Please Dads, you need to read this.

Hello everyone, I appreciate your effort so much in making sure you contribute your own part in educating and enlightening the world with your articles.

Please I want to specially make an appeal  today through my article to the fathers all over the world to try and read this important piece of information and advise I am going to share here in my article. As we already know that parenting comes with a huge responsibilities and must not be taken for granted. During my course of study and research, I came to understand that there are a lot of imbalances in the way children behave, feel, see their parents and get attached more to their mothers than their fathers in the families where they find themselves in.

You may ask What do I mean by that?

You may have noticed that the love, bond and affection children share with their mothers are far way much more than the ones they have and share with their fathers. And you begin to wonder and ask yourself why is it so? Some will try to say the reason why you can find such feelings and bond more attached to the mothers is because, mothers are the ones that carried them in their womb, breast fed them and even stay closer to them and all that. Yes of a truth, you may be getting the answers correct if you give such reason as why they share more bond and feeling together than the fathers.

But apart from the reason I have mentioned above, there are other reasons why these bond and feelings of love and attention is given to the mothers more than the fathers by their children. And these reasons are what I will be explaining below for you (the fathers) to actually find where you are making mistakes and take corrections so you can have a fulfilling days with your children even when you get to your old age in life.

During my study, I observed that one of the reasons why children have more affection and bond with their mothers more than their fathers is because the father's responsibility of fending for their families have taken their attention and presence away from their children's lives and that contributes to the reason why children bond more with their mothers. Yes everyday the fathers go out in the morning and come back late from work and will not have much time to play and stay with their children before they go to sleep, and you already know that the mothers stay with them from morning till evening and give them all the necessary attentions they desire. When they grow with that style of living, they develop love, affection and bond with that person that gives them all the necessary attention, care, affection they needed while they were growing up, and this feeling is also taken with them to their adulthood.

I also observed that the way most fathers take the issues that concerns their children's well-being is really a problem that constitute such lapses in the way their children relate with them. For instance, A situation where your children's school fees are due to be paid and you leave everything to your wife to handle even when you know you are the one paying the money yourself. Instead of you to make your children know that you gave their mother their school fees to pay for them, you leave for work early morning and when your wife go to their school and make the payment, in your children's mindset and believe, they feel it is their mother that paid the school fees for them. This is also another factor that makes the children bond more with their mother.

Another observation I got from my study was the way most fathers make out time to look out for their children and solve their problems when they run to them. When your child comes to you as a father to play with you or stay with you but because you are so tired and needed some rest when you come back from work, you may not want to be disturbed by them and this will make you to direct them to their mother to get any assistance they are looking for and stop disturbing you. This is another factor that contributes to your children bonding more with their mother in the family.

In all my studies, I came to understand that there are lots of factors that may have contributed to these challenges most fathers face with when it comes to show of affection, love and care from their children when they get old. I am of the opinion that fathers should make out time and be active in their children's life same way the mothers are doing.

It may be so difficult to do but I tell you this, you will not regret it when the time comes in the future when your children must have grown up, they will love you the same way they love and bond with their mothers.

I use my neighbor as my role model, he makes out time to be active in his children's lives, he dresses them up together with the wife when they are preparing them for school and even to other activities they want to attend, he takes them to school and helps the wife to bring them back from school.

He makes sure that he call his children at night to ask them how their day went when he comes back from work in the evening, he plays with them and makes sure he helps them in their take home assignments.

He personally told me that he gives his children's school fees in front of his children to his wife to pay for them at school, and his children always show gratitude to him with a kiss on his cheek and a word of "thank you daddy" when ever he pays their school fees for them.

So I strongly believe when you apply some of these steps I made mention in my article in your children's lives, they will surely love and bond with you same way they bond with their mothers. And more so, when you do all of these to your children,  you are helping your wife and marriage to stay longer, stronger and healthier. I wish you well as you explore these advise of mine in your family.

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