32 Article of my journey|25-5-2022

We have a neighbor. His house is in front of our door. He got married to a rich family two years ago. The man is unemployed but his wife is a manager in a government bank.

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The man's mother had a stroke four months ago. A part of her mother's body was severely affected by the stroke. The man's mother did not recover after being taken to various popular hospitals. Exhausted by the expenses, he confined his mother to the house. Because he did not intend to spend any more money.

Her mother's right arm and leg were completely paralyzed by the stroke. Doctors advised her mother to walk with the help of a stick so that she could quickly stand on her own two feet. Gradually, her mother's arm and leg began to work better as she walked home daily. She was healthy and could walk easily. But fifteen days later, his mother was again paralyzed. The man confined his mother to the house as before after receiving treatment at a hospital. Because he was following the doctor's advice.

But this time her mother's leg was completely lost and she could barely sit on the bed. The man had a sister who came daily to clean her mother. Cleaning means bathing her, combing her hair, etc. And take her to the washroom. Because his old mother was very weak. His hands were unable to hold or lift anything. She could not eat anything but soft things.

The man's sister would go home after serving her mother for about three hours because she was married and the mother of the children. She was unable to take care of her mother all day because after marriage most women get busy in their life and this is normal. Isn't it? And maybe she's not free.

A month later, the man's sister died. He had only one sister who had passed away. The man was left alone with his mother. Her mother cried all day because she had lost her obedient daughter. I don't think any mother's eyes can bear to lose an obedient daughter.

The man stayed home all day and did not do any work. It was as if he were neglecting his responsibilities. He ignored and did not serve his mother.

He beat his wife daily and said that she did not take care of his mother. Even though he was lying in the house all day like a lazy person. And he was enjoying his wife's earnings. When his wife worked all day and came home, he would argue with her every night. The man's screams could be heard in our house. He had completely lost consciousness.

His wife decided to divorce him because he treated her like a tyrant. But the man did not want to divorce her because he had no means of earning a living without his wife's income. His wife went to court and preferred to be forcibly separated from the man. Maybe that oppressed woman was not wrong? Because living with a tyrant is not easy.

The court eventually granted his wife the right to separate from her husband. Here it is very difficult for a woman to separate without the permission of her husband. But his wife belonged to a rich family which was probably his power in court.

The man left his wife and he began to live a difficult life. His mother cried every day and called him a bad son because of his mistake. He was forced to live a life of poverty because he had nothing but remorse.

Fifteen days ago, his mother also passed away. A few days before his death I saw the man's mother with nothing but bones on her weak body. Because the man put his mother in trouble instead of taking care of her. Now he is alone.

He abused his wife because she was unable to take care of his mother. I heard from my ears the other day that the man's uncle was telling him that it was your responsibility to take care of your mother. Of course his uncle's words were precious.

Our beloved Prophet Muhammad has said that "parents are the gates of paradise, it is up to you to gain or lose that gate."-I have read many such hadiths in the books of my religion and the Qur'an also commands obedience to parents. And that is a great virtue.

It's your responsibility, not your wife's

Just think how your parents trained you and played an important role in your development. A mother takes care of her child by ruining her peace and sleep. Is it easy? And a father earns his whole life for his children. Parents wear old clothes themselves and give you new clothes. I have seen with my own eyes many times that my parents do not buy new clothes even on the occasion of Eid but they buy new clothes for all of us siblings. Don't they like to wear new clothes? They like it too because they are human too but they do not care about their own but fulfill the desires of their children.

My topic was that the man had a responsibility to serve his mother. The man's parents trained their son, not the man's wife. So it was the man's responsibility to focus on serving his mother instead of telling his wife. There is nothing wrong with that man's wife taking care of her husband's mother. But it is not your wife's duty to serve your parents. It is her choice and kindness but not her responsibility.

Closing Thoughts

Prove obedience to your parents. As parents grow older, they expect their children to be obedient and will prove their worth. In any case, fulfill your parents' expectations and don't forget that they fulfilled your every wish. Never miss an opportunity to serve your parents. Believe me, there is no one in the world but a sincere parent. The most beautiful relationship is that of parents. Every child has a responsibility to take care of their parents. And this is the work of goodness.

DISCLAIMER

All the words written above are mine. I have written this article based on my personal experience. The purpose of this article is to provide people with personal ideas about parental service.

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It is your duty to serve your parents and this act is very pleasing to Allah. Be responsible so that you become the recipient of the gates of heaven. May Allah help us all to fulfill the responsibility of our parents. Ameen!