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CHEATING: Reasons why I am afraid of relationships before.

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June 30, 2021

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Okay, enough with the chit chat. If ever you have read my article yesterday, it was about cheating as well. You can read it here. But I plan to write another article about Cheating today and now it's about me.

We all have reasons in terms of relationships of how and when we would like to enter a kind of it with a partner. Relationship will always depends it's flow between two partners and on how they brought it.

So why am I afraid of relationships before? The answer is because of CHEATING.

I am afraid to be cheated like my friends who experienced it. They went through a lot and almost lost themselves because of the guy who they loved and trust so much. I saw how messed they are when they felt the heartache of being betrayed through cheating.

What happened to my friends that made me afraid of having a relationship after their partner cheated on them?

  • Insecurities heightened.

When they learned that their partner cheated on them. They look for the girl who's now the new girlfriend of their exes. And they will start to do self pity. Sometimes they compare their self to the girl and start bad mouthing. I don't want to experience it and I don't want to see myself degrading other people just because of heartache. But I can't tell it really coz I never experienced it though, maybe if that happened (wag naman sana), I might not know my self too. Insecurities will activate coz they will compare their self to the girl and then look at their self like they're the ugliest person in the world even they're not. They start asking if they're ugly or not sexy to be cheated on. They start asking if they have bad attitude why their ex cheated on them. And that's tiresome. So tired answering their questions that sometimes I want to slap them hard so that they will be awaken to the reality that their ex were not contented with them. But I restrain myself doing it though coz they're in pain, I should understand them.

  • Losing self-esteem or confidence.

Because of the cheating happened with their relationship, some of my friends lost their confidence. They're not confident anymore about their self and asked to which they done wrong and what's lack with them for their partners to cheat on them. They're not confident to have a new relationship and some of them closed their doors. Cheating gave them the trauma.

  • Trust Issues

After experiencing cheating from their partners, they have trust issues. They won't easily swayed anymore and all they think is that all guys were the same and that guys were not trustworthy. They always have something to say if they see guys having sweet gesture to their partners. Sometimes they're telling me that there's no forever coz boys don't know how to be contented and boys were good at first only. But when time goes by, boys will change.

  • Forget to take care of their self.

My friends were body conscious but after they felt broken hearted because of cheating, they forgot to take care of their self. They lost appetite and don't even take time to fixed their self. That is why I remind them that they should take care of their self and let their ex realize what's mistake they've done for cheating my friends. I also told them that drinking liquor is not the solution. Some of my friends will drink liquor to forget the pain but then I know after that they will still remember what had happened and they will just have a hang over. I am just glad that they've listened to me. And they took care of their self. Some of them went to salon and have new haircut and all. O don't know what's with the haircut after break up, is it compulsory for moving on? Lol.

Closing Thoughts

These are the reasons why I didn't have a relationship when I was a teenager and even after high school, coz I don't want to experience heartache because of cheating. I knew some of relationships during early stage won't last long and some of the reason os because of cheating. It is because teenagers were curious about things while growing. I am not saying all coz I also knew someone who have a relationship at the age of 13 but ends up a good marriage with her partner. It just that I am not trusting guys words before coz were still young and I end up declining their favor. And it makes me cringe too coz ew talaga ehh hahaha wala pa sa utak ko makipagrelasyon sa batang edad.

I am just glad that my friends already moved on and now have their own family and they've found the right man for them. The man who's loyal and faithful with, now they're living happy with their families. But yeah, they already experienced the pain from cheating.

Cheating is a choice. I don't believe that some partners will tell that it's just a coincidence and that they will not do it again. I will just believe if they done the act than just words. I knew someone who always tell that he won't cheat again but then he's doing it many times. If you're not happy with the relationship you are in, you can leave but explain. Just don't make the other a fool coz it's still a sin and unforgivable. You don't know what cheating in a relationship can make the person to be. Some lost their self and mind. And you know what's worst.

  • So, this is my second entry of the prompt #6 which is about CHEATING. If you want to write an article about it, you can follow the rules below.

  1. Write about cheating.

  2. Write 100% original conten

  3. Write at least 600 wor

  4. Tag me @JonicaBradl

  5. Have fun.

How about you? Are you afraid of being cheated? What do you think will you do of your partner cheats on you? A horror it os right? You can share your thoughts in the comment section. Thanks.

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I am also afraid of entering such ki d of relationship until now because of the experiences of almost all my friends. they have been very loyal ang faithful to their partners but what happened is they are the one being betrayed by their lover. I am afraid of being left behind by the people I love so I decided not to have that kind of relationship.

