"'Cause so many times I was certain
You was gonna walk out of my life, life
Why you take such a hold of me, girl
When I'm still trying to get my act right?"
There are people who has little confidence about themselves making them feel inferior to their partners and think that they may not deserve the love they receive. This type of people overthinks a lot and needs constant reassurance and security. Their behavior might be because of a result of how they grew up or such painful event happened to them. Be patient enough, it is just a little thing to do to make them feel the warmth they need. Most of them aren't materialistic but craves for attention and comfort. They will also do the same because they know what it feels to need such assurance and security.
In other cases, it is the continuous mistakes that hurts their partner. It made them feel hopeless and think they dont deserve the love because they're hurting you and still on the process of becoming better. Yes, we might not deserve our partner but that doesn't mean you should give up specially when your partner is continuously choosing you even if it hurts. Return the favor by becoming the better person for your partner, she's/he's staying so she's/he's hoping and believing that you can change for the better and have a healthier relationship with her/him. It's rare to have a person who's willing to be with you even if you're still in the process of making thinks right. That person understand your flaws the most and giving you the privilege of a special person who's worth the pain and sacrifices.
"I love you, but I just need a night off"
Some believe that you shouldn't sleep without fixing the issue and problem but I believe that this will only result by draining and make things worse specially when both of you are both mad. If you can solve things with your partner before sleeping then it's good but if not then don't force it. It's better to talk with clearer mind because anger will only make you say painful words and lead to wrong actions.
However, you can't just sleep or leave each other alone; give them the assurance and security that you still love each other and will talk again soon.
Then take your time to ask yourself;
Is this fight worth to be fixed or worst enough to end the relationship?
Is it okay for you to see her/him with someone else?
Is it worth it to let that person go?
What's his/her perspective about here?
Analyze the words you received and remember that small things may be big things to the other and vice versa. Care for each other's feelings and don't invalidate it just because they're small for you.
Think for yourself too. Then rest then speak with each other when you're ready and practice it to each other in calm.
