Make the money, not the friends, how true is it?

Over the years, a lot of an unending arguement have been raised over the two above choices of either making the "money" and not the "friends" or making the "friends" before the money.

I want you to take note of those key words where the former talked of "making the MONEY not the friends", and the latter saying; " making the friends BEFORE the money", you will agree with me that the former is rather too direct with a conclusion on what should exactly be the way forward while the latter proved very suggestive with regard to being open for a change, which means that, it has all it takes to go either way.

Now back to my question again with regard to the topic, is it right to say; "make the money not the friends?"

I guess the answers respecting this above asked question is with respect to how you view the isuues regarding money and friends/freindships alike and for us to properly understand these very issues that is in existence between friends/friends and money, we have to first look into what the two words individually mean according to some philosophical findings and definitions before we will then draw our reasonable conclusion or make our inferences on that arguments that have lingered even for centuries till date without making any head way.

Therefore, I will start with the definition no friends and all you need to know about friendships or friends.

What is friendship?

Friendships according to the https//www.britannica.com>topic, friendship is a state of unending affection, esteem, intimacy, and "trust" between two people...it is recognized by both members of the relationship and is characterized by a "bond" or "tie" of reciprocated affection.

For sure, you will agree with me that that is just as exact as what friends or friendship definition should look like but in all, did you take into account some of the key astericsed (*) words in the definition of that word friendship like "trust", and the "bond or tie" alike? Yes that is exactly what it is and for the purpose of a better understanding, i want us to look into those two words "trust and bond or tie".

What is trust?

This is the firm belief in the realiability, truth, or the ability of someone or something. Did you also take note of what trust a genuine that can be found right inside the definition and meaning of frienship is? What does it mean to you per say?

Well, if you ask me, I will tell you that such a question as regards what it means is quite rhetorical and could be answered in your own leisure time as we now move over to the next one being the bond or tie.

What is bond/tie?

This is a close affection we've been able to build with others over a very long period of time and such bonds or ties are usually built on trust of which without it, then we don't hold anything dear at all.

More so, those two key words that are found inside the meaning of the friendship duly have things in common and that have to do with the attachment and the value we have with people that will guarantee their friendship with us across the phase of time.

To complete the above understanding regarding that word frienship, I want us to look into the three types of friendship that we have in life today and always according to a world renowned great philosopher in the person of Aristotle, right there, you will understand for sure what it really means and then in which one of them you rightly belong to.

Types of friendship according to Aristotle.

• Friendships of utility

• Friendships of pleasure and,

• Friendships of good.

Those are the three types of friendships that we have and for you to know in which of the friendship categories you fall into, we have to take them one after the other.

Friendships of utility

This kinds of friendships exists between you and someone who is useful to you in some way or the other.

What we do understand here is that friendship or any form of it will not exist here if those we are friends with are not useful or helpful to us in one way or the other and in other words, it could be said to a friend of benefit. For example, when you have a friend who usually comes in to help you out with your chores is a friend by utility cos you are gaining from such a friend are you not?

Friendships of pleasure

This one exists between one and those whose company you enjoy.

What we do learn here is that such friendship would not exist if such persons do not have anything in common and such examples are those persons that have a common behaviour of partying, having some sports and many more like going to different pup houses to fill their beer thirsty stomach with some well distilled drink.

Friendships of good

These kind of friendship is based on mutual respect and admiration. An example of this could be your girl friend or boy friend you have some feelings admiration for based on his or her life style that appeals to you or otherwise.

Haven understood all that is involved in friendship and all that we need to know about it, then let us go back to our topic for today being; "make the money, not the friends".

Do you think it is right to say make the money not the friends? Well, for me, I think it is wrong to say that going by all the above reasons and my main reason is that of not being acquinted with the happenings around if not for your friends who are either close to you by proximity or by affection.

Let me use read.cash as an example by asking you this auxilliary question; how did you hear about read.cash? Through a television or internet advert or through your friends? Pls be honest with your answers.

What about that very dream job of yours, how did you hear about it, through a newspaper publication or through a friend or friends of yours?

The truth of the matter is that irrespective of what you may think about friends, the underlying truth here is that you are into friendship with others based on any of those choices listed above which could as well form the basis for how you want to direct your steps.

In other words, friends are good based on what motive you have for being friends with others after all, I was introduced into read.cash platform by a friend and since that is my case, would it be right to say to me, make the money not the friends, when it is obvious that the read.cash platform has brought a huge amount of joy, blsessings and fun for me interms of the experience i've garnered overtime writing articles and making some money too which I make use of as a passive and a suplementary income to the little ones I get from the work I do.

I guess my friends have helped me especially towards the path of my blogging experience and those of making money as well through read.cash and I really do owe them a lot which in turn, doesnot in any way possible morally justify that claim to; "make the money not the friends".

It all depends on your perspective towards making friends as though some friends are there to destroy you, while some are there to morally, financially and physically upbuild you and give you a stable ground within the ecosystem where survival of the fittest has always being for the strongest.

Remember also that the love of money is the root of all sorts of injurious things and by reaching out for this love, many have stabbed themselves all over with many pains -1timothy 6:10(New World Translation of the Holy Scriptures)

Therefore, if biblically, the love of money is condemned to mean stabbing oneself all over with many pains, then why the warning or the reasoning to " make the money not the friends when it is obvious our good friends can lead us to the pathways of money making"? Think!

What is your own take on this argument, i'd like to hear from you in my comment section pls. Thanks for reading

Good afternoon and l❤e you all.

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