Signs of Being Matured
**March 6, 2022**
As time goes by, there is something that changes or improve in our self. It's either positive or negative. But we all wanted to change for the better.
We change not just with our physical looks but also with our inner beauty. From a simple to attractive woman or it can be vice versa. It depends on how a person changes either physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually.
I become matured. I can feel that to myself. I noticed what I am then than now.
**Here are some signs that I noticed:**
**I don't easily got jealous.**
I have been honest before that whenever I saw someone especially those I know, and they bought something new that I want to have too, I tend to get mad at that person. I began hating that person even though I don't know him/her personally.
But now, I noticed that I can still be jealous but I can overcome it. I am just thinking positively for myself. If the person have something new that I also love, I will just tell myself that I can also have that next time. Or I am just thinking that I also have something that that person doesn't have. Thinking of reasons to make yourself lessen the jealousy.
Jealousy mostly happen to relationships. It can be true or false but we have different reasons why we got jealous:
It is often felt by women when they saw their partner texting or seeing someone that the girl did not know.
If one of the couple spends more time with friends than their partner.
When we noticed that our partner is keeping his/her phone away from us.
When they keep on making alibis that they are busy that is why they cannot see us.
When they forget to greet us even through calls or simple texts which they usually do before.
There are plenty of reasons why there is jealousy in every relationship.
When it comes to my relationship, I only trust my partner. Though I know that he is surrounded by women at work, I knew he is faithful. We always talk to each other everyday through video call even when he is at home or at work. He has many girl friends at work and that is totally fine with me.
He is proud whenever I am with him. Whenever my son and I were with him, I knew how proud he was.
I think that we are old enough that we already understand one another. I don't get jealous but rather I understand his job. We are no longer young and we have a son to focus on.
**I don't care what other say.**
I grew up depending on what others say. For me, I easily get affected when I saw others looking at me. I am thinking that they will be saying something bad about me so I need to be careful with my actions when I am in front of then.
But now, I am beginning to act by my own. If others don't like me, that is acceptable. I only care those who believe in me like my family because I know they are concern of me. I will accept their criticisms because I know it is for me. They know me well better than others.
**I am focused with my family's needs than my personal wants.**
When we were just kids, we want to play and play. We want to have toys. As we grow up, our personal wants changes, too.
When I started working, I value my salary. It is not just for myself but also for my family's needs. I helped in paying the bills and groceries but my mother told me to buy something for myself.
I bought jeans once in a while, bags, shirt and shoes especially during sale. This is what I also needed at work At least I can see the fruit of my labor. I can eat the food that I want to eat. I can buy other things that I needed. I also bought a phone.
But as time passed by, those personal wants lessened because I also have a son that I need to prioritized. I bought what my son needed and at the same time, help my family.
I realized that all I did was all for my loved ones but I can say that I don't have regrets with that. It is my responsibility but what I also want is a personal savings for my sons future.
I can buy what I want but not all the time but I am always thinking what should be prioritized first.
**I** **became more responsible.**
I know that my role at home became more important than before. Other than working with salary, doing chores is a must. I learned those things I thought I will rarely do like washing the clothes and organizing in our small "sari sari store".
I should monitor and take charge of the monthly bills. which my brother and I are both sharing.
**My Final Say**
Maturity starts on ourselves. We learned that in the process of our everyday lives. Some are matured enough at an early age Some are old enough but not yet matured.
Maturity makes us positive in other ways. It will help us understand others and ourselves.
Thank you for reading and have a nice day to all
I Am A Happy Mom Seeing My Son Happy While Playing In The Mall
**February 19, 2022**
I planned to go to the mall that day with my son. Since my partner has work, my 2 nieces go with us. I went to the mall to stroll and make my son enjoy his day.
I also planned on going there because my niece bought a gift for the baptismal of my niece, the daughter of my cousin. It was also a mall sale so there were discounts in most of the items.
My niece bought tops and shorts for the baby. I bought 3 pieces sleeping pants for my son, a batman toy and a shades.
I bought him sleeping pants so that he can use at night to avoid mosquito bites.
I also bought him batman toy because I promised that to him. He saw it in YouTube in a complete set but I told him that I can only buy him a batman toy because the complete set were expensive.
I also bought the shade for him because it was 50% discount and it only costs 50 pesos.
After buying those items, we went to the gaming station. My niece has tokens which we used for basketball. My son enjoyed it a lot shooting the balls in the ring.
He also rode in a car while playing games. I can feel that he enjoyed it now because he is much older than the first time we went there. I remembered when he rode a kids car before inside the gaming area. It feels like nothing to him as if he did not enjoyed it.
Unlike now, he was riding in the car while playing games using the stirring wheel. He needs to avoid the things that might hit him while driving. He wanted to ride again after it stopped but it was already late that we need to go home.
When we went out the gaming area, he saw other gaming areas and he wants to go inside but we just told him that we will come back next time.
**The Playhouse**
Then, we saw a playhouse for kids. It was not that big and only few kids can accommodate. My son wants to go there but I insisted.
But I remember that my son wanted to go there many times before which never happened.
So I told my nieces that I will try my son to play there for 15 minutes only for 75 pesos. This include 1 adult. I was the one who accompanied him inside while my 2 nieces went to the supermarket to buy food for take-out.
I did not expected my sons reaction when we entered the playhouse. There was a small trampoline, kids slide for 10-15 feet, another slide for 2-3 feet, play houses, balls and few toys to play with.
My son was very happy but at first I was scared because the first thing he did was to climb the stairs. I followed him and when we were up, he walked and wanted to take the slide I told him not to use it because no one will catch him on the ground.
I don't know what to do if I will go down and let him slide. But I know that once I go down, he might have slide down. I was thinking that he might be hurt once he slide on the ground. I did not let him slide but I told him to go down instead.
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But I noticed that other adults were not that worried like me. I felt like I over reacted that time. I was too worried while there were other mothers or guardians who have much younger kids than my son but they looked normal. They were just texting or talking to one another.
I still followed my son and he went to the small slide and tried it for few times. But it seemed like he does not enjoyed it.
He went to the big slide again but he climb from the bottom to the top. I was worried because it was covered while he was going up. But then, he slide down and he was surprised when he fall down from the slide. I asked him if he was hurt but he said "No".
Then he went up the stairs and this time, he was with other kids. They used the slide and after going down, they all repeat using the slides.
He also went to the trampoline and jumped and jumped. He was shouting and another kid entered and jumped into the trampoline. My son and the kids enjoyed their time in the trampoline and they were already playing with each other while jumping.
He also tried going to the small playhouses and throwing the balls. My son was very happy and excited while inside the playhouse.
**I Am A Happy Mother**
As a mother, I was very happy seeing my son happy. The time was fast and I wanted more time for him to play but I just tried it for him. I was wondering how happy he will be if we tried the other playhouses which were bigger including bigger slides and big trampoline.
I want my son to be adventurous. I want him not to be like me because I am scared to try new things.
I want him to be active in sports. When the 15 minute was over, it was also the time that my nieces went back. They waited for 15 minutes for the food they ordered. They waited since we will be in the playhouse for 15 minutes too.
After that, my son was very happy. I told him that we will come back some other time or try to bigger playhouses.
When we we were in the vehicle going home, he told me that he was happy. As a mother, I want to cry with tears because he enjoyed that time. When we were home, he also told my father and the rest of us at home that he went on basketball. He rode a trampoline and slide.
My Final Say
I am still unemployed but I can say that I am enjoying my time with my son for a while. If we could only stroll everyday so that we spent more time together.
Every mother wanted their children to enjoy their childhood and to grow as a good kid.
Once our children grew up, they will have more time with their friends than with us. That is why I want him to enjoy the time with us and also the things that we can give him.
Thank you for reading another article of mine. Have a nice day!
It Was A Boring Sunday
**February 20, 2022**
It was a nice Sunday morning when I woke up. My brother went home from night shift work. I saw my sister early at morning at home. I thought she was there to cook for our lunch but she just bought something from the market and gave it to us.