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3 months ago

Kya ayoko na magmahal ulit kc ayoko mka experience icheat ulit ๐Ÿ˜…

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3 months ago

Nasaktan na talaga to ehh. Malalim sis ano? Kaya nawawalan na ng tiwala karamihan sa mga babae eh.

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3 months ago

Yeah, I have read your last article. I am also a bit afraid of being cheated. Though i will try to write an article on, why cheating is important. I guess i will complete it soon ๐Ÿ˜Š

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3 months ago

You can do it. โ˜บ๏ธ I will read it for sure.

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3 months ago

I didnโ€™t experience getting cheated on thankfully. Hindi naman lahat ng lalaki cheater dapat maging wise din tayo sa pag pili ng matinong lalaki. At hindi lang di lalaki yung nag ch-cheat, pati rin Choice na nila kung mag cheat sila. Theyโ€™re not worth it. Let them go.

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3 months ago

Tama ka sis. Dapat alamin muna natin bago pumasok sa isang relasyon.

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3 months ago

yung "trust issues" talaga sakin big deal mare...haaaaayyyy di na siguro mawawala sa sistema ko yan!

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3 months ago

Oo meron din ako nyan mare pero sa mga friends lng. Kasi may tiwala nmn ako sa partner ko now pero dati trust issues ko grabe. Yung parang lahat ng sinasabi ng mga lalaki puro lies.

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3 months ago

di talaga maiiwasan yan eh..mabibilang nalang sa kamay mga matitino ngayon

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3 months ago

Kaya nga ehm Mahirap na mangilatis. Minsan kasi kung sino pa yung matino tingnan, sila pala yung may mga tinatago. Haha

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3 months ago

tumpak na tumpak talaga ka jan mare haaaayyyy

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3 months ago

Ang daming Nag Publish ng about sa cheat mare haha ๐Ÿ˜… marami kasing cheater sa mundo ako cheater din ako pero sa ibang bagay hindi sa Love ๐Ÿ˜Š minsan kasi hindi natin maiiwasan na mag cheat sa magulang natin para sa ikakabuti nila .

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3 months ago

Hmm. Nag iisip ako ng bagay na nag cheat ako sa magulang ko. Yung cheat lng guro na nagawa ko kina mama at papa yung sinabi ko na "okay lang ako at kaya ko pa" noong college ako pwro deep inside subrang pagod na ako at need ko sila. Kaso nga lng kailangan ko magpakatatag para sa kanila.

Gawam mo ng story sayo mare โ˜บ๏ธ

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3 months ago

Hindi kasi ako sanay gumawa ng story about sa sarili ko mare haha๐Ÿ˜… ako naman noong may work pa ako lahat ng sahod ko binibigay ko . Sinasabi ko sakanila na okay lang ganorn ganorb para yung saya sa mga mukha nila ay hindi mawala ๐Ÿ˜Š

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3 months ago

Ayyy oo. Kaya nga sis ako din sibra saya ko na may kita ako dito kasi nakakapag bigay ako sa kanila kahit andito ako sa malayo at may sarili ng pamilya.

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3 months ago

We have same perspectives sis.

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3 months ago

Hihihi aper tayo jan sis. โ˜บ๏ธ

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3 months ago

๐Ÿ™ - apir emoji HAHAHA

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3 months ago

Mas masakit pala sa part ng babae kapag nakakaranas ng break up noh, lalo na kapag nagcheat ung partner. Tama ung sinabi mo sa huli na teenagers are just curious about love, kaya nga madaling masira ang relasyon ng kabataan dahil di pa alam ang true meaning ng love. Sabi nga ng iba wala ng masama subukan as long as alam ang limitation.โค

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3 months ago

Oo naman. Basta alam lng ang tama at mali kaso nga lng karamihan sa mga young ones, nasisilaw sa saya kaya wala din patutunguhan minsan ang relasyon.

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3 months ago

Ako din takot ako maloko huhu. Sakit nuun if ever.

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3 months ago

Subra guro mare.

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3 months ago

My gf cheated on me before thats why same as you I'm afraid to be in a relationship once again and to be cheated again . I'll just wait for the right person to come.

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3 months ago

For guys, I think it's easy to know a girl that can be trusted and not. Unlike girls, we have difficulties in knowing guys deep coz lots of boys now knows how to impress girls with their fake attitudes. Anyway, I hope you'll found the right girl for you โ˜บ๏ธ

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3 months ago

Yes po. And nakakahiya po yun as a man po.

