Teenage parenting should start from childhood

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When it comes to teenage parenting, we first need to know who the teenagers are and what their age is.

So far, everyone knew when adolescence started from the age of 13 and reached the age of 19.
But now the UK-based magazine Lancet presents a research paper on the subject from Child and Adult.

The study found that adolescence begins at age 10 and lasts until age 24 .The reason for this has been blamed on late marriage and having children.ย  And for some as a baby gets older, he or she will outgrow this.ย  For this reason, experts have warned.

Social impact on teenagers:

The first thing I want to know is whether the teenagers in our society learn only from their parents ?

No, they learn from different aspects of society such as friends, social norms, state management, social media and those they follow on social media.They learn from pornography.ย  From the books they read, they form their philosophies of life. They learn something from every person in the society in which they live.
When we talk about juvenile delinquency, all the laws of a state, the political system all play a very important role.
But the saddest thing is: when a teenager gets involved in a crime, goes astray, we don't pick them up.ย  Brush their parents. Because then there is no one beside them. There is only one parent, whom we can blame, whom we can criticize, and what kind of parents are said to have failed to educate their child..Those who cannot teach morality, social values, religious discipline. This is what countless people say.

As easily as we can blame our parents, have we been able to get young people to stand on their own two feet?

Have we been able to talk to them about some uncomfortable issues?

Have we ever talked to them about roomdate, groupsex, random relationships, pornography?ย 

But why do we have to think about these things now?
Because in our society there is no hesitation without values. We parents are confused as to what social values โ€‹โ€‹are.

When I was a teenager:

If I were to talk about my adolescence, I would have to look back at 1989.When I was born.That happened about 30 years ago.ย  There is a huge difference between the social system then and the present social system.I was not born into an affluent family. We grew up with very limited and very limited expenses.My mother was my closest friend.ย  I got close to my father, but I didn't get to be as friendly as my mother.My mother was my close friend on the one hand and my happy and sad partner on the other.ย  Because I would tell my mother about anything, if I wanted anything, I would ask her, and if I had a quarrel with someone, I would share it with my mother.So from childhood to adulthood, my mother has been very careful in helping me to make decisions. She has explained everything perfectly, so there is no question of getting involved in any crime or immorality.Not only the family but also the social system of the time was stable within a certain set of sphere. Maybe that's why we get equal support both in the family and in the social sphere.Now I am also a mother so I will follow exactly the way my mother guided me and raised me and from that experience I will share some experiences

Our role as guardians:

As a Guardian you must first determine your child's value system before anyone else can diagnose it.

We teach a lot to raise children.ย  In all education, it should be said that in the society in which you are growing up, many value systems will be accepted. You will have a system but you have to decide which one to choose for yourself.

Although it is a very critical decision, but decision-making is very important in your life.And parents have to play the biggest role in making this decision.Confusion is created between us when we cannot remain stable in a value system.ย  So the possibility of deviation is created

There is no need to teach what is right and what is wrong because it is a process.ย  We can never get everything right overnight.ย  So we have to give time and teach this value system or right and wrong from their childhood.
It's not about teaching as a teenager. So you have to start from childhood. You have to set a healthy boundary, at the same time parents have to mix with their children as friends.

Parents have to be friendly and at the same time have to play the role of parents.ย  Where there will be certain rules and regulations. There will be a lot of discussion with them. There will never be a ban on everything.They have to be given options to talk.Only then can you understand the mental geography of your children.

If you don't talk to your child, why not just eat?ย  Why aren't you sleeping?ย  Why aren't you reading?ย  Why is the exam coming less than grade ?ย  Don't be limited to these.ย  Understand that if there is no communication with your child other than these things, it is a red signal for you.
And this communication doesn't start from teenage. it starts from a long time before .
If you do not talk to children, you will not be able to identify their fears.ย  You can't identify their best friend. You can't identify any of your things that are inconsistent with your child, their likes and dislikes.
Maybe for a while it will be much easier for the kids to control what you say or do but after that time it will be impossible for you to control them.

Today's society has changed so much that your opinion will not always be accepted by the children so I would urge mothers to pay more attention to this issue because usually fathers are more busy looking after the financial aspects of the family and are more out of the house.
So this responsibility has to be fulfilled by a mother the most.There is talk of ''an ideal mother to create an ideal child"

Many of us think that when the child grows up, what else can we do?

But when he reaches the age of 17 or 18, it will be difficult for you to maintain them because you have not been able to communicate properly with the child at the right time. There is a huge communication gap between you and your child.
So you have to make effective communication with them, you have to involved inย  housework, you have to make sure that you trust him.

Many times teenagers are shouting at their parents.ย  Complaining.ย  My girlfriend is getting this thing, why can't I get it? My friend can do it, why don't you let me do it? You have to handle these problems smartly.ย  They need to understand that our family is different from your friend's family.ย  Our financial status is not like theirs. Our culture is no longer their culture.
I respect your wishes, your decisions but we are not like them.ย  So it is not possible to fulfill all your desires like yours.ย  Awareness should be created before an accident occurs rather than regretting it after an accident has occurred.ย  Open discussion will be with them.ย 

And for that you need to make proper communication with the children.
Only then, from childhood to adolescence, can you develop an ideal child.ย  You can build an ideal man. And an ideal man can build an ideal country.

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Especially with Gen Z, we need to be aware of their wants and need before having a protector parent role... It's getting harder to be a "good" parent ^^

Thanks for your nice post :)

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Gradually our social system and surroundings have changed so much that it has become very difficult to be a good parent but it has not become impossible so we have to keep trying..Thanks for your comment sir..

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