I found out that they have a visitor. It was the brother of my brother-in-law, my sisters husband. He was with his daughter. That means my sister or her daughter will be busy at their house.
Then suddenly, my other niece and nephew, the children of my elder brother and his wife, will visit their relatives in Manila. They took a bath early and ate before leaving. My elder brother has afternoon work also so he left for work.
My brothers children are sleeping in our house and they usually spend their time in our house so it was unusual that they will be going out, too.
So when I woke up, it was just my son, my father and my younger brother who was playing computer games at that time.
Suddenly, my brother was called by his friend. He found out that he was one of the godfather of his friends daughter. He knew that his friends daughter wil be baptized that day but he only found out that day that he was a godfather. There was a big celebration.
So he stopped playing and headed to the celebration. Baptismal was already finished and he was called for the reception only. This is because only one representative for a godmother and godfather were allowed to enter the church during baptismal. This is also for social distancing and to avoid the spread of virus.
He left the house too and went to his friend. Only me, my son and my father were left at home. The house seemed so silent and I don't like that feeling.
**Sunday Should Be A Happy Day**
Sunday used to be a family day. It should be a happy day. We usually spent the weekends with my nieces and nephews and my son and my younger brother.
If the weekend falls for my brothers rest day, we will order food online and usually, it was me and my brothers treat. We will divide the amount into 2 or if one of my nephew or niece will share, they will be included in the sharing in the bill.
Most of the time, we order pizzas or bucket of chicken. They wil also use karaoke to sing. It means that the house is noisy but still enjoyable day. This is the day we bonded because most of us are spending the rest days during Sundays.
**A Quiet Day**
But since the only 3 of us were left home, it was a boring day. I tried watching Netflix but I cannot concentrate with what I was watching. I want to use my cellphone but it was used by my son. He was playing games or watching videos in YouTube.
My father was in our store so he was just there and busy using his cellphone. I don't know what to do. It was an unusual feeling because I am not happy with such set up. I mentioned that I am not that close to my father. I do not talk to him unlike how I talk to my siblings or other relatives. But I change the way I treated him unlike before.
My mother is no longer here and my father is now our only parent so I talk to him in terms of household needs.
It was hard to move and to feel comfortable. I know my father also felt uncomfortable that day.
It was also good that my son did not planned on going to my sisters house that day. This is because he always go there especially when my niece went to our house and once she went home, my son will also go with her. I don't know what will happen if it is was just me and my father will be left alone. That is also why I allowed my son to use my cellphone so that he will be busy and will just stay at home.
If only I knew that we will be left that day, we should just go to the mall that day with my son instead of the other day. My son was also telling me if we could go to the mall again but I told him that we will go there some other time. He enjoyed the last time we went there.
Even it was already dark, I am still bored. It was 7 or 8 in the evening when my niece and nephew came back. At least, they came and there was a bit noise. It became normal to me.
My brother went home 2am and he was obviously drunk. He went home and just lay down. He has not slept even for a minute that day.
I watched Netflix after doing the chores. I felt tired though I did not do almost anything. My brain got tired d not my body.
**My Final Say**
I hope that the boring moment won't happen again. I just want a simple weekend with my family.
Thank you for reading my article and always have a nice day.
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Thank you @Olasquare and Codename_Chikakiku for the upvotes.
I Finally Opened My Personal Savings Account
Last Wednesday was a productive day for me. It was almost a week or weeks of planning to open my savings account.
I want to have my own bank account so thar I can deposit some if I have extra-money rather than keeping it at home then suddenly spending it.
At first, it was just planning, checking the requirements online and asking when to go to the bank.X
Then, I went to the bank near our house to check for the requirements. I thought that all the branches of that same bank have similar requirements but when I go to the same bank inside the mall, they have more requirements than the bank near us.
A couple of days, I went to the bank in the mall because I thought that their cut-off time was much longer because they were inside the mall. I came at exactly 2:04 pm but their cut-off time is until 2:00 pm only. I thought that it was until 4:00 pm. I went home after.
I was disappointed because of my effort and money. Effort because I dressed up and money because the fare is almost 200 pesos back and forth. The fare was high because of the special tricycle. There were no traffic and you will be there in 15 minutes or less But if you ride in a jeep, you will be there in 30-45 minutes because of traffic but the fare is less than 100 pesos only.
**February 16**
I told my sister to wake me up early so that I can go to the bank as early as 9am. But when she wake me up, I told her that I will just go to the bank before or after lunch. It was really hard to wake up early.
But then I wake up and checked the requirements I have. Then I leave at 12:00pm. I was thinking that if there were many people in the bank near us, I will just go the mall since it was still early and I will try there since they have more employees who can assist more customers.
I chose that time because I thought that only few people were in the bank. I first went to the bank near us. When I went there, only few people were waiting outside sitting. I thought that it was a good idea to wait there. I found out that there was only teller and 2 customer assistants. Some of the customers were mad because the process was slow. But since I have beem waiting for 2 hours, I patiently waited.
Finally, it was my turn. I was nervous because they will see my previous accounts that I opened then suddenly closed. But the person who assisted me just asked me if I have previous accounts from them. I just said yes. Then I filled up the application form and passed the necessary documents. Then they took picture and fingerprints of mine. I chose ATM and bank book. They already gave me the bank book but I need to wait for 5-7 days for the card.
The process was fast. It was just the waiting time that was slow due to few employees inside the bank. Some left and some were nagging about the slow process.
Before I leave the bank, I got few deposit slips so that once I deposit money, I will just fall in line and no need to fill up the deposit slip. I can fill it in before leaving the house.
When I was done, I felt happy because one of my plans were accomplished. One of my plans became reality.
Why Do I Open A Personal Account?
Main reason is because the back pay that I received should be transferred to my new account. I know that most of us have savings account but I am again starting. My previous bank account was from my payroll and since it will be closing in a month, the money from my payroll account should be transferred to the new account.
I have plans with the money I will be receiving. I have plans in my mind. Money is hard to earn but easy to spend.
**My Final Say**
I just hope that I will have this new account for lifetime. I hope that I will save some money and spend some usefully.
Thank you for reading this article and have a nice day.
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Travelling Alone After The Pandemic
We were informed by my former supervisor that we can get our back pay or severance pay. We need to go to a certain bank but I don't know the exact location.
I was excited and worried at the same time. Excited that I will be getting my back pay at last and worried because that wil be the last money I am expecting.
I have not applied yet after my contract ended last January 7. I have also received my salary for 2 pay outs that was promised to us by the company.
Now, I will not be receiving any money from them.
I asked for my family's assistance to look in the google map for the banks location. It was hard to recall the landmarks even though I worked near that area but I just did my best to find it.
**The Travel Day**
On that day, I leave the house at 10:30 in the morning. I did not tell my family that I will be getting my back pay through bank check. I told them that I need to sign a certain document in that place.
When I was outside, it was totally a different feeling since I haven't travelled after 1 or almost 2 years in the place that I worked before. It was not that far but I just assumed that there might be changes in the place. It was only an hour away from our house
I rode a jeep to save money rather than riding a van. It was almost 30-45 minutes travel including traffic. When I go down, I didn't know what to ride next.
I asked the man walking towards me about the location. He told me that I can just cross the street and walk.
I followed what he said. I'm afraid in crossing the street so I waited for someone to cross the street too.
After that, I walked for almost 20-30 minutes and asked the security guard on the bank I am looking for. He told me that I need to cross another street and it was almost near.
After crossing the street, I finally saw the bank. Upon entering, the guard in the front door already knew that I will be getting my pay check. This is because most of the previous visitors also got their back pays.
I was happy that I finally found the place. The transaction was fast. I got the pay check and I deposited it in my account.
I leave the bank and I walked again but it was faster going home. I just walked fast and waited for the vehicle going home.
I passed one of the biggest hotel there and I wonder who were entering in that beautiful place. If only rich people can afford to go inside and what can be seen inside that hotel?
