The Power of Appreciation

Appreciations and compliments are what many desire and looking forward to hear from people around them. They are words of encouragement that builds up a man's self esteem. Giving a honest and sincere appreciation to someone will make them feel important and special. It builds confidence and trust.

For everyone around us including ourselves we wish to hear compliments and not critism. Dale Carnegie says "Criticism is futile because it puts a person in a defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself . It wounds a person's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance and arouses resentment"

Criticism damages man's self esteem and confidence. They are selfish and unkind. Criticism have caused many to commit suicide. It caused many to fall and give up. It has broken many homes apart, spouses have failed to appreciate themselves rather criticising themselves. Children have lost confidence in themselves because their parents always critises them anytime they come home which their 'report card' and the results of their examinations.

"the bait that suit the fish'

While fishing, the best bait to use in order to catch a fish are worms. When a fisherman decides to use a bait different from a worm will not give him a pleasant and satisfying result. It does not matter what we prefer or want, the best bait to use is a worm because fishes like worms the best. Let's apply this to humans also. We should give people what they want and not we want. Criticism and flattery are selfish because we didn't see what we want in a person, we critism them because they have failed to be what we want and do what we want. Showing them what we want instead of what they want is selfish and insincere. Our critism cannot change them to what we want rather it breaks them and makes them lose their confidence.

Appreciation is finding pride and satisfaction with others. The power of appreciation is knowing people's value and making them feel important. Making them feel the "desire to be important". The feel the desire to be important when we give them kind words and appreciate them. It makes them do better than they have been doing because they know we actually appreciate what they are doing for them.

Finding fault and criticising others does not make us feel perfect. If we really value and cherish those around us, we should really appreciate them, know their worth instead of criticising and finding their faults and mistakes. Instead of finding fault, let's see the good of them and appreciate them for that. We should compliment them and give them kind and sincere words from our hearts.

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