Are both of you in the phase where you always fight? Day and night...almost all the time, even the smallest thing becomes a big problem. This is so tiring and leads to over thinking and worse anxiety.
Questions such as:
Am I still loved?
Is my partner done with me?
Am I not enough?
Do I even have a worth for him?
Do you believe when others say that, "never let one sleep without solving the problem"?
I personally think that it's alright to give each other rest from each other. Fighting all the time can be overwhelming to the both of you and forcing to fix everything while both of you are in mess will only make the situation worse. Assurance is the key. You can just both assure each other that you still love each other and are willing to listen soon, just for the time being take a rest and organize the thoughts and feelings. Reflect to yourself and your relationship. Swallow your pride and ego, you won't need it here. Try to listen to yourself and put yourself one another's shoes.
By doing these, all the questions can be answered in a clearer way and will give you both a stronger bond in the relationship.
They said that if you are fighting then the stronger your relationship. However, it is better to set your mind thinking and believing that it's not the fight the makes you stronger but the willingness to fix, listen, forgive, understand...the whole process of keeping your relation is what makes you both stronger.
I have been in this situation and it is so tiring and made me feel less. Exchanging painful words, cold responses, trying to just not care...all of it are draining the whole out of me.
Honestly in this situation it's either you give each other a space then come back to each other with clearer thoughts or choose to care and pull each other closer. What I mean in the latter is like when some of us girls say to just leave but we really mean for you to stay and we did not just ask for it because the situation makes it look and feel like you don't want to and we don't wanna force you and of course this can apply in vice versa.
Either of the two choices, you will know what to choose. Observe and feel you significant other and yourself on what you really want.
Here's a possible question...what if the one wants space and the other wants attention?
In this situation, I personally believe that it is better to choose to give the other space but before that assure the other because if that person really loves you then love can wait. I will remind the assurance here. Assurance really matters so your partner won't over think.
There's no such thing as perfect relationship, it will be in fighting, boring, draining, and messy phases but it's such a perfect match when both of you always choose each other at the end.
P.S. Hope you all have a healthy relationship. Let me know if you have questions in about relationships, I can give my personal thought coming from experiences. Stay safe everyone.
