Am I a narcissist? 19 common signs of narcissism

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Narcissism is one of the worst and most complex disorders that may affect a person, and its main problem is that those affected rarely notice that there is a problem

Narcissists always think that they are better-looking than everyone else, their goal in life is to benefit from others and at the same time to belittle them, and despite their involvement in many romantic relationships, most of them fail and end quickly.

In this article, we collected 19 typical behaviors of a narcissistic personality based on opinions and research of experts, but this list is not a definitive diagnosis, although it gives you a good idea of ​​whether you are a narcissist or not.

But before entering into the behaviors, you should be aware that narcissism is a type of characteristic personality disorder in which its owners suffer from a sense of grandeur and do not sympathize with others and they feel an urgent need to impress those around them.

This disorder makes it difficult for narcissists to have companions or individuals who can hang out together or even establish romantic relationships, because they tend to dominate most of the time and deal roughly in order to force others to fulfill their needs.

In the following, we will discuss with you the 19 most common signs of a narcissistic personality, according to what psychologist (Joseph Borgo) author of the book The Narcissist You Know ...

1. He has no sportsmanship

Borgo asserts that narcissists tend to bully and annoy competitors, whether in the event of victory or gain, and you find that when the narcissist loses in a sports match, he tries to humiliate the referee or the competitors, and even when he wins, he is overly gloating and behaving badly towards the losing party.

2. He feels unappreciated

“Arrogant” narcissists tend to be aggrieved against the world, always feeling that they deserve better and not getting the recognition they deserve.

3. If he's not arrogant, he's an introvert

If you are not arrogant, then you are introverted, hypersensitive, defensive, and anxious.There are many types of narcissism that psychologists talk about, the type is very aggressive, as well as there are lighter types of narcissism and it is called mild narcissism, which includes introversion, hypersensitivity, defensiveness, or anxiety.

But a common trait among narcissists is that they have vanity, arrogance, and a tendency to surrender to their individual needs while ignoring others.

4. Everyone thinks are stupid

Narcissists believe that they know everything, and they always feel that they have a hard time interacting with others, whether co-workers or friends, because they refuse to believe that they may be mistaken in anything, and psychologists have noted that narcissists always deal with a clear and arrogant sense of superiority over others and always depend It is only upon themselves to make decisions.

5. Sluggish

The narcissist likes to assert control with a loud voice, swearing or using language that tends to overtly sexual innuendo, because they feel their need to stir up controversy and distinguish themselves in this way.

6. Self-centered

Whereas, the narcissist thinks that he is superior as previously mentioned, and therefore he must be better in everything, even in his relationship with God, so they try to highlight this aspect in order to attract people's attention to him.

7. Lasting justification

The narcissist always finds himself justified for being mean to people, for their vengeful or antisocial behavior, or for any unacceptable behavior they perform, and the basis for this feeling of complacency about the bad behavior they commit is because they feel that they are constantly exposed to injustice and any words they are told they consider a deliberate insult.

8. Enjoys being in control

A narcissist enjoys being a leader and telling others what to do, and this may be a reason why many narcissists take on leadership positions in order to continually reinforce this need.

9. It is more common among men

The narcissist is often an attractive man, narcissism affects men - according to what psychologist Frederick Stinson has confirmed - because men have an innate tendency to narcissism more than women, and Stinson emphasized that adolescence is the peak period for narcissistic behavior and decreases with age.

10. Hates emotions

Psychologist at Harvard Medical School (Craig Malkin) confirms that when a person feels the presence of others, he can be affected by them emotionally, whether at the level of friends, family or partners, especially in times of tragedy or credit.

Hence, narcissists hate emotions as the feeling of emotions challenges their independence, and the recognition of any feeling of any kind suggests that they may be affected by others or something, and therefore as soon as the narcissist finds himself vulnerable to being affected by emotions he changes the topic or withdraws immediately from the dialogue.

11. More attractive than others

Narcissists seek to occupy the title of the most attractive, so you find them interested in elegance and physical attractiveness, according to a study conducted by Simin Vazer, a psychologist at the University of Washington, but despite this, narcissists tend to evaluate themselves exaggerated in terms of appearance and attractiveness.

12. He does not like to listen

The narcissist does not listen to what others have to say, they often prefer to be the focus of the conversation and to focus the conversation on their accomplishments and what distinguishes them, even if this is after making a number of exaggerated movements, speaking out loud, or showing indifference while others are speaking.

13. Many romantic relationships

The narcissist tends to be described as the emotional adventurer, so you find that he tends to fall in love again and again, but always comes out of any relationship that he enters quickly, and these relationships tend to search for the ideal partner, who complements the images that the narcissist wants to paint for himself, even if he does not know the party The second person is in the relationship well, and as soon as the narcissist discovers any defect in the second party, he ends the relationship immediately.

14. Traitor by nature

Despite all of the above, psychologist (Joshua Foster) from the University of South Alabama and the scientist (W. Keith Campbell) from the University of Georgia that narcissists are often betrayed, especially when they begin to trust the second party of the relationship, and the study confirmed that the relationship An emotional narcissist often takes four months for the other person to see what the narcissist is and decide whether or not to continue.

15. He seeks perfection

The narcissist is always looking for an ideal partner, a partner who has no faults, a partner that elevates the bond with him, and even the details of the relationship should be perfect.

16. Underestimate others

Narcissists rely on insulting others in order to maintain a high, positive image of themselves.

17. A lover of the ignore and cuddle game

Research indicates that the narcissist often has a childhood that either involves a lot of ignorance or a lot of indulgence, and sometimes the combination of ignorance and indulgence leads to a deep feeling of passion and need for admiration and thus the narcissist is always looking for ego enhancement.

18. Take advantage of me

The narcissist tends to choose friends that make him look great or he can benefit from them. Narcissistic women are looking for a partner who has a high social position, and men always look for friends of certain criteria, so he chooses the most beautiful woman among all, or he chooses people who have a certain stature or abilities they can show In front of others.

19. It is characterized by emotional stability

The narcissist always seeks to control his own feelings, and never leaves himself at the mercy of others' preferences, that in this way he feels out of danger and completely independent.

OK; Now you can read on and determine if you are a narcissist or not! And if you find yourself narcissistic, you should realize that you need professional help if you want to live well among those around you without problems or crises.

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I almost called myself when introversion is mentioned in your article. Well, narcissism is about self-centeredness as if there are no people co-existed in your world. That is really something we should be careful of when we bump people like them.

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3 years ago

Unfortunately i have seen my many classmates to have these habits. But these hurt the other persons a lot. We should not be like it.

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3 years ago

Good thing I am not a narcissist, it's hard to be like that you think you are doing normal things but in the eyes of many you are idiot.

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