It was a hot day but I prefer that hot hour because only few were travelling. This is to avoid rush hour and traffic.
**My Realization**
While I was inside the jeep travelling, I realized a lot how hard it is to live. I saw people outside selling cigarettes, candies and other goods. Some were selling mussels and other seafoods in that hot day. Different business just to survive daily needs.
God is good that my family have jobs even I am not yet applying. I prefer to look for a work from home but if there is no available one, I have no choice but to work onsite
I am still enjoying my life for good taking care of my son and doing household chores. If only I am rich, I will no longer work and just stay at home, take care of my son, go to the malls and watch Netflix. But I am not so I should work and stop imagining.
After a month, I will start passing resumes to different companies. I am also thankful to my friends offering me a job. If possible, I will apply onsite but as much as possible, I wanted to apply online. It is safe for now rather than going out.
I dropped by in the mall near us to eat. I did not have my breakfast and lunch. I ate there alone. I ordered chicken and pasta then I went to department store to buy clay for my son. I knew that I will be waiting longer for my order. I promised that I will buy the clay for my son.
I was craving to eat there because the chicken is delicious when served hot. I ate there a long time ago. They don't have spicy chicken but I love the taste of the gravy and I always asked for hot sauce and mixed it with gravy.
When I came back, my order was not yet ready. I waited for almost 7 minutes. When my order was served, I was disappointed because the food and pasta were not hot. I cannot complain because I was hungry and alone. I ate fast then leave. I am also in a hurry because I need to go home and my son is waiting for me.
I came home early. What a day!!
**My Final Say**
I am really scared to travel alone now that there is pandemic. We should all take care of ourselves. We should love our work no matter how hard it is.
Thank you for reading my articles and have a nice day.
Thank you @wakeupkitty for upvoting my article.
I Bought My Son A New Bike And We Won A Gift Cards
My son has a lot of toys. But mostly, they were given by my cousins. I rarely bought toys for him before. He is fond of guns and swords and super heroes.
He will play with it from time to time but we cannot control him sharing his toys with his playmates. Some of his toys were missing or sometimes broken.
Last Wednesday, my son and my niece went to the mall mainly to go to the bank to open an account. We will also return and fixed my nephews eyeglass which was new. But none of those activities were successful.
I lack one of the requirements in the bank so we cannot proceed. We also return my nephews eyeglass but it cannot be replaced because my nephews eye should be check first. He should be with us. So my nephew should go next time once it will be return.
To make the day worthy, I took a picture in the photo shop for my job application. We also went to the department store to look for my sons sandals. But there were no size available for him.
**New Bicycle**
After that, my son run to the toys section, his favorite part of the department store. He looked first at Nerf guns but I told him that those were expensive. He also looked for clays which is Play-Doh. I got 3 colors for him.
Then I told him to try riding a bicycle. He rode and begun moving. Since there were only few people that time, my son continuously use the bike. I have no intention of buying it at first.
My son's original request was a motorbike. He saw it in Youtube where a kid of his age was riding a motorbike.
I told him that it is expensive and it is much dangerous. He doesn't know how to ride a bicycle without support yet so what more if it was a motorbike.
My son enjoyed riding the bike. Since the bike was too small, we tried another bike larger that that. He used it again and rode back and forth. He also doesn't want to go down even if we want to. I told him that we will buy it next time but he refused to go down.
Since I planned before on buying him a bike, I thought on buying him that time. I chose what suits his age and tried the bike many times while we were in the mall. I want to test it to make sure that the bike is in good quality.
The assistants were approachable and gave us discount so I already bought it. I bought it for my son since it was my first time to buy him a bike.
I did not buy the clay and left it because I thought that my son forgot about them.
**Gift Cards**
While paying it in the payment section, the cashier told us to try scanning the barcode displayed for a chance to win 1 thousand pesos worth of gift cards. So we tried after paying.
Then I told my niece to try it since she has her phone and mine was left home because my sister was using it. Fortunately, she got the prize. It seemed that the price I pay for the bike was discounted with another 1 thousand.
We were lucky that time. We got the gift cards too in the customer service. While we were inside the mall, my son was using the bike and it was useful too to avoid him from running.
The sales associate told us that we were only the third to win the gift cards. It was indeed a lucky day.
I want to look out for other items, but since my son was riding a bike, I cannot look for things that I want like clothes.
We spent much of our time with choosing the right bike. After that, we bought foods for take out because we were all hungry together with my family at home. They were also waiting for us.
My partner was working in that mall as a security guard so we show him the bike that we bought. He was still on duty so my niece and my son and I went home after. It was a tiring day but like I always said, it was fulfilling when I knew that my son was happy.
When we reached home, he used it already outside even it was still hot.
After a few hours, he was asking for the clays. I told him that we left it in the mall and we'll just bought it next time. I never thought that he will remember it.
I left it because we did not really buy it.
But since I need to go out the other day, I bought him the clays as I promised.
**My Final Say**
It is true that when you are a mother, you will give everything that your kids want. But of course, it is not always possible especially if it is not useful or when we are out of budget.
But I told myself that the bicycle I bought for him was useful for him. Happiness of our kids is a mothers happiness too.
As long as my partner and my family can, we will give my son the best that we can give him.
It is a mothers responsibility to give and provide happiness of their kids and husband. Now I realized that when you are a mother, it is okay that you have nothing for yourself as long as you have something for your children.
Hope you enjoy this article of mine. Thank you and have a nice day.
Thank you @foryoubtc09 for the upvote
Thank you @foryoubtc09 for the upvote
What's In My Bag Edition
There are different types of women in terms of bags. There are some who prefer small bags when going to work. Some wants backpack so that they won't be carrying anything. They would just carry it on their back.
Some loves big bags so that they can upt everything they want inside.
I love bags either small or big as long as I can carry it in my shoulder and I can have the things I always needed.
Unlike men, they can go out without handling any bags. As long as they have mobile phone and handkerchief in their pockets, it is fine with them.
But girls cannot do that. It is hard for us not to bring anything.
The below are the things I always have inside my bag:
**Drinking Water.**
Before, I don't bring water with me. But I believe that in any emergency cases, we need to have it either going to work and especially when I am with my son.
**Mobile Phone.**
This is one of the basic needs for everyone. You can contact your family through text or call when you want to know where they are and can tell them where you are.
You can use social media if you have data while travelling. You will be updated using our own phones.
You can listen to music to release stress.
You can watch movies and tv series while travelling.
**Rosary.**
I am not a religious person but I believe that we should always ask for ourselves and our family's guidance always. We should thank God for everything.
**Alcohol.**
Even there was no pandemic, I always have alcohol with me. I applied it especially at work or after using the toilet.
It felt incomplete when I don't have it in my bag especially now that we need to be careful against virus.
**Umbrella.**
No matter how good the weather is, I made sure that I have it. I buy the one with good quality in case of strong rain and wind. It is also good to buy quality umbrellas because it will last for long time.
I remember when we bought cheap umbrella. When there was strong rain and wind, it was easily blown out and some wires of the umbrella were removed.
Unlike the expensive one, they are much stronger and can be used for very long time.
It felt incomplete when I don't bring umbrella. I remember one time when I brought the new umbrella but it does not fit in my bag so i just held it while inside the tricycle. When I was about to go down the vehicle, I did not know that I left it inside. After a few minutes, I realized that I lost it.
After that, I learned my lesson. I bought an umbrella that can be kept in my bag. If in case it is wet due to rain, I make sure that I will tie the string of the umbrella in my bag or tie in my wrist so that once I go down and forgot about it, it will not be left since it is tied in my arms.
**Comb.**
I made sure that I always bring this because my hair looks messy even I comb it many times. I needed this so that I can use it from time to time especially after a long travel.
**Mirror.**
Partner of my comb is my small mirror. In case there is any dirt in my face and to fix my messy hair, this is a must have.
Usually girls brought this stuff and there are some boys who have this, too.
**Coin Purse.**
I do not usually bring my wallet. I needed coin purse than wallet because it is easy to get money when riding in a public vehicle.
