The Unfaithful Ones

Oh, the unfaithful ones! Most of us us at one time or another have experienced the drama, disgust and disappointment in the person we trusted when we found out they were unfaithful in our relationship.

We have sobbed long hours, pondered whether we were doing something wrong, and then over time let things go, only to be wary of getting into the next relationship where we could remain unscathed by an unfaithful person.

Beauty

I am no longer enamored by sheer beauty alone; I've learned my lesson the hard way. It is true that #Filipinas are, in my estimation, the most beautiful females in the world. However, whether it is the figure or the facial features of a woman, I now (and have for several years now) dismissed outer appearances alone when choosing a partner. Looks can be deceiving, after all.

Instead, I make every attempt to look inside the heart of a woman, and that can be difficult as well. I was fooled once and that was enough. It seems that after a while people change in a relationship when they are unsatisfied and then choose to be unfaithful. This is not the sign of maturity.

Puppy love

We that are on social media, especially Facebook, have observed underaged couples flaunting their "love". At 13 or 14 years of age, kids don't even know what love is and all the commitment it entails.

My ex had a daughter who I raised as my own. She "fell in love" at age 14. I told her, "You're not in love; you're in puppy love. Now get in their and attend to your studies after you wash the darn dishes."

That is what kids should be doing, not looking for love.

Looking for love

If you are looking for love, you have already taken steps towards future disappointment. Love comes naturally and when one least expects it.

I was on a couple of Philippines dating groups on Facebook a few years back. I thought, "Why not make a post and include a pic and see what happens?"

Yikes!

My initial post received over 1,000 likes and several hundred messages, most from Filipinas and a few from baklas.

After 3 or 4 days I left the group. The reason I did was because too many women were messaging me and asking me for money. There was no small talk, but rather a "Hi, can you send me some money?"

Then broken English was followed by a sob story I've heard a thousand times: "My Mom just died. I have a toothache. We are homeless. I don't have food. I'm stuck in Nigeria."

Messages like this clogged my Messenger. I would up blocking hundreds of people.

But is it possible to find a soulmate on social media? I believe so, but those long distance relationships typically do not work out in the end, especially with people (mostly male perverts) from the Middle East.

If you're lucky

If you're lucky, you may find a fine soulmate on social media. On the other hand, if you are destined for love, it will come to you.

Be careful. Be wise. Don't allow beauty to affect your decisions. Don't rush into a relationship with anyone. Anything short of this will likely end in you hooking up with one of the unfaithful ones.