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Are They Worth Your Time?

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In life, you might find a lot of people that won't get along with you.

Some may simply hate your guts, some may be jealous of your achievements, some will try to hinder your progress, some will try to belittle your achievements, some will just straight out ignore you, while others might be looking for a fight without any reason.

While some people might find it entertaining to deal with these kinds of people, I prefer to pay them no mind.

Why you might ask?

I found them simply not worth my time.

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I don't know how my future workplace is going to be (hopefully great lol), so let me tell you about my experiences up to this point.

Looking back, I found middle school to be one of the most toxic phases of my life. Broken friendships, brawls, and heartbreaks were common among schoolmates. I remember trying to fit in with the "cool kids" back then and simply got rejected.

At that moment, I feel so embarrassed and wished that I could just disappear for a moment. Thankfully, they just ignored me and don't do anything severe like bullying, which is also a common case back then.

Luckily, some very kind kids break the awkwardness by cracking a joke loudly and befriended me. Those kind kids are among the few middle school friends that I still have contact with up to this day.

Whenever I think about that awkward moment, I wished that I didn't waste my time with the "cool kids" and just bonded with my current friends instead.

As we get older, we get better at perceiving facial expressions and how to react in a certain situation. We can see how most people feel about us before needing to have a lengthy conversation.

I find it weird how some people seem to be hostile towards others when the other person won't even know them, let alone do something bad to them.

I still remember this funny story from a friend of mine, let's call him Jay.

Jay used to have some sort of "cold war" with another kid in his class. Even though they're not close friends, they're both starters for the football team in my school. It's important to add that they both play in different positions (midfielder and striker) so they wouldn't be a rival. At a certain match of an interschool cup, this other guy would not pass the ball to Jay even if he is in a really good position, and long story short, our football team lost that game.

Saying that the coach is angry would be an understatement. He was exploding like a volcano during the after-match team talk. Soon enough, that other kid got cut from the team for a certain time.

Until one day, he suddenly came to Jay and apologized to him. He said that all this ruckus was about a certain girl in class who he'd liked for quite some time. To make it clear, Jay was quite popular among the girls, and that girl in discussion apparently tell her friends that she liked Jay. This other boy got jealous and I guess that he was either trying to prove that he was better than Jay or doesn't want to make Jay even cooler than he already is.

From what I know, Jay wasn't even interested in that girl so the other kid was just wasting both of their time. Since everything got clarified and the other kid had apologized, things kind of turned well for everyone I guess.

From that story, I learned how people might be offended by certain moments or actions that we performed unconsciously. It doesn't necessarily mean that we are doing something bad; you can just exist without bothering anyone and somehow someone will find you unbearable and that's just how it is.

It shows that you don't have to shape your actions based on what other people think or say, and instead, just do whatever you need to do and say whatever you need to say, as long as it's not harming anyone or breaking any laws.

That being said, the story about Jay and his teammate was just one among many kinds of people that you shouldn't be wasting your time on. Let me categorize the other ones based on my experiences so far.

  1. Self-centered person

    A self-centered person will never let you have your moments. Be it a happy or sad moment, they want all the attention to themselves. If you ever meet or have this kind of people in your life, it might be best to stay away from them, or at the very least don't get too close to them. Pay no mind to whatever they're doing and don't feed their ego.

  2. Overly ambitious person

    An overly ambitious person will do whatever possible to achieve their goals, even if they have to ruin others in the process. Competing against or teaming up with them is surely tough work in itself. Don't waste your time arguing or fighting with them. Instead, try to take the positives from their results.

  3. Jealous person

    Some people might be jealous of what you have. It might be your physical prowess, your intelligence, your physical aspects, or they might even be jealous of your life. Some examples of people like this are the ones who like to undermine your achievements. It doesn't matter how hard you work to achieve something, they will say that you're just lucky or you're born talented.

    Don't take their words to heart. You should know better how much you've earned it.