But when I don't have coin purse, I just put the money in my pocket because there are times I forgot my coin purse when we eat or go outside.
**Baby Powder.**
Since I don't use foundation or face powder, baby powder is okay for me. I will apply it as needed once there is oiliness in my face.
I don't wear make-up because I don't know how but I want to learn.
**Tissue or Wet Wipes.**
I use tissue most of the time for my face. Before, I always bring handkerchief everyday but what happens most of the time, it fell on the ground. Sometimes, I lost it. So what I did is to bring tissue and just get some when needed.
**Candies.**
I made sure I bring mint candies or even chocolates because I tend to be dizzy when travelling especially when there is traffic.
**Menthol or Eucalyptus Oil.**
I felt like I am addicted with Vicks Vaporub or other inhalant. I use to apply it in my forehead even I don't have headaches.
**Identification Cards.**
This is important in case of emergency. You will be identified immediately. If in case you will process important documents or when going unexpectedly to a certain place and ID is required, you can present it.
**Others Also Bring The Below.**
It would also be advisable if we bring emergency kits like band aids, medicine like paracetamol and other handy medicinal kits.
Sone also bring feminine pads so that they will be ready for their next menstrual period Wherever they are, they will be ready when it comes
**My Final Say**
Whatever you have inside your bag, make sure that the important things are kept safely inside.
Being a woman is being ready at all times.
Thank you for reading and have a nice day.
The Long Distance Relationship
I have friends who married foreigners from different countries. Some were happily living in other countries to be with their partners. Some are in a long distance relationship or LDR. Some started with LDR and successfully got together after.
When ***I*** think about it, I am the type of person who will not be successful in that type of relationship though I haven't tried it yet.
From the word itself, long distance. You and your loved one are both from long distance from each other. It means you can only talk to the person through chats or calls.
But compared before, it was harder for a LDR because the only means of communication is through snail mail or voice recording which you will receive a week or two upon sending it.
Now thar there is Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Viber and other social media platforms, it is much easier to communicate now to our loved ones abroad or far provinces.
But like what I've said, I will never enter a long distance relationship. It is a virtual relationship. You cannot physically hold the person you love.
You cannot hug him/her.
You cannot kiss him/her.
You cannot go out together.
You cannot watch movie together.
There are times we need to talk to someone who will listen to us and be there in front of us.
Long distance is simply a sacrifice for both parties in love. I am saying this because I easily miss a person when I fell in love. Once I miss that person so bad, I may decide to have a break up because I am not seeing the relationship that I want.h
My Own Relationship
Though my partner and I are not living together, we can still see each other if we want to. It is something that I want in a relationship.
My partner is my best friend. For being in a relationship for almost 9 years, I knew him almost.
I cannot say that this is my dream relationship but knowing that you have someone who is always there for you is something important in a relationship.
He was assigned for work before to a bit far place but he can still see me if he wanted. It will just take 2-3 hours travel including traffic.
It was hard for me because it was pandemic that we only saw each other after 5 or 6 months. It was hard for me even though we always talk through video calls.
I also knew how hard for him not seeing me and our son personally. We missed going out together.
Our relationship is complicated that is why we are not living together but I am sure that everything's gonna be alright.
Though sometimes I feel that our relationship is like a long distance too. He can only visit us during his rest days. But I am still happy because I knew I can hold and hug him when he is here with us.
**My Friends Relationship**
I have a close friend who is now into a long distance relationship. Before she has a Filipino partner but that person hurt him physically.
She now have foreigner partner. She also have previous foreigner partner from USA but it did not end well. I thought that the previous one was meant for him. I witnessed how happy my friend was. But when she found out that she was cheated, I knew it broke her heart but she did not admit it to me.
Now, her current boyfriend is from Algeria, a Muslim country. This time, the guy is younger than him and is not fluent in English. But the guy tried his best to communicate with my friend. He used google translate some time. He is still studying and promised to visit her once he graduated.
I asked my friend why she chose a long distance.relationship and a foreigner boyfriend. She told me that some does not want love. Some are just for lust.
She chose guys that respect her and her 2 sons. She is also a single parent. I told her that I am not as.patient as her. Waiting for her love to come.
But maybe thar is her desire. That she can find her happiness and true love through long distance relationship and afterwards they will got married and live together with her kids.
**My Final Say**
Those are just my opinion for a long distance relationship. Some are also in this type of relationship and are still very happy. Some are still fighting for their love.
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Global Transient Amnesia
Some of you may have heard this type of amnesia but personally, I just found this out when I watched the Thailand movie "One Day".
I was surprised that there is this type of memory loss. I read few facts about this.
***Transient Global Amnesia*** or TGA is a temporary loss of memory. When you have this amnesia, your recall of recent events simply disappear, so you can't remember where you are or how you got there in a certain place.
This can be caused by a very heavy activities, migraines, stress and even sex.
But once this happens to you, it will not repeat on you and also, there is no treatment required It goes away on its own within 24 hours.
This type of amnesia usually happens for 1-6 hours only and average is 6 hours. Few cases lasts for up to 24 hours.
The Movie "**One Day**"
The reason why I wrote about this article is because of this movie**.**
I found out this movie because my brother saw me watching a Thailand series in Netflix. I told him that the series has a nice story. He saw the lead actress and he told me that she has a movie wherein she had an amnesia for one day which I got curious about.
It was not in Netflix so he downloaded it.
The story is about an IT Guy named Denchai who worked for how many years in a company. He is a typical guy. But the thing is, no one recalls his face at work or in other places. No one finds him attractive. That is why he was still single.
People at work knew him only when they needed him. Mostly when their computer or laptops were not working.
But other than that, he seemed invisible at work.
Until one time, his pretty crush named Nui called him regarding her computer issue. He was able to fixed it.
His long time crush has a boyfriend who was married and the boss of their company. She knew about his status because the guy kept promising that he will marry the girl once he leave his wife which never happened.
He knew almost everything about his crush.
One day, they have a team building in Hokkaido. It was the girls dream to go there because of the Snow Festival. They all joined but since the girls boyfriend was the boss, he was with his wife and son. The girl was hurt while seeing them together.
There was this place in the snow where they can wish and it will come true. The guy wished to have a girlfriend even for one day.
Since Denchai has great crush to Nui, he saw how hurt the girl was. She was not enjoying the trip. When they were about to leave the place, the girl did not leave. She stayed in the hotel so also stayed. He was worried with his crush.
Then she saw the girl went out the hotel and went on skiing. But he noticed that the girl does not know how to skii and she fall down deep. Since does not know how to skii too, he asked for help and they were able to find her. The girl actually planned on killing herself which did not happened.
Nui was sent to the hospital by and the doctor said that the girl has global transient amnesia which will last for 24 hours only. She will not remember anything she did for 1 day.
So Denchai pretended that he was the boyfriend of the girl since it wil only last for a day and since the girl will not remember it the next day.
At first, she cannot believe that he was her boyfriend. But since the boy knew everything about the girl, she also believed.
His wish of having a girl for one day came true. His crush became his girlfriend by accident for one day. They went on dates while they were in Hokkaido. He made the girls wishes come true. He saw how happy the girl was.
When it was night, the boy told the truth that he was not his real boyfriend. The girl was mad. The guy explained.
When they went back, everything goes back to normal. The girls memory came back. He does not remember that she went to Hokkaido and became the guys boyfriend.
But when she received a video of her, she found out that she went to Hokkaido and she saw how happy she was. She broke up with his married boyfriend.
The guy and the girl did not end up together. But it was happy to know that the guys wish came true to have a girlfriend for one day and it was his dream girl.
**My Final Say**
This type of amnesia is very rare but if you happen to have this, 1 day is the longest. We will not remember what happened to the time we had amnesia. All we need is a lot of care.
Advance Happy Valentines Day To Every One
***Valentines Day or Hearts Day*** is one of the special days for people in love. Not just for boyfriends and girlfriends or husbands and wives but it is for everyone including family and friends.
