Most relationships follow a secret formula for them to last longer. Some even asked their parents or mentors about it, some even googled it just to secure the relationship they have. Some just wanted to know what is best or some might want to know what is lacking in their relationships.

Today I will be sharing some trivia about me and my boyfriend Jb. I am jotting down all these things for future purposes also. I am not boasting or anything, I just wish you will find a thing or two that can be relevant to your relationship too. I just love to write my thoughts of the day since I am new to writing and I tend to be lost in my thoughts especially in my spare time, might as well write what's on my mind most of the time which is none other than my love, Jb.

Many are asking and many will still ask me about us, so might as well write it down whenever necessity knocks. I will just send them this article link rather than answering them repeatedly. Hahaha

How are we as a couple? You will know in the list below.

So here are the situations in our relationship that maybe not everyone in our circle or family knows:

Trivia #1.

We both had crushes on each other when we were starting.

Unknowingly, we studied in the same Department in our town's State College. When I was in 2nd-year college, I didn't know I had irregular classmates who would just join our class in certain subjects and he was one of them. He is 2 years older than me.

A year after, we became full-time classmates(same major and minor subjects to take). The first time I noticed him was when one of our professors made fun of our surnames. We both have weird but unique surnames. He was so mysterious, quiet, behave, a loner but quite impressive when it comes to his academics and he's a fast learner too.

It's hard to admit that I was the one who asked for his number because he tends to tease me a lot about this matter that I did that on purpose. Yes, that was with a purpose, and that purpose has no malice at all because I only asked for his number for project-related matters. (Oh did I sound like hashtag defensive? Haha, Of course, I will always defend the truth😄.)

Many months after we became close friends through texting but in person, we never initiated to talk and to my surprise, he said that he likes me, our friends felt it already especially one of my "Kuya Kuya" (classmate/ close friend, which I also treat as a big brother) knew how I get to be so awkward when I have a crush to someone😂. He knew I will never talk to that person first. He was the one who started teasing Jb to make a move and I was aware of that because I was there whenever they have "ligawan discussions" or pro tips on how to treat and pursue a girl. Then the awkwardness became known to our "barkadas" (circle of friends), to the whole class, and the whole Department.

Crazy trips and waves of laughter never left us when we were all together with our friends because if we chose to be serious all the time then we might get retarded so soon and won't finish our course on time.

I know that some of you are wondering who said "I love you first?" I would love to answer that on the next trivial fact. Lol

Trivia #2.

He was the first one to say "I love you":)

That was an endless discussion for us two😂 but truth be told and he finally conceded. He was the one who said, " I love you first".

My first I love you for him was when we were officially in a relationship while he said those when we were still in the courting stage(several times).😜

Trivia #3.

We had so many conversations about our wedding even when we are just starting.

Who's gonna cry, who will laugh, what color we are gonna wear, the motif of the wedding, who is invited? Is it going to be intimate? where and when? It's crazy right?😅

We even had a piece of wedding contract signed by both with a sketch of rings on the center.

Haha While writing this, I can't help but laugh. Lol, We are very futuristic individuals.

Another silly thing we did was name our unborn children. Yes, children, hahaha I want two to four children but he negotiated to have another one because he is planning to train them as a basketball team. By the way, their names were pre-selected already by yours truly from my favorite vampire series "The Vampire Diaries" and "The Originals".

Many Filipino first-time parents loved to combine their names or initials to form names of their children but mine are not even related. They are just my favorite CHARACTERS hahaha, when they get old to ask and complain, I will just laugh out loud and point fingers at their dad who agreed with it.

Trivia #4.

We don't post PDA on social media.

We are both introverted people and we value privacy so much.

We're not posting hugs, kisses, because we want to make it special and that's super important for us but, of course, we want that cute snuggly relationship.

We are both clingy by the way but we know how our friends are going to react. Or should we? Hahaha

Trivia #5.

We are a giver but not to the point that we get to be so stressed about constant giftings.

We are not the type of couple that is stressing themselves out what to give for an upcoming monthsaries or anniversary.

I mean there's nothing wrong with that giver kind of relationship, as long as both of you are happy and are expressing your affection through your love languages then that is fine.

What I was saying is that ours was different, we value quality time over gifting. We prefer to just chill out, cook our food, play our favorite mobile game, and just enjoy the rest of the day, as long as we're together.

Appreciating small things like meaningful conversations matters the most for us. Dating sometimes is much more beautiful if it doesn't cost so much. Just know what will make your partner happy and it will be so much more a rewarding feeling.

Trivia #6.

We never fought about forgetting our monthsary(monthly special day).