  4. Troll

    Compared to other categories, this one is special. Trolls like to waste other people's time with the nonsense that they've prepared. Have you ever met someone who keeps on arguing with illogical or satirical points? Or ones that keep on mocking the way you do anything?

    If you have, you've probably learned how to deal with them best. Don't respond to them. Simply block them and move on with your day.

  5. The aliens

    I called them the aliens because they seem to be living in their own world. They don't like outsiders and reject anything that is different from them, you might even call them slightly xenophobe. They live by their own rules and only interact with their own peers, so personally, I wouldn't bother trying to talk to them. They're usually not hostile and will simply ignore you.

  6. The elitists

    The elitists are an upgraded, worse version of the aliens. They will intimidate anyone who they feel is below them. We probably know them more like bullies. They like to prey on the weak and waste their time doing nothing but flaunting their strength. These kinds of people are really hard to avoid, as once you're their target, they won't let you go. I can only hope none of us are victims of these people or actually are these kinds of people themselves.

  7. The enemy from a past life

    Last but not least, I'd like to categorize some people as an enemy from a past life. Why so? For no valid reason, these people hate my guts so much, that even when I confront them to ask what's the problem, they'll simply ignore me. But when I'm not looking, they make up false stories and narratives about me. After dealing with these kinds of people a few times, I learned that rather than wasting my life dealing with them, I can just consider them to be ghosts haunting me and just get on with my daily life.

Ultimately, some people just can never be grateful or happy with themselves, and just like humans don't like to be alone, they will try to drag you down to their level. Try to stay away or ignore people who're stressing you out.

You'll find yourself much happier and be less burdened if you just focus on yourself and pay no attention to their ramblings. Spend your time with people who support you and the ones who can give you constructive inputs and generous outcomes.

With that said, have you ever feel like you wasted too much time on someone that's simply not worth it?

Author's Note

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I Liked your article. When I deal with toxic, hostile people, I don't waste my time with them. However, it has happened to me that sometimes I give myself a little more time with some people, but still, in the end, I block them. I recently had a case with an egocentric person, and after I finished dealing with the work issue, I blocked her anyway. Self-centered people are very complicated.

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Yep, I also try to not waste any time with them as it's not good for my mental health. That's great if you managed to cut them off. Thanks for visiting!

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Hmmm, well there are indeed many kinds of people and situations. I agree we shouldn't waste much time on negativity and pointless activity but sometimes we just can't help it. Haha.

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It's true that sometimes we get that urge to respond to them lol. Thank you for visiting!

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8 months ago

It all boils down to jealousy and how we really love ourselves. I have read somewhere, I think here or in noise, that when we feel threatened that someone is going to be better than us, we act irrationally just to prove that we are better. We fear rejection and being left out because we put more importance how others feel about us and how they treat us. As long as you are not hurting anyone, do you, be you. Choose peace.

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8 months ago

Wow, that's a really great point of view. I agree that we should always be ourselves as long as we're not hurting anyone and that we should always choose the peaceful way. Thanks for visiting!

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8 months ago

I developed this theory along the way "whatever you do, people will always talk" ...because of this I just ignore most of the conversations that aren't time worthy or won't generate profit for me. The good friends will be with you will the end, the fake ones will filter off once the time is right so I just try to be self dependent

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That's a really great outlook. True friends will still be there no matter what happened, while the fake ones will leave as soon as you lose value in their eyes. Thanks for visiting!

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I did not even have a chance to waste time with people because here in India, 90s kid focussed only on one thing, studying lol. We didn't have bullies, like much. There are rude students but bullying was absolutely prohibited from the campus. So, we were kinda okay regarding that part. And people bullying you only means that you are already better than those people and that is why they cannot stand you :)

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That last sentence is a nail in the coffin. I'm glad that you were not a victim of any kind of bullying due to that system, even though studying all the time isn't really great either lol!

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