Living to please others

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You cannot be good to everyone when you live to please them. Living to please other people is what can also be called "people pleaser" it means doing things to please other people, friends and families just to maintain relationships with them and for you to feel acceptable. In this world that we are, you cannot please everyone no matter what you do or how proper you present yourself you cannot be right to some people. They are always interested in finding faults and flaws in other people.

Living to please other people might be risky because you never can tell those you love you truly. Some might only keep you around because they knew you are always helpful to them, they only take advantage of your kindness, they don't really care what happen to you, all they need is your help.

It might also be risky in terms of mistakes of plunders, as you know, no man is above mistake unless you take to them, once you make a mistake whatsoever they neglect you completely. Then you live in the guilt that you are responsible for it, but it's not possible not to make mistakes. While you are getting praises for doing all this works for them, you find yourself really drained and exhausted, that you will not have time for yourself again for the day.

The moment you find it hard staying "no" to people, finding it hard to turn favours down even at your own inconvenience. When I was young I have found myself in this situation a lot. Even when I know I don't have time for myself or probably busy with my life, if anyone asks for help or a favor at that time, even when I know I am not capable of doing it at that moment, I will find myself doing it. We are humans and we are not capable of doing everything in this life, therefore we should learn to say 'no' when we really mean it and when we know we are not capable.

It even comes with people view or perspective about something, you agree to whatever they say or do even when you feel differently. That moment you are always occupied with what others think. Then you might really be pleasing other people. You are always thinking of what your friends will think about you and you feel guilty when you are not able to render assistance or help. You feel you might get other people's approval when you think about them.

Sometimes we fear what others might think about us, you fear they might think you are selfish or arrogant. You fear that they will think you are mean but you don't have to allow fear to pre occupy your mind. You should live for yourself, think about yourself first before others.

In conclusion

We should always think highly of ourselves first, even when others think you are selfish. It doesn't matter what others think about us. We should stop pleasing people and trying to be good to everyone.

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