I didn't know you were like that, I can't take this anymore,It's enough.
Yesterday I have a conversation with my friend who is married for 1 year, she's 48 years old and shes crying because they have an argument with her husband and her way of escaped is walk out and go somewhere.She had to pour out her emotions and need someone to talk.Of course,i also have an imperfect relationship but willing to listen.
Most of the time women is to cry when being hurt emotionally rather than fighting back physically.
At some point, marriage life on the first year is full of adjustments and new discoveries in character and behavior that is not shown during the courtship moments. From what I have heard with my friend that she almost leave her husband because of a very unlikely attitude towards here like yelling and very conservative.But she has realized that she has a vow to be with him forever,and it's what makes her stay.
One of the adjustments we had is with conversation.
Sometimes talking to each other will just lead us an argue or misunderstanding most of the time.But time goes on,I learned not to talk back when he is mad or I'm mad,I just let myself rest first and take a break from talking. A good conversation always starts with listening to your spouse before giving any reactions or comments to his suggestions.
Another thing is when your partner or spouse doesn't want you to wear shorts. Have you experienced that? One of my friends told me that her husband gets mad when she wears shorts. Then they get to fight until the neighbor cab hears them, so sad about that. Later on, she follow what her husband wants her to do, she just wears shorts inside the house.
There are a lot of small and big things which have become a reason for breakup or misunderstandings.
Marriage adjustments always happen and it will test love and commitment for couples on how really serious they are on working out with their relationship and will they be able to stay longer.
One of the basic attitudes is understanding each other.With all the new things that we can learn to our spouse.Are we able to accept those weaknesses.Remember that, when we give vow to our wedding ceremony it is for better or for worst.
It's not all the time that adjustments becomes worst if we just let love prevail in our relationship and don't allowed any hindrances to hold us back.
When we commit marriage life, we mean it forever.Adjustments can happen everytime, anytime, but once we can pass this all it will be settle.
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We have a lot to adjust and adapt,when we enter marriage life.