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Unwanted Love Can Be A Crime

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1 year ago

Have you ever been told "Stop it, i don't love you" it hurts real bad indeed. We decide who we want to give our hearts to, we all know who we love but its not our pick to choose who love us back. For all we care, that person we love can very much be in love with another person in return, what can we do about that? Its lovely when the love is reciprocated otherwise its very hurtful when it feels like you're being a burden because you love someone, so love that's unwanted could be a crime, you want to give but they don't want to receive, this call for emotional intelligence, learn how to deal with this.

There are two ways to navigate around this however, its called the Hard way and the Easy way, the easy way is also hard though but not compared to the hard way. There is eventually no way to prevent the heart from getting hurt, matters of the heart are always fragile, and since it's a matter that you can't help control, its solely on the next individual to call the shot that would determine what's going to happen next, we can only pray and hope they want us back, if not, we've got to deal with the heartbreak.

Let's start from the easy way I guess, like I wrote earlier, the easy way really isn't easy, it's just easier than the next. That moment you have been told "Stop, I don't Love You", or their attitude towards you have shown such, it is easier to let that anger build up a little and just call it a quit, like what I'm I disturbing myself over, no you're not worth my stress, lol, yes you know you're lying to yourself, but it sure would make you feel good at the moment. Walking away is the easier part, however when you look are it deeply, it's not really easy, cause you can't erase the memories, the turn down, the push away, you heart might probably skip whenever you see his or her photo.

To say goodbye for good is the right step to take actually, because we can fall in love with another, its our heart and already we know we've liked another person before now, so we can like somebody else and just safe ourselves from more drama and humiliation. Don't for one minute think that no body wants you, that's a crazy lie, there is always going to be someone who is attracted to you no matter what, someone is still going to prefer you first before anyone else, just be yourself. More reason why we shouldn't keep hurting over a lost battle and move on.

However, there are few persons who chooses to be adamant, not given up, still going to press on, those who say "if I can't get you, I won't stop", those are the real criminals, lol, just joking though, but those people are really bold, they are the ones walking the hard way. It might interest you to know that many in this category may have been jailed, beaten or confronted and threatened never to disturb their heart felt Lady or guy ever again. Already their show of love being unwanted is now a crime, and has to stop.

Many girls are victims of this obsessive show of love, the guys are ready to go the extra just to show that they love you without a doubt in their heart. So the ladies most probably know how to deal with it, confront the person and make them stop safely, we as guys rarely get such attention, but when a lady is ready to go hard for you, she can go to more crazy extents, this I learnt from those Philippines movies, lolz.. No jokes their movies can buttress my point more, and the zee world too. I know you all know what I'm talking about. Smh.

That is the hard way, choosing to stay, it engulfes both the experience of the easy way and more others to make it more unpleasant, they have the push away memories and another bad event is waiting to happen tomorrow as they never give up. However it might interest you to know that it has paid off for few others, as the person they love ends up agreeing to their plea and starting off a relationship with them. To this however i wonder if they truly like the person back or it's just pity since the person is always trying putting efforts, well if that's the case, you don't need a love from pity.

Love is blind and so many are ready to go the extra for the one they love, but then don't forget the saying is "love your neighbour as yourself", so you must love yourselves first. Therefore any excess act that might be dangerous to you, I guess its best you call it a quit and move on to finding another, fall in love with yourself and then you can love someone else right. Moreover you also don't want someone you're not attracted to, to keep pestering you, when you understand this, then rather than having hard feelings, you can just move ahead. There is a level to which you give out your love that is unaccepted, it becomes a crime, beware, act with caution, love yourself also.

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That is really scary when someone doesn't stop from loving you, but it looks obsess by you, keep following you. I am near to experiencing this before. Good thing I resigned from my job.

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11 months ago

Yeah, most girls would have experienced this, we should just be true to our feelings, we can displease ourselves just to please another.

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11 months ago

As what ed sheeran's song goes, "loving can hurt" how ironic it is to feel love and be hurt later on because of the same love. At the end of the day, we only grow and outdo one another with understanding and love. It is by looking at the good things that happened and looking forward for better things to come. Self-love is as well important. Good read 😊

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1 year ago

Yes, looking on to the greater good. Thanks

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1 year ago

Yeah. And I also learned that in the season of waiting, it is the best time to build yourself in improving. The universe itself will conspire to give us what is best. Good luck 😊

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1 year ago

Yes, it raises our standard. With improved standards we would see no need to return and accept those who looked down on us, we've past their standards now. 💪

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1 year ago

Love, pain and hurt go together. But relationships taught me a lot of things. First- to stay true to your self. If you dont love someone anymore, tell him. It hurts yes, but lying hurts more. Second- read the actions, dont trust words. Take note, its the mouth that lies. Third- leave something for yourself. Dont lose yourself in loving someone. Love your partner but love yourself more. 🥰

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1 year ago

You said it all, these tips are valuable recommendations to anyone in a relationship. Hope we all take note thereby reducing the bad experiences we often get from wrong relationships.