I remember those days when I don't have a boyfriend and it was Valentines day. I saw couples in the malls or in every places where I am. I admitted that I got jealous and disappointed with them because I was single at that time. They all looked happy and very in love.
Even before I was studying. My girl classmates received roses from their boyfriends or who simply admires them.
Before, I don't want February 14 to come. I hope that after February 13 it will be 15th the next day.
***But now, I can say that it is one of the day I am waiting for. Why?***
Because it is a special day for lovers. It doesn't mean that it needs to be celebrated expensively.
We can just stay at home and order foods.
We can just eat at cheap restaurants or fast food chains.
We can simply celebrate it by eating street foods together while walking.
The spirit of celebrating it is just by enjoying it together by couples or even your whole family.
I can say that as a woman, we expect gifts from our loved ones and I don't deny the fact that I do expect.
The below are the common lists of gifts we expect from our partners.
**Roses/Flowers:**
This is what every girl wants. It is a symbol of love and passion. I can say that once a woman received flowers, we are thrilled and very happy in and out. It feels like we are very beautiful.
But I am not the the type of person who loves receiving flowers. I appreciate the effort from my partner but for me, roses doesn't last that long. I can display it for days but after that, it will dry out and will be thrown out.
Aside from that, it is expensive, too. I know how every man prepares gifts to their loved ones so as much as possible, I want to keep or use the gift that my partner will give.
I remember one time when my partner surprised me with bouquet of flowers. I was surprised because it was orange roses with very beautiful arrangement. There were chocolates inserted into the flowers. I took a picture and posted it in social media. I felt proud that time.
Though the roses does not look fresh at all, I still love the effort from him. I never received flowers before and my partner is the one who gave me roses.
But I still told him that it would be better if he gave me chocolates rather than roses.
***Chocolates:***
I appreciate chocolates than flowers.
But it depends on the person who will receive presents from their partners but for me, it will be better if I get those.
My main reason is because I love eating chocolates. I love sweets and right now, my son also loves chocolates. I love chocolate flavor for cakes, candies, ice cream and cookies, etc.
I told my partner the lists of chocolates he will give me and every chocolates should be 2 pieces of every kind so that my son and I will divide it into 2. I will keep mine or else, my son will eat as much as he wants.
**Teddy Bears or Stuffed Toys:**
Boys also love giving stuffed toys or teddy bears. They say the bigger, the sweeter.
But for a girl, any size of stuffed toys, as long as they received presents, it makes them happy and more in love.
I knew how woman feels whenever they receive teddy bears from their boyfriend and carrying it while strolling in the mall or park. They are indeed happy and proud. It was like bragging to other single girls that they passed along.
***Love Letters:***
I am not sure if there were still guys writing and giving love letters to their loved ones. But for me, nothing compares when you receive a love letter written by your boyfriend or even from a friend.
This may be the cheapest of all the gifts a person can give but it is the most romantic and important present of all.
I appreciate when someone gave me a love letter. The last person that gave it to me came from my boyfriend. He gave it to me last 3 or 4 years which I still kept.
The letters expressed his love and feelings for me. I did not expected it because it was not Valentines day. It was just a simple day. But he did not know that I was very happy for that simple letter.
Even my partner and I have a son, we can still celebrate Valentines day not just on February 14 but even in simple days. When we go to malls together, it still feels romantic and more meaningful because the fruit of our love for each other is our son who is now together with us celebrating.
**Combination or ALL of the above:**
Some boys or even friends gave roses and chocolates or chocolates and teddy bears or any of the combinations. Some can give all of them.
Some also gave expensive gifts to their loves ones like jewelries, clothes or anything a girl wants.
These mostly happens for man who started courting a girl that they like.
But of course, this also happens to other relationships as well.
**My Final Say**
We just need for the right person to come in our lives. Valentines Day or Hearts Day can be celebrated every day even in our family only.
We can show love and appreciation to our partners, parents, children, siblings and to our whole family everyday.
Thank you for reading this article of mine. Have a nice day!!
Thank you @Simon.M32 for the upvote.
Thank you @Simon.M32 for the upvote.
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Am I Stronger Now Or I Just Need To Be Stronger?
This was the question I've been asking myself now.
After all that has happened to my family and even to the world, "***Am I stronger now or I am just pretending to be stronger"***?
**2021** was the year I considered the worst year of my life. Never have I imagined that one of my loved ones passed away. My mother. Unexpected but like what I usually said, I know God has a reason for taking her.
COVID-19 is still here with multiple variants as time passed by. This is the longest pandemic that the whole world encounter. We don't know when will it vanished or will it exists in our lives. Hope not.
**Unemployment** was the biggest effect of Covid-19. I considered myself to one of the unemployed people in the world. For people like me who depends on daily salary, it is hard when you don't have any penny. We need a stable job and of course, a healthy body nowadays.
**Anxiety and depression** also exists because of the pandemic. People who suffered the disease were isolated from their family which some never experienced it.
Imagined being alone inside your room or in different house for 10-14 days. No one to talk to personally. Mobile phones is a great help but companion is needed in times of sickness.
**Am I Stronger Now?**
Sometimes I think that I am stronger now because I can survive everyday but with the help of my family. I helped in our daily chores from morning to night. I can do things I am not doing before. Aside from taking care of my son, I also managed doing the dishes and washing the clothes.
I can say that I am stronger physically.
Now that I have no work, I have more time to help at home. But of course, I still need work to survive for my son and family.
**I Just Need To Be Stronger?**
But deep inside, I felt I am just pretending to be strong.
There are still things that I missed so much about my mother. There is a part of missing her everyday.
The times when we were eating together at night where we both drink coffee.
Those times when I was working from home and my mother and my son were sleeping in our sofa bed and once my mother woke up, I will talk to her even about work.
Even I knew she didn't understand but she was just there to listen.
Those times we quarrel a lot like those times I don't want the food in our meal. but at the end, I will still talk to her and she will cook the food I want.
Those times when we were just doing our separate task which is mostly using gadgets. We might not be talking to each other but as kong as my family is complete at home, that is more important.
The loneliness I am feeling almost happens at night. The darkness is reflecting the depression I am feeling.
I am not sure If I am the only one missing my mother at home. This occurs when we are only few at home. Silence is causing loneliness at home.
Once I go to the toilet to take a bath, I will begin crying. I cannot cry out loud because I don't want anyone hearing me.
I just want to cry out. For me, it helps when I am releasing my tears together with my emotions.
I actually want to talk to a person whom I can confide all my emotions and sorrows. Person I can release all the heavy loads in my mind.
I can feel that the pain in my mind is still here with me which is why it is easy for me to cry whenever I remember my moments with my mother.
Maybe God molded me to be strong because of that. I used to depend everything to my mother when she was still here. Now, I need to help myself.
**My Final Say**
I may be trying to be strong and for sure I will be stronger with God's help and my family as well.
Experiences makes me strong too. Nothing will help us more but only ourselves.
I know that most of us needs to be stronger especially this tough times. It's either we are strong or we are just pretending to be strong, that is fine. At the end of the day, we will learn to be stronger.
Thank you and have a nice day.
I Hope I Can Join The $1 Everyday Challenge
This is only a short article about the challenge I saw which is very helpful to all of us.
I saw an article about $1 per day challenge. Others can do it higher per day but for me, to be able to earn is fulfilling to me.
Since I do not write everyday, if I earn $2 for a day and I won't write the other day, the other $1 from the $2 will cover for the next day. Something like that.h
I was really curious and I planned on joining the challenge but when I wrote my past articles, **Rusty** was not visiting me for some quite a while. I don't know what's wrong or what's missing. But that doesn't stop me from writing.
I mean it, I was thinking of quitting before but like what I've said, this is the platform where I can express my emotions and say what I cannot tell others personally.
Imagine $1 per day then $7 per week Then $28 per month. That is not bad at all. I noticed to some writers that it is possible to earn. They earn double or triple per day.
