My own inspired thoughts on good parenting

No doubts, something spectacular might in some way inspire your thoughts on how one can be a good parent, I will never argue it with you cos I respect other people's opinions and feelings. Everything I will write here is my own view on what I feel good parenting should be.

Like anyone can go to school, but only a few will graduate with good grades. Same scenario goes with being a parent. I can be a parent, you too can be one, anyone can be one but very few can tag a good parent. I could remember very well as a child, I spent more time with my parents and this led to a very strong bonding between us. It got to the point where I was so comfortable sharing my private life and whatever was bothering me with them. Sharing my feelings or seeking for advice outside my family never for one day came into my thoughts cos I had the right people I can always talk to which were my parents.

My parents gave me everything I wanted, from the attention, companionship, company and many more. I had a great childhood and even now. All thanks to my amazing parents.

Every child needs to enjoy this one thing from their parents, "LOVE and CARE" . It is as important as anything that every parent should build this strong bonding with their kids. Show them love and care, make them feel relaxed, secured and comfortable when they are around them.

I have seen seen in different occasions where parents try to bribe their children with chocolates, and flashy gifts just so that they can have all the time for themselves. This acts alone swallows the love and care that children seeks from their parents. The parent and child bonding never happen. Which is very bad as the child will seek for companionship outside. Sometimes the direction and advice they get outside leads them into joining bad company.

What breaks my heart sometimes is how some parents are more concerned about their own life forgetting about how their children is doing. The well-being of their children doesn't concern them in any way. Some parents compare their children with other people's children without knowing the ability and capacity of their own children. Since the relationship is not there, they fail to realize the level of strength their children possesses forcing them to go beyond what they can do so they won't embarrass them in front of their social friends. They don't care if that's what the child wants, what matters to them more is keeping up with their status amongst their friends.

This gets the child nowhere rather the child feels depressed and eventually loses belief in themselves. Like I said earlier, anyone can be a parent, but not everyone can be a good parent. I so much wish that every parent, soon to be parent on this platform and outside here reading this, that wants to be a good parent should first understand their child's feelings and passion, support them on developing it instead of imposing your own opinions on them.

Never compare your children with other people's children. Every child is born with their own strength, uniqueness. Yours is not an exception, they are unique in their own way. What is expected of you as parent is to support them with everything you have, applaud them, encourage them even when they are not doing well to increase their self-worth by doing what makes them happy.

Lastly, respect their feelings. Get more closer to them, build that strong bonding. Don't give them the chance to sneak outside to seek for companion from strangers. Let them find it in you so they won't be afraid to hide anything from you. If you do this, trust me you will be the best parent any child would wish to have.

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