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1 year ago

There is eventually no way to prevent the heart from getting hurt. As I read your article, the message above caught me in. I mean, sometimes there are times we can prevent our heart from getting hurt, but most of the time we choose not to. It is because we love the person? We took the risks. Knowing that it may hurt us, we still continue. That is because we are not thinking that we may hurt, we are thinking that we will be happy with that person. It is really hard to find a person that will reciprocate the love you gave, but in no time there will be someone.

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1 year ago

Love how you said, in no time there'll be somebody. That's just right. Someone is surely gonna come around that fits in.

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1 year ago

Yes. I was able to say that, because I experienced getting in a relationship that it is me who is loving. Like in the first month, it was smooth. But no one expected that it will turn out to be the other way around. It hurts, a lot. But you know, experiencing such is a lesson. It will make us wiser to choose and to decide. After all, love is not only a feeling. Somehow, it is a choice.

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1 year ago

Yes, its a choice also, so when we feel like our love is looking like a burden, then we choose to leave and love elsewhere. We are wiser now

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1 year ago

Nice one bro

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1 year ago

Thanks a lot

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1 year ago

Be careful who you give your heart to that might actually become a big crime lol

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1 year ago

True, we must be selective as some might not want it at all. Lol

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1 year ago

Truly, love is a risk. It will test your being and capacity to endure despite of all the pain you've been experiencing.

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1 year ago

True indeed, we however must be careful on who we give our love too, so that we don't cross their set boundary and commit an offence.

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1 year ago

Yes. You are such an amazing writer.

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1 year ago

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1 year ago

I just created my account and I am still thinking what should I post 😁

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1 year ago

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1 year ago

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1 year ago

I suddenly remembered a line from a Tagalog song "Ako'y Sabog Na" (I'm Already High). It's sensitive and inappropriate. Sometimes there are those who are obsessed with another person to the point that they would do scary things just to prove their "love". And yet most of the time they end up hurting them.

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1 year ago

Oh yes, love is a matter of the heart, we can't force it not by any lengths of action or words, when its not there its not there, someone who doesn't want to love would not love. Let's just find the right people who is going to love us back. Its peaceful this way.

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1 year ago

Ummmh, I know the feelings. I had a colleague i was close to then(a guy) because we didn't define the relationship, I fell for him. When he told me point blank that "I love younbut we can't be more than friends, I was so hurt. It took time and the intervention of a counsellor before I got balanced.

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1 year ago

😁😁😂😂.... Sure it hurts a lot, but then we move. Glad you're balanced now, surely greater joy would come your way.

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1 year ago

Yes ooo. I'm perfectly fine now. The funny thing is, it made me less dependent on people and more self confident. I came out stronger and better.

Thanks

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1 year ago

Nice one, tough times often ends up shaping us into the stronger person we are presently.

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1 year ago

True love is when you are willing to let go the one that you dear love so that he/she can be happy with the one he/she loved.

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1 year ago

Yes, you care more for their happiness rather than wanting to make them yours at all cost

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1 year ago

Indeed. You are right.

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1 year ago

Thanks, really appreciated Matterhorn

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1 year ago

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1 year ago

Thanks a lot.

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1 year ago

You are welcome.

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1 year ago

When you push through something that doesn't suit the situation is what we call obsession.. if ever a person pushes herself/himself even with the unwantedness being shown then they are obssess and that obsession would led them to a harmful situation, some would suffer depression and mental disorder if not taken proper care or handled properly. So, if we don't like to go to that extent better learn to let go before it's to late.

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1 year ago

Very true, when it gets to obsession hurting is almost inevitable, it's best to move on and find peace, sooner than later we would realize that the person wasn't worth our sleepless night moreover.

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1 year ago

It's such a pity when one is in love and then something happens between and they call it quit. Probably the matter isn't because you do not know how to handle it but just that most times, people are trying to give space but do not know how to but with a little misunderstanding, the love varnish. It's something common and the best is to move on with your life. Love yourself first then love will find you wherever you may be.

Don't be too desperate to accept someone for the sake of been with him or her, it's always end on a sad note.

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1 year ago

Yes self love first, then we can choose a peaceful life and love would find its way in, loving out of pity would often lead to a bitter ending, love on its own shouldn't be stressed over, let it happen cause you both want it so.

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