If I can join and make it come true, it will help me save money for future use. You can all relate how it feels when we received a tip from Rusty. I remember the first time, I was very very happy but I just kept it in myself because I don't want anyone to notice me. Then another tip followed.
Aside from Rusty, it is also a great feeling if other writers upvoted you. Aside from upvoting, they also gave comments and reactions to your articles. It is a very warm feeling when people like your articles.
If only I could talk to Rusty, I will ask him what should I do more to improve my writing. I want to be like others who are very good with their topics. I admire their sense of creativity and intelligence.
Sometimes, I felt like I am being greedy after writing an article. I will check from time to time if I got the tip. If there is notification, I will open it very fast. When I got upvotes, it was a happy feeling because after that, Rusty will gave tips.
I know for sure that others can relate.
Thank you and have a nice day!
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I Lose My Job But I Will Not Give Up
I am now included in the unemployed person in the country. I just lost my job. I do not brag nor proud of it. I am just saying. We are all free to say what we want to say. It is painful but acceptance is must.
From my previous article, I just mentioned what happened. Until now, I feel the pressure. I told my family right away. They smiled but I knew they were all worried since it is just my brother and I who were working in the family.
We have a lot of mnthly bills to pay. The electricity, water, internet bills, groceries and other stuffs needed.
I even told my father about it. He was the most worried of all. Especially now that pandemic is still here, it is hard and not safe to apply outside.
Almost 9 years since the last time I applied for a job. I can't even remember how I started. Now, I'm back to zero.
I thought being redundiated will make me free from all the pressures at work. But it was just the same. I still feel the pressure but pressure in looking for a better job.
I should look for a job that is better to previous one. I lists out few pointers in looking for my next job:
**The one that is nearer to our house.**
Before when I was younger, I always want to work in far places. This is because it feels like travelling going back and forth. I want more time outside.
But as I got older, I realized I wasted so much time. Those hours that I travel should be spent at home if I work nearby. I should spent time with my family.
Now that I have son, all I want is to have more time with him as he grow up.
**With better incentives.**
Aside from our salaries, we also want to have additional from our salary. Incentives should be provided to every company. For a perfect monthly attendance or quality are examples of incentives
Anything small or big but as long as they can provide it to employees, it will make us work harder.
This is why other employees left is because they are looking for incentives aside from their basic salary. Nowadays, prices of all goods rises and our salary cannot support our family's expenses and needs.
**High salary compared to the previous one.**
For 9 years, the increase of my salary is very slow. It was just that I stayed because I need to work and I have good colleagues. The world is much better if there are people you can relate and hang out with.
I am not aiming for high salary. Just want to reach my previous salary and if ever, annual increase which only happened once in my life.
**Work from home, if possible.**
Since the pandemic started, I started to work from home which I enjoyed so much. Working in the comfort of your home and earning.
I wished that the next job if possible will also work from home But if not, I will just continue working hard.
**Good working environment.**
When I say good working environment, it means your work is surrounded by good people. You cannot tell it during your starting days but as time goes by, you will feel if your work is a place to stay for a long time.
It is also a good thing if your company is near malls or around commercial establishments. You will not get bored because you have place to hang out when you are on break.
Since I am still on vacation, I need to rest and spend my time wisely with my family. But once I am ready, I know my capabilities and I will try harder to have a nice job amd be a good employee.
The below are my traits that I have which can be helpful in my next job:
**Hunility.** I know that I am humble enough at work. I know my limitations. I understand each and everyones moods.
**Patience.** I can prove that I already built my own patience from the previous company I worked with. 9 years of patience in everything at work.
**Friendly.** No man is indeed an island. We need someone to talk to or get along with when we are at work There should be someone we get along with or we can trust. Someone that we can share our problems, we can listen to and talk to.
We do not need many friends. As long as there is one or two people we can get along with. That is fine.
My Final Say
I know that I will be back in the process of application and I think that I will get nervous again. Going back at step 1 is a hard feeling.
I hope that the next job I have will also be a long term job for me. The one I will love also.
Thank you everyone andd have a nice day.
Thank you Simon.M32 for wyas supporting and for upvoting my articles
The K-Drama We All Loved - "Crash Landing On You"
To those Korean drama lovers, I maybe late but as what they say, it's better late than never. I just finished watching "**Crash Landing on You**". I am very satisfied and again, in love with this series.
I watched its episodes separately because I only watched it during weekends. I only find time watching it at night when all my household chores are done.
When I watched the first episode, I can feel that this is a good romantic story. It may be unbelievable to happen but what if it happens, right? I told myself.
This is called destiny. A successful businesswoman in South Korea landed in North Korea to meet a handsome captain. Of all the places, North Korea is a very strict country. They fell in love with each other but their countries were great enemies.
The businesswoman from the South flew by paragliding to test their new sports clothing and due to bad weather, she landed to the North. Being famous in South Korea is the total opposite of her life in the North.
What are the things that made me proud of this Korean drama:
**The story itself.** The story may seemed corny or unbelievable love story. A parachute that landed so far because of a tornado until it reached North Korea. But they give justice to the story because they also filmed the story in North Korea at the same time though it was not the real place.
They show how the life in the North. The total opposite of the lives in the South.
Most in of the time, they don't have electricity. They don't have internet. Nowadays, it is hard to live without internet. Their lifestyle was very old. They can only used North Korean products and watched their shows.
**The lead actress.** Seri though successful in her business but not lucky with her family. She has 2 step brothers who were not close to her. The 2 envied Seri because of her successful business. His father chose him to be the CEO of one of their biggest company instead of the 2 brothers.
So after the accident, they thought that she was dead. But when one of his brother found out that she was still alive in North, she found ways not to bring her back so that he will be chosen.
**Captain Ri Jeong Heok.** Seri's loveteam. He was the captain and the one who saw Seri in the tree hanging after the tornado. He was the one who took care of Seri in his house. He is a very serious type of person but a romantic type of guy.
He became a soldier and no longer a pianist in Switzerland. He was famous in that country but he came back to North because his brother died in the military. He gave up his career in other country for rhe love of his brother. He exchange his happiness to depression when his brother was killed.
Others did not know that his father was a Bureau Director in Military who has a high rank in military.
He did all his best to send back Seri to South but it all failed except for the last option. Seri safely went to South though their love for each other was very deep at that time.
But when the opponent Captain Cho Cheol Gang was evicted and has escaped to go to South to kill Seri, Captain Ri also escaped to look for him and send him back to North. Cho-Cheol Gang was killed there.
**The four soldiers and the Eavesdropper.** Captain has 4 armies who were very reliable and faithful to him. One of them was addicted with South Korean dramas like **Stairway to Heaven**. One was too young that he missed his mother and siblings so much. One who was serious looking and has the good looks among them all and the last was the one who looked strict and the oldest of them all. They all have different personalities which are very normal and funny.
The Eavesdropper has the worst job for me. Captain Ri's brother was killed because he was the one who instructed the killers about his exact location to be killed.
He was very guilty that he admitted it to Captain Ri because his brother was very good to his family when he was still alive. He need to do it because it was his job.
The five of them were chosen to go to South Korea by Captain Ri's father to send back Captain Ri when he escaped to save Seri from Captain Cho-Cheol Gang who escaped after convicted.
They were all amazed when they were in the South. They experienced all the good life when they found Seri and Captain Ri.
**Seo Dan and Alberto.** Seo Dan was the ex-fiance of Captain Ri. Captain Ri admitted to Seri that he has a fiancee who was studying in Russia that time. It suddenly came back and wnated the marriage to hpapen. It was a fixed marriage so Captain Ri has to agree. But as times passed by, he admitted that he is in love with Seri.
Dan accidentally met Alberto who went to Korea due to his multiple cases in South Korea. He was the ex-fiancee of Seri where they also met in the North.
At first, he connected to the brother of Seri to make her stay in the North. But at the end, he was the one who helped Captain Ri to escape to South.
