She acts like summer and walks like rain.

Hahaha! There she goes again, you want to pretend as if you do not know what I am talking about Lidia? Were you not the person that called me all sorts of names and insulted me at the first place? For sometime now, you have been acting so weird and living double life with me, you treat me like trash, you don't respect me as your husband and you don't allow me touch you, even to make love to you is really a big issue, but out there you pretend as if we are so much in love with each other, you give the neighbors the impression that you sincerely love and respect me when they ask you about our marriage and how we have been doing. You go about telling your friends that all is well with us in our marriage, even when we are outside you act as if I am the best man for you, but on the other hand when we go back home, you turn and treat me as if I never existed or worst still, you act as if you don't care or have any atom of feelings for me in any kind.

Why are you doing this to me?

Why are you acting as if I have a big plague that can affect you if you come close to me?

Why do you hate me this much?

I am gradually losing my mind and going insane because you act like summer and walk like rain; angrily Mr. Frank shouted at his wife.

I want you to ponder on this short story about Mr. Frank and his wife and try to find out what could be the reason for his wife weird treatment towards him.

Often time we come across this type of situation around us and we see lots of marriages and relationships dance in such discordant tunes of misunderstanding, hate, complain, maltreatment and confusion, and when such incident happen we ask ourselves whether they really knew each other well before they got married, or whether there was anything called love amongst them before they went into marriage union. One begins to wonder in thoughts the reasons for such issue to happen in marriages that were said to be built on the foundation of love.

You could see this happening not just from the side of wives to their husbands, but also from husbands to their wives in different marriages, both parties suffer such situations. You will agree with me that to be in a marriage union is not an easy journey as one may think, there are a lot of huddles and challenges that could make the moments in marriages go backwards and forwards and when such earthquake in marriage occurs, one should not act immediately or conclude at once with any decision that comes to his or her mind in order to take action against his or her partner.

Whether there is a misunderstanding amongst the two persons in marriage that could cause one of the partners to act in a weird way, there should be a need for proper dialog and discussion amongst the two to iron out their differences than trying to show grievances through torturing your partner when you are inside the house with him or her, and when you go outside you pretend as if everything is fine and good with you and your spouse.

Maltreating your partner and even restricting your partner from making love with you when you are hurt by your partner without giving any room for discussion and settlement in your relationship could cause more harm than good in your relationship, that could cause more gap in the feelings you have been sharing amongst the two of you and I tell you, that is not a healthy move in the right direction.

Remember when you are following such step to register your anger towards how your spouse treated you that you don't really like, without trying to call for his or her attention, you are gradually sending wrong signals to your partner's emotional and psychological feelings towards you and that surely will shake your marriage foundation if care is not taken.

What ever be the reason for you to show or treat your partner in such weird attitudes and treatments should not be allowed to continue rather, find a way to come to a discussion table to sort the problem out before it gets out of hand. You may say I have warned him or her several times to stop making me feel hurt but instead, he or she continued to make me feel hurt all the time and that's why I am treating him or her the way I am doing now. But I tell you, that is not really enough reason to maltreat your partner all because you want to prove a point or make your partner feel the same way you felt those days he or she was hurting you badly.

In marriage, one of the things that build up  marriage relationship stronger is the ability to always say your mind when you are hurt by your partner and also give room for discussion and settlement at all times. The moment you realise that the person you are in-love with is also a human being and can make mistake at any given time just the same way like you, and also a constant need to always open your heart to forgive and forget, then you are in for a wonderful joy ride in your marriage relationship.

There is no need trying to pretend out there when you are really not happy inside, it's best for you to make peace from inside to outside. And learn to always be at peace with your partner.

Thanks for coming by to read my article 🙏 Rafd9828