Newly found Family

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As I was perusing on articles here in read.Cash, I stumbled an article of @sc about having a family, however the feeling of belongingness, she discovered it in her friends family.

Subsequent to understanding it, I come to understand that we do have similar sentiments. However I found the love and acceptance from my newly found family.

I do have my own family and family members yet I don't feel the glow I ached to feel from them. Despite the fact that occasionally we assembled, I can feel that something is inadequate. I even heard somebody from my own family saying that I am the most extraordinary among them.( Different in a way that I generally negate what my mom is tellng me and don't go with their stream. I'm additionally somewhat tight with cash according to them) . Somewhere inside I just thought, "Obviously, what do you anticipate from me? "

I grew up away from them and I was adjusting the characters and attributes of my foster parents,(I was with my stepmother more often since we are the only one left at home when my stepdad left for work for how many months so the greater chance I got a portion of her qualities. ) She was a strict one and so stingy.

What's my point

Before I moved in to my spouses' family house, I however thought I would be left out. I have a character that doesn't need or dread being dismissed. I have questions and heaps of what-ifs uncertainties. Consider the possibility that they don't acknowledge me?Β  What if they discover defects in me in which they don't like. For sure if my in-laws have negative qualities and will show it to me when my husband is away. These sort of contemplations were impacts of reading paperbacks and watching motion pictures of marriage which has negative stories during moving in of a couple into one's family.

The Reality

I let it out was not that simple from the start since you need to adapt with your in-laws. I don't need them to discover anything amiss with me.But I learned not to be plastic. Though I want to adapt to them, I stayed being real.

Every one of the works on the farm I normally learned it from them. From clearing the ricefield to sowing, harvesting and cultivating. I never heard negative words from them ( only the second to last of my spouse's kin since she was given cash by my husband for fare and she is complaining it's insufficient and told her friends my husband and I were both stingy. 😜 Well, I understand,she's still immature that time.

I lived with my grandmother when I returned here in our barrio from the city so I wasn't prepared to do cultivate works because the vast majority of the day and week I was in school. I just aided her at the end of the week. So everything in association with the farm I discovered it from my new family.

Not to gloat but rather I am closer to my inlaws than any of my spouse's siblings wives. This is because I learned to figure out how to change and adjust to my environmental factors and the circumstances I am in.
During occasion social affairs, I even really like to go along with them than my family members when it happened that they come and visit in here. I'm more comfortable with them.

I was with my daughter looking for a fish when in fact it was a tadpole. πŸ€«πŸ˜…
Another family outing. This was taken on Monday. I was supposed to do something important but one of my sister-in-law arrived for a very long time staying in the city and it was their departure the following day.

Here I have taken in something from mothers a lot more aged than me giving me marriage advice. I couldn't say whether it is appropriate to you yet it is to me. One thing I learned is never to have to fight with your in-laws as much as possible. It's hard to bring back the great connection between you towards them. Even though there is acceptance after tension is done, the recollections will remain and they will at the forefront of your thoughts and vice versa. Having a misunderstanding with your kin is far better than having a conflict with your in-laws. It is because regardless of what occurred, they are your brothers and sisters by blood. Someday somehow you will be on acceptable terms again and will feel that misconception is only something normal since you were children.

_When there is a major issue with you and your husband, don't rush to your folks if you realize that they are the bias kind. They would pick your side however you will not be determined how is the proper thing to deal with resolving your concern yet they will simply make you more unequipped for addressing your own. They would just add fire to the ash. They would accept all that you say and will not discover the reason for your conflicts.

_Don't invest more energy with singlesπŸ˜….

Hep! Singles don't get me wrong. It is based on my experience. What I mean is, singles have an unpredictable outlook in comparison to wedded ones. If you know that your friends you believe are matured thinkers, you will have no issue with that. But being with singles with various outlook, you will not grow. They will drag you to live like how they exist. Rather than figuring out how to carry on with a wedded life, you will be enticed to return to your bygone eras (being carefree and happy-go-lucky). It's not bad having contacts with them occasionally because you can't delete the associations among you and your friends since they were part of the years where you enjoyed your single life. They were essential for your lives but...there is a limit.😊If you want to grow, go with people about your level. People who are more knowledgeable of the situation you are about to enter. That way, you will be directed to the right path you should step on.

Again, I wrote this based on my experience. If anything contradicts your perception, you are free to comment down your thoughts.😊

Thanks a lot for having the time in reading my article.😊

>Xzeon<


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You are a very capable and hard-working woman. You also know how to be grateful to those who reach out to you. Life will reward you for your great efforts.

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2 years ago

Aww thank you for the good words... I hope so... 😊

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Oh it's good to see my name there hehe.

Before I moved in to my spouses' family house, I however thought I would be left out. I have a character that doesn't need or dread being dismissed. I have questions and heaps of what-ifs uncertainties.

Same sentiments as I have now. This is also one of the reasons why I intend to remain single because I don't think my personality will fit in with other families. What if my husband's family bullies me? Then I don't have a choice but to leave him because I'm not a martyr to carry on with bullying hehe But I guess, based on your story those are just what ifs uncertainties, there's a possibility it won't happen.

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2 years ago

Oh yes naman. But in my case I didn't have the chance to know my in-laws better kaya dami kong uncertainties because its abrupt. In your case naman siyempre know your partners background and his parties. Make bonding para slowly makikita mo kung ano sila.

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2 years ago

Still I wanna be alone I hate responsibilities and relativesπŸ˜‘πŸ˜‘

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2 years ago

Do you think you can run away from it? 😜 We have only 2 portals to enter to marry and die and to die single.😁

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2 years ago

To die singleee🍾🍾🍾🍾🍾🍾 But wanna adopt kids. Single father🌚🌚

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2 years ago

Well see to that 😁

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2 years ago

πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ Ok ok... now you sound like my mom😐😐😐

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2 years ago

So sa mga single ako makikigrupo ganun? 🀣🀣 Pro friends ko may mga anak na 🀣🀣

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2 years ago

Hahaha.. Hindi naman. Maganda naman mindset mo why not.. May mga case kasi na kung sino pa may asawa siya pa yung childish. Baka ikaw pa magtuturo para tumino sila at maging mature. 🀣Mostly kasi yung mga tulad mo na alam ang responsibility ay walang problema pagdating sa samahan. May it be towards wedded ones or singles. 😊

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2 years ago

any of my spouse's wives..

Bsta yan kumuha sa attention q jiji.. pero d rest, mpapasana ol n lng aq dhil sa advices.

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2 years ago

Asan? 😜 I was editing it while on the jeepney... I think i misclicked the word before the spouse. 🀣🀣🀣

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2 years ago

πŸ˜… ewan q qng aq lng nkapansin nun, prang ilan kaung asawa jaja.. ayun edited nman na

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2 years ago

😜🀫 Oo inedit ko na. Wag maingay jaja

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