He fell in love with Dan. When he was about to leave to Paris to escape again because he was hunted by the North Korean military, Dan was hostaged by unknown men. He did not leave the country but he saved Dan which killed him. Dan was so depressed because he loved the guy also.
Her mother and uncle wanted him to marry but she preferred to be single.
Ending
It was sad when Captain Ri and the other 5 went back to North. Seri just recovered from the hospital nad when he found out from her step mother that they were about to leave that day, they went to see him. They were able to talk to each other for few minutes but it was heart breaking for them.
At the end, the 2 met in other place and continue their love story It was a happy ending.
**My Final Say**
I hope to watched this type of series more. It made me laugh, smile, fell in love and cry because of the scenes.
In love there is destiny. Destined to be happy together and destined to be separated and found a new love. Some are happy alone.
Thank you to all the readers and have a nice day always
Thank You and Goodbye To 9 Years of Working With You
It finally came true. It has now ended. I don't know if I am happy or not but one thing is for sure, I have no work starting February 7. But of course, I will look for a qbetter job but planned on resting first before applying.
2022 started my year not so good. But there are things that needs to end. I should accept it if it was meant to happen. I believe that God has better plans for me.
I will be turning 9 years with the company this March. 9 years full of happy and even sad memories. Most of us leave and only few stayed in our account.
**My Final Day**
It happened last Friday, January 7, 2022. I was happy because it was payday Friday and my boss was on leave starting Thursday. Since we don't have much work this past few days, I will be doing nothing and can rest but still paid. But I know that it is a sign that our work is getting little and little.
Until I saw a meeting invite in my email. I knew that was the email that we are all waiting for. This email was all about redundiation.
**Redundiation** is what I simply define as ending of one's contract for business reasons but paid for rendered services.
Now it was my turn to say goodbye.
But my other colleagues in the team were not inclided in the email. Of the remaining 12 agents, 3 of us were in the email. I was trembling but I don't know if I will feel happy or not. I should be happy because this is what I've been waiting for. But upon receiving the email, I also felt sad. The first thing that came into my nind was that I am now part of the jobless people in the country.
It was 9:45 pm when I saw rhe email and started within 15 minutes. I chatted my other 2 colleagues as I received the email and I knew that was it. Others whom I don't know were included in the email. It was from other account and one of those was my friend.
Then it was 10:00 p.m. and the meeting started It was clear and short. It was our last day. Our contract ended. We need to sign the email that was sent to us saying that we still have 1 month with pay so I still have work until February 7.
I have been waiting for this moment. I should be happy but when that moment came, it was still differemt. I was NOT happy. I was depressed. I should be happy because from my previous colleagues who was also redundiated, we told them that they were finally free at long last. Free from stress and work loads. Aside from that, they wil be paid for their years of service. I envied them when it happened to them.
**I Was Not Happy**
But why am I not completely happy? I cannot control my tears during the meeting but it also stopped. I knew that some of my team knew that there will be agents who will be redundiated but they don't know who they were. I was just silent.
After the meeting, my supervisor called the 2 of us who were redundiated within the team. There should be 3 of us but 1 was on leave. Our supervisor just talked to us privately and briefed us about what happened.
My mind was like floating that night. I don't know how should I react but one thing is for sure. It was hurting.
9 years is considered long service in a company. No matter how we rant about our daily work, we still stayed. We stayed because we need a job and we still enjoyed each others company.
***My Final Say***
It is time to say goodbye to my account. I think what hurts me is because I expected that all of us remaining in the team will be redundiated together on March, 2022. But it did not happened.
Thank you to the company who made me a better person. I learned a lot and has helped my family. I will miss my colleagues, the office since we are still WFH (work from home) and the mall that was just beside us.
Love our job no matter what.
Thank you very much to all the readers and have a nice day always!
I Am Proud of My Nephew In Admitting That He Is A Bisexual
LGBT stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender. Whatever our sexual preference is, we should be proud of it and admit it especially if we are a member of the said community.
Nowadays, it is now normal because some admitted it and have the courage to tell it.
It was January 1, 2022. After the fireworks and noise of the New Year, my sister and her son and daughter went into our house. My brother and his wife and children also went to our house for picture taking. It became a tradition during New Year. We also did that last year when my mother was still around. Then after the picture taking, my nephew was the first to leave our house and he said that he was watching a Netflix series with his father. I thought that they will be using the videoke to sing. But what they did was just picture taking and then, they all leave.
But earlier before my sister leave, she mentioned something that confused me. She said that his son admitted something. I have no idea what whas that. I asked my sister what was that and she said that it was nothing. She said that her son just said that he has no money. But I knew it was not true. I mean, it was not something that my sister will tell to all of us. I even asked her daughter about it but she said that she doesn't know anything. She said that her brother might have said something when she was not around.
The next day, I asked my sister about it. I can't be contented without knowing it. I knew it is not just something instead, it is a big thing to them.
**The Revelation**
My sister told us that his son adnitted that he is a bisexual. He said that on the 1st day of Januray, 2022. They were all surprised and speechless.
When I heard that from my sister, I was very sad. All of us knew that LGBT community is very much accepted in the country but knowing it from a person whom I never expected was very sad.
My sister said to his son that it was okay when he admitted he is bisexual. But his husband did not reacted. I asked my sister about how did she truly felt upon knowing her sons sexual orientation. She said that she did not noticed it. She did not expected what she found out. I knew she was hurt deep inside but of course, she accepted it. Even us, I never thought my nephew is bisexual.
My sister said that he has not talked to his husband about what their son has told them. Since my sister was in our house and his husband also went to our house that time, that was the time my sister asked for his husbands reaction.
I was there when they were talking to each other. His husband said that he cannot do anything about that. But he was disappointed. Then I saw the tears falling from his eyes while talking. His voice were trembling because he was already crying. He cannot control his emotion. Then my sister also cried. I went inside because I cannot control my tears also. I felt pity for them as parents. They cannot do anything but accepted the fact that their son is bisexual. We also found out that he was the first bisexual in his fathers clan. His parents worried that they will have no children-in-law from him but I told him that he is bisexual. He can be in love with either female or male partner. There is still a chance he can have child or children of his own.
Then my father arrived so the conversation stopped and they continued talking outside. My sister also told our father about that. He was also shocked.
**My Final Say**
But I am proud of my nephew. It takes a lot of courage for a person to admit that you are part of the LGBT community. Even if it is accepted in different countries, we knew that there are still discriminations from other people. I am proud that he finally get out of his hiding place. I am not sure if he knew that we already knew about his revelation.
When he went into our house, it was as if nothing happened Everything was just normal. We talked to him the usual.
Most of the LGBT are the successful people. They have a strong determination in facing life. They are brave enough to fight for their rights.
Happy reading everyone and have a nice day!
hen we found out what my nephew last year.
Am I Pregnant Again? Yes or No
This was my question a couple of weeks ago. My period was delayed for a week. I used to have a regular period. Mostly women understands what I am talking about. This is about the menstrual cycle of a woman.
All woman including teenagers, ladies and mothers experienced menstrual period. Some experienced it as early as 14 or 15 years old. We usually experienced it from 3-5 days. Some experienced it more than 5 days.
A woman has a regular period if it is experienced every month. For example, If you started your period on the 30th of the month, that should also be the date you will have your period next month.
**My Worries If Pregnant**
I should have my period last 20th of December but it did not happened. I was scared that I might be pregnant. I undergo caesarean delivery with my son. It is delicate and of course, expensive. So am I pregnant?
Having a child is a blessing of course. Not all are given the chance to give birth. But there should be a limit. There should be family planning. It should be both planned and agreed by both parents.
A lot of things came in my mind thinking what will happen if I am pregnant. I already told my partner about it. He seemed worried because I told him what my father told me. To keep cautious of getting pregnant again. I understand it very much the fact that my mother passed away. No one will assist me in taking care of the baby unlike before with my son Nathan. My mother is the one who helped me in taking care of my son. I am a first time mother so I need to ask help and seek a lot of advise from my mother.
How can I apply and work if I have another child? Can my partner support us with his salary?