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3 months ago

Thank God you are no longer afraid. Cheating is a choice and whoever determined not to cheat would not.

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3 months ago

I was not afraid anymore coz I already found a man who I trusted most. I am just glad I never experienced to be cheated. โ˜บ๏ธ

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3 months ago

Thank God ooo

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3 months ago

I am really aware from going into a relationship. I saw my brother's best friends get cheated. My cousin once loved a girl who did not love him. But he was after the girl for almost 6 months. After that the girl became really angry and said so much hurtful word's that even after 1 year he does not dare to go near any other girls. I don't even have any female friends cause I hate relationship so much after seeing these cheating and hurtful things.

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3 months ago

Hindi ko na ulit hahayaan na maloko akoooo huhu. May trust issues din talaga ako e. Haha

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3 months ago

Hirap pa nmn pag ganun ano sis? Kasi hirap na ibalik ang tiwala ehh.

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3 months ago

Kaya sis, hirap talaga pag nasira na.

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3 months ago

So faaaar gyud te ay hinguyab sad ko ba, charot! Pero wala pa nuon ko na cheatan. But kadaghan nako nga akoy gibulagan. Hahahaha and its so true gyud nga mao nay mga mafeel sa girl bitaw. Tanan maquestion nimo which is dili unta maayo. In the first place unta, kita may giduol. But wala man tay mabuhat gyud ay, accept nalang gyud. But make sure to learn sad. Girls deserve better. Kanang kaya mu stand sa ilang gipangsulti sa nanguyab pa tahay. Hays! Hahahahaha

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3 months ago

Hahaha mao man dai. Saon ta man wa tay mahimz jud ana ๐Ÿ˜‚

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3 months ago

Trueeeeeee hahahaha maong hadlok na musud na sad ug bag o relationship, maka trauma. ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿคฃ

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3 months ago

Okay ra na dai. Ibig sabihin dai naay mas better na muabot. Huwata na lng hihihi. ๐Ÿ’œ

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3 months ago

Sakto. Puhon maka ingon nalang ko, "Its worth the wait." ๐Ÿ’œ

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3 months ago

Basta ako, relax lang ako dito ๐Ÿ˜‚. No to serious relationship - dun tayo sa di masasaktan!!!!

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3 months ago

Hahaha kaya nga. Dun na tayo sa di tayo masasaktan. Wait na lng si the right haha

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3 months ago

Hahaha, pag nainip ako ako na pupunta sa kanya wahaha

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3 months ago

You are so right my friend. It is a choice and a lot of consequences comes as a result of it and not just on a general now but even personally on the person who did it and the person it was done against.

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3 months ago

Thank you my friend. โ˜บ๏ธ

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3 months ago

Anytime.

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3 months ago

Are you afraid of being cheated?

yes. 100% sagad sagad mare kasi sobrang diko talaga kakayanin yan. Kaya ayoko na din makipag boyfriend sa ngayon ilang beses akong niloko, ang resulta nakakatakot na ulit sumubok.

What do you think will you do of your partner cheats on you?

wala naman akong gagawin mare. Magsama silang dalawa. Kasi mas mahal ko na sarili ko that time binuild up ko talaga yung lakas ko sa mga panahon na yan kung mangyayari man sakin ulit. Kasi kung talagang mahal ka ng isang tao, di kaniya magagawang ipagpalit. Hayyy

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3 months ago

Hi Ma'am salamat ulit sa pag upvote...Ganda po mga sulat niyo nakakaaddict basahin..

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3 months ago

Omg I'm guilty. I got cheated but most of the time, I do realize I was really the cheater.

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3 months ago

Cheating is a choice. Always bear in mind, cheating can destroy everything especially the trust you have on that person. Be a good partner all the time and cherish every minute. More articles and God bless Flor..๐Ÿ˜‡โค๏ธ

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3 months ago

Cheating is a choice. Minsan talaga mas pinipili nalang nila mag cheat kasi hindi talaga nila sineryoso yung salitang 'Love'

If someone really know what is love, the word cheating won't occur in the man's vocabulary.

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3 months ago

True sis. Kaya nga sabi ko dati di ako makikipagrelasyon kung di pa sya ang right man. Gusto ko kasi frist bf ko sya na maging asawa ko. ๐Ÿ˜…

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3 months ago

Yes po, naniniwala pa rin ako sa tamang panahon. Kapag minadali ang kasal, maraming magssuffer at lalo na yung bride

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