of their self. Some of them went to salon and have new haircut and all. O don't know what's with the haircut after break up, is it compulsory for moving on? Lol.
These are the reasons why I didn't have a relationship when I was a teenager and even after high school, coz I don't want to experience heartache because of cheating. I knew some of relationships during early stage won't last long and some of the reason os because of cheating. It is because teenagers were curious about things while growing. I am not saying all coz I also knew someone who have a relationship at the age of 13 but ends up a good marriage with her partner. It just that I am not trusting guys words before coz were still young and I end up declining their favor. And it makes me cringe too coz ew talaga ehh hahaha wala pa sa utak ko makipagrelasyon sa batang edad.
I am just glad that my friends already moved on and now have their own family and they've found the right man for them. The man who's loyal and faithful with, now they're living happy with their families. But yeah, they already experienced the pain from cheating.
Cheating is a choice. I don't believe that some partners will tell that it's just a coincidence and that they will not do it again. I will just believe if they done the act than just words. I knew someone who always tell that he won't cheat again but then he's doing it many times. If you're not happy with the relationship you are in, you can leave but explain. Just don't make the other a fool coz it's still a sin and unforgivable. You don't know what cheating in a relationship can make the person to be. Some lost their self and mind. And you know what's worst.
So, this is my second entry of the prompt #6 which is about CHEATING. If you want to write an article about it, you can follow the rules below.
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How about you? Are you afraid of being cheated? What do you think will you do of your partner cheats on you? A horror it os right? You can share your thoughts in the comment section. Thanks.