Sometimes, it's me.

Do you know someone whom you could labelled as toxic?

What are the things you don’t want other people do to you?

Can you tell me what toxic traits are?

Nowadays, we cannot really deny the fact that the world is getting worst. A lot of negative things are happening from time to time. Many people are influence by the social media world and that really caused a lot of misunderstandings and chaos between people.

Most of the time, whenever some unpleasant situation occurs, pointing other people is our immediate reaction. Blaming others are the things we always do and sadly, we didn’t even realized it or better to say that we choose not to care about it. It is so easy to point a finger in order to feel innocent and blameless. Of course, who would want to be blamed? Who in world wants to receive all the negative feedbacks and death stares of the other people? No one, right? Not even me.

Admitting our failures and negative sides requires a lot of courage and confidence. That is why, I admire @dziefem for her bravery to show her negative sides in her article entitled This is me. How about you?

Saying “I am wrong” is never an easy thing to do. It is due to the reason that we grow up seeing only the flaws of other people and forgot to see the imperfections living inside of us. We are so busy pointing our index finger to others that we often missed out to observe that the rest of our fingers are pointing at us. Don’t believe me? Do it, see it for yourself.

Let’s go back to the questions I have in my introduction. I am sure that all of us know the traits of a toxic person, and I also know that we can easily spot a toxic person. Of course, either we admit it or not, we are so good in judging other people but hate to be judged. Funny how we constantly do to the other people the things we don’t want to experience.

I am writing this article because I have realized that at some point of our lives, we also become the people we hated. Sometimes, we are the toxic ones. We are the mean and antagonist of other people’s lives. Betimes, we are the negative people we keep on pushing away and trying to avoid. We may not realize it always, but at some point of our lives, we became the problem.

Six types of Toxic People

Manipulator

These are the people who tries to control everything and everyone around them. At first, they will make you feel like you are valued. But later on, they will start to decide for you and will make you feel bad if you will not follow them.

Victim

This type of toxic people always blames other people to every misfortune they encounter in their lives. They will always have their excuses and reasons everytime they fall apart. These are the type of people who always wants the attention to be focused on them.

Energy Drainer

This is the most dangerous person you will ever encounter. From the name itself, they will definitely drain you until there’s nothing left on you. They will always find ways to put you down for no reason. Being happy for other people will make them feel sick.

Fake Complimentor

Obviously, these are the people who will give you fake compliments and act happy for all your achievements in life. But the reality is, they lack empathy and will mostly put you in uncomfortable positions.

Pessimist

Should I still need to discuss this? They are the type of people you shouldn’t get involved with. They will only bring no good to you and will even talks down to you just to make them feel better. Selfish people and only cares about themselves. Full of negativity.

Criticiser

They always have something negative to say in everything you do. These are the type of people who will make you feel unable to do things you want. They give criticism not because they want to help you grow but to bring you down.

How to be non-toxic?

Smile

I am not pertaining to fake smiles. I mean, if you’re not in the mood to smile then there’s no need to force yourself. But you should also know that smiling more often creates a nice atmosphere to the people surround you and yourself. In creates good vibes and attracts positive energy. Also, smiling will make you look more beautiful.

Be grateful

I know, there are days that feel like the world is unfair. But hey, there’s still a lot of things we should grateful for. Being able to wake up and witness a new day that the Lord created is already an enough reason for us to be grateful. Start appreciating the small ones.

Be contented

I am not saying that we should settle for less. No, it’s not that. If we can have something bigger than that, then good. But we should teach ourselves to be contented in every small things we have. Not everyone are fortunate enough to experience the life you are living in right now. Aim for the best but don’t forget to cherish the things you have in the present.

Don’t compare

Often, toxicity comes when we start to compare ourselves from other people. I mean, we all have our own oath to take and there’s no need for you to compare and envy them. Focus on yourself , growth and improvement.

Be happy for the other people

Okay, I know this bit hard. Human as we are, jealousy is part of our nature. However, nothing will happen if we will just keep on envying other people. Common, just like you, every successful person sacrifices a lot just to be where they are right now. We have no idea about all the hardships they experienced along the way. Because what we only see are the result and not the process. Being happy for other people’s achievement will never kill you. You can even use their success as an inspiration to strive more.

Accept corrections

We should always remember that nothing is perfect. We all do commit mistakes and do failures. Even the best fall down sometimes. Therefore, we should always have a teachable heart. A heart that is willing to accept corrections. Corrections will actually help you grow as a person if you just know how to handle it correctly. Do not treat everyone who corrected you as an enemy. In fact, thank them. People who spend their precious time correcting you are actually the one who really cares for you.

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Admitting your negative and toxic sides is very important for your growth. But that is if you really want to grow as a person. Taking accountability in everything you do will never make you less worthy.

You know, life is full of up downs. Don’t let your one mistake stop you from becoming who you really want to be.

Keep growing.

Keep learning.

Keep on checking and motivating yourself.

Mistakes are part of success.

Failures open a lot of opportunities.

Look at them, own them, grow from them and move on.

You are a human being and blunders are very common for us.

But it doesn’t mean that we can’t be better.

Heyaaaa! Thanks for reading till the end.

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