Yes never, its a very rare offense to both of us because for me it reflects our care for our partner and our relationship if he ever forgot these things then he's dead. Both must know these things, it's your special date of being together unless you have no plans of making your relationship last longer, then none of these dates matter (I hope not).

Luckily, in our case, we never fought about it because no one ever forgets about it so far. It's our special day to start with. If both were busy bees, at least both managed to greet before the day ends, even if it's an evening greeting it was still counted.

Again this is how we are. Of course, monthsary greetings will be valid depending on how deep you understand your partner's situation.

Trivia #7.

We don't treat disagreements into a battlefield,

When both of us are angry, we let the emotion subside first before talking to each other to avoid clashing like there was no tomorrow(just like in tv dramas).

How do we deal with fights? we talk about it I don't stop until he tells me how he felt, I always wanna know about the "why's" and if both of us have this rise of emotions then we stop and let everything cool down a little bit and talk again until we both understand each other. Disagreements are chances to listen to other points of view to understand each other and make our bond stronger.

Trivia #8.

He's sweet but not my kind of sweet, we have different love languages.

I'm still grateful that Jb isn't a notorious sweet talker (iyong " unli", sinasabi din pala sa iba ang mga sweet messages niya like a player). He is definitely sweet, not the most vocally expressive person I've ever met but instead, I pay close attention to his actions. That's what matters, really(even if I'm a word of affection kind of person).

• Does this sound familiar to you? (Where a girl craves for sweet messages every now and then, or at least once a day but her lover is not as vocal as she wishes he is. They fought about it several times. For the man's interpretation, she's being unreasonable, needy, or demanding gf but in her mind, she knows her worth. She needs to be treated special and cared about by the one she loves, etc etc..)

• In the early stage of our relationship, I often cry out of pity and doubt, "does he really love me?", "Why can't he say those words more often as I do?".

  I always think of the "me" and not about the "him" or the "us". A common mistake why most people end up hurting each other.

Through time he learned to express himself more through words and I on the other hand learned to value his ways of conveying his affection. The top three of his love languages are the act of service, quality time, and physical touch. For me, a relationship requires love, trust, compromise, fidelity, and endurance.

Just like in the crypto world, if it's worth it you definitely must hodl it even in trying times as the red market.

Trivia #9.

We are not talkative.

We do small talks but we prefer meaningful relationships. We're men of few words or will just answer once asked. Hahaha unless the person I'm talking to is a trusted friend then I'd go all out.

Read and noise helped me improve a lot. I am now very interactive with the comment sections.

Trivia #10.

We definitely fight.

Yeah, This happens in most relationships especially if you wanted it to last.

For almost 9 years, we only had 2 big fights. Maybe because he didn't give me even a single reason to get jealous. He made a promise he will never ever cheat on me that's why I feel so secure and blessed:) He never put himself into that situation, like I remember him telling me this after watching a movie "I won't ever trade our relationship/my forever joy into something like a temporary happiness" o "di ko ipagpapalit ang panghabangbuhay kong kaligayahan sa panandaliang saya lang something like that. And it caught me, I'm glad to find someone who values or nurtures this relationship as much as I do.

Bonus facts:

Trivia #11.

We just had our theme song.

3 months before our 8th anniversary, we finally selected our team song. Hahaha I know, I know. We're that late bloomer😂 have high standards but we both agreed to that song, we accidentally discovered it through a radio station. Although he's the only one who can relate in the second verse of the song, it's fine. I remember how he asked me to dance with him upon hearing that song over a radio. I like the melody. You can play it below. 😊

Trivia #12.

Love grows day by day.

For almost 9yrs and we didn't realize we were in that relationship for so long now. We both feel like we're just starting as a newbie couple. Maybe because of restrictions. There are a lot of things that we wanna do but we still can't. Saying goodnights after he drives me back home feels like we're constantly being separated. It's something I can be proud of. Those plans, those things we wanted to try, places we wanted to go but we couldn't because of pandemic happening, family culture and responsibilities, are something to look forward to after marriage, lots on the list already:)

Yep! I claim it, and I know he's the one. It's just a matter of waiting, persevering, and praying.

Closing thoughts

We all have different stories to tell. Mine was quite cheesy yet simple. Thank you for reading this far but yeah I prefer to write whatever just comes into my mind and unfortunately, it's all about love and reminiscings.

Cheers to all the people who choose to love and to people who are just starting to learn how to love. I pray nothing but healing and happiness to all those who had been hurt or still hurting. Advance Happy Valentine's beautiful people.

Sorry to readers who found this cheesy and irritating as well. I didn't mean to, I am just sharing my heart out loud, thank you for bearing with me😁.