Those were some of the questions that I asked to myself when thinking if I am pregnant. I waited the other day but still, my period did not came.
Until the Christmas Eve happened and I focused with the celebration with my family. It was a simple and normal celebration. What makes it memorable is that my family are at home except from our mother who is now in Heaven.
Days passed but still my period did not came. What made me worried was the succeeding headaches I felt. I thought that it was because of my lack of sleep and stress at work. But there was an instance when I had a chat with my former colleague and I told her that my head was aching. She told me that maybe I was pregnant. I was alarmed when she said that aside from the fact that my period did not came. But it might be a coincidence or what.
When my partner and I seriously talked about it, I felt he was worried though he told me that he knew I wasn't pregnant. I saw in him that he was thinking deeply and he was quiet unlike before.
I asked him if something bothering him was about my suspected pregnancy. He admitted that it was. He said that my father might get mad at him if I will be pregnant again.
After that talk, we both felt quiet. I knew he was scared. Scared of what my father will say and what will others say.
My partner is the person I can talk to about those matters. He gave me advises which makes me feel comfortable especially about my suspected pregnancy. He is one of my stress relievers so it was just fine talking to him everything I felt that time.
**December 26**
After going to the mall, I felt bad. I had headache again. I felt irritated. I don't know what I felt that time.
Until that night, I felt that I have my period finally. I still want to make sure if it really was my period. I confirmed it the next day. It was finally my period. One thing is for sure. I am not pregnant. I was happy because it was just delayed about 4-5 days only. I remembered when I got pregnant last 2015. It was also the month of December.
I did not tell it yet to my partner but since I am not telling it to him whenever we talk, maybe he felt that I have my period already.
**Why Am I Scared of Being Pregnant Again?**
Having 1 kid is okay. But I want my son to have a sister or brother. Two kids are better. Your children can depend on each other and build a good company aside from friends they meet.
But first of all, I am scared of having a baby again because I am not financially stable. I am sure that I will be in a caesarean delivery again so I need to be prepared. We need to have the money for the operation. It doesn't end there. After that, diapers, milk and vitamins are a must.
Second, I am already 40 years old and being pregnant at a later age is delicate. I should be physically and mentally ready. My body is not that active compared to young pregnant women.
Third, having a baby means taking care of the kids. I cannot work because I need to take care of my children especially the baby (this scenario is only if I am pregnant). I only have 1 kid currently.
Fourth, when can I work? If I have 2 kids, who will take care of them once I will back to work? My father can take care of my eldest but it is hard to take care of the youngest. He needs lot of energy in taking care of both and the next day, he had to wake up early to cook for us and take over the store . He is now a senior citizen and he has no companion while I am at work because my mother is gone.
It will be hard for my father if I will work. If I will not work, my partners salary is not enough to feed us.
I overthink what will happen to us if I will have another baby. Though I really wanted to have another baby, I also think that everything should be in right place. But if it is really meant to come, we will accept it.
**My Final Say**
I am not pregnant. I just thought I was. But having a baby should be planned. Nowadays, it is hard to earn money. We need to feed our family. Give our kids proper education and maintain a good health.
But for those pregnant women out there, be thankful to God. Take care of yourself. Take care of your baby.
If you are waiting to be pregnant, you must be patient. It will come to those who wait and pray and believe. Do not hurry things.
Thank you everyone and have a nice day!
Happy reading.
Thank you @Simon.M32 and @Olasquare for the upvotes. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year
Its been almost a week since I wrote. I was just busy. Hope you guys still support me. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all of us.
My Granted Christmas Wishlists
I wrote an article a few weeks ago about my Christmaa wishlists. Those are my lists that I want to buy for myself and for my son, if possible.
I made my lists this time because I want to know what I can and cannot have. If my lists were granted, that means it might be important for me and if not granted, it might happen next time.
The following are my Christmas wishlists in my previois article:
**Clothes and shoes for my son**. Of all my Christmas wishlists, this is where I am 100% sure that I can do. This is for my son and he has no new clothes and shoes since the pandemic started.
All of his clothes doesn't fit him already. We just gave his old clothes to our neighbor for us to help in small way.
Since there were only few types of shoes for kids in the mall where we went, it was not hard to choose. What was hard was fitting the shoes to his feet. His father chose "Transformers" shoes. At first I didn't like it but the moment we fit it to him, it was good and he did not remove it while we were in the mall. We just paid immediately.
When I received my 13th month pay, my partner and my son went to the mall early to buy clothes amd shoes for him. I wanted to make sure that it will be the first thing that I will buy.
It was not easy to buy him clothes and shoes. This is because the first thing he saw were toys. So whenever we choose shoes for him, he was by not interested and doesn't want to fit any shoes. All he wanted was the toy he want.
Since only few were displayed for boys in kids section, it was not hard to find a design. What was hard is making him fit the shoes. Until we find a perfect one for him that fits his size.
When it comes to his clothes, it was also hard because we cannot choose the perfect fit for him. We need to be in a hurry when making him wear the clothes that we choose. Until we found a collared shirt and short for him.
**Bow and Arrow Toy.** This was the early present from his father this Christmas. He enjoyed it so much because he wanted to play this. When it was given to him, he already used and played it.
The next day, he used it amd show to his playmates. I want my son to have toys that he want not because I want to spoil him but because I want him to enjoy his childhood.
We also bought him Nerf sniper gun. It was on sale so we bought it half the price. He loves collecting guns. He also has Nerf guns before which was given by my younger brother.
**Comb.** Like I mentioned, this was the cheapest thing that I can buy for myself. I bought it for 100 pesos only. I like using it because I don't feel stressed when combing my hair. It also relaxes my hair unlike other ordinary comb. My last comb lasted for almost a year. I hope this one lasted too.
I listed it in my wishlist for me to push myself in buying it even I can buy it in ordinary days. I wanted to make sure that I can buy a new one. The old one is still useful but the bristles are incomplwte.
**Pants for myself.** I also bought jeans. I was very happy with what I bought. I never had a brand like that before. Honestly, I don't have a jeans after getting pregnant amd being a mother. I always wore leggings because it is easy to wear and very soft. So I planned to purchase one. This was a gift.from my partner. He gave me the money but I was the one who bought it so that I can choose what I like and what fits me.
Before I always bought jeans which were on sale. I made sure that I have new item every payday for me. I have collected many clothes and shoes.
Unlike now, it was the total opposite.
**Clothes.** This was not in my lists but I included it because I don't have new clothes too. This was the first time I bought clothes after many years.
**Jeans.** After how many years, I now bought a piece of jeans. This was actually my partners present for me. He just gave me the money because I am not sure of my waistline after I got pregnant.
I know that I did not gain weight but my waistline increased. To avoid returning the item, I told him to gave the money to me and I will be the one to buy it.
I was happy with what I bought because it was the first time that I purchased from that certain brand. It was on sale that is why I bought one. If I only have extra budget, I will buy another one because it was on sale.
Now that I am a mother and I have more responsibilities at home, it is hard to buy the personal things that I want. I will prioritize the needs of my son and at home rather than my own.
There were also few lists that I did not bought.
**Jewellery.** Even I know I can afford to buy even 1 pair of earrings or necklace, I did not buy any because I felt that I can buy it some other time.
I only wanted a simple and affordable jewellery but not fake. It is an investment if you have genuine jewelleries.
**Mobile Phone.** I listed it but I know that there is a chance I might not have a new phone. This is the least priority. I still have a phone to use.
But if ever I will purchase a new one, I make sure that I have enough money and I will buy the phone I needed.
I hope I can buy a new phone this year.
**Pair of Sandals.**
I bought a slippers for only P120.00. But what I wamted to buy for is the sandals which I can used when going to the malls or if I will be going back to work or attend occassions. But the slippers I bought can also be used for malls but the one I wanted is much formal.
**My Final Say**
My lists are very simple. But when I bought something I wanted, I felt happy and contented because I can give something for myself and for my family.
@Shyness
