Well, this article is just borne out of my thought... I've had lots of friends both lively, cool, hard-faced and all but one came to my mind and I wish to write about my view on life...
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She grew up in a Christian home, but she was a natural introvert and a bookworm, while her other siblings enjoyed the few few moments of freedom they were given, she spent hers reading, listening to radio and writing too. She had no pleasure in being out and about and she kinda doesn't regret it, as it formed most of what she's become.
When she was a teenager, girls her age were getting pregnant, having abortions, getting raped by their boyfriends...she made a decision that would never be her.
She told herself she'd wait to date. So, when she does she'll have nothing to hide or be ashamed of. She wanted to do things right, but at the same time as a realist, she told herself, she may not meet one guy, date him, marry him and live happily ever after.
But she told herself that if she'll ever get pregnant unplanned, she'd be a working woman who can cater for herself and her child if her dad chose to be a dead beat. So, she waited. Her first was at 29 and her first real relationship started at 31. She didn't plan on waiting that long, but life happens.
That wait, became an anticlimax, as she started exactly when every other female was finishing. No man wants to touch a woman over 30 except its good for them for a particular reason.
Everyone feels females in their 30's had lived a wasted youth and got stranded maritally.
All girls she grew up with who did it all when it comes to what we seemingly call bad, are all married with kids now and most times they laugh at her who formed miss goodie two shoes back then.
Now, thinking about her, I can't help but wonder how unfair life is at times.
Many get married a virgin and are still without kids while those that really enjoyed their lives are mothers already.
Many lived their lives being chaste but are unmarried today because they've got no experience.
Many children who are so brilliant become dropouts because they couldn't meet up with the school bills and have no scholarship.
Many students who have all the support in the world, still turn out with bad grades because they are unserious.
Life isn't balanced 😕
Early this year, I also heard about a story of a lady who have waited for love for long, without planning, she met someone on Instagram, they started talking and became friends.
She fell madly in love with him, they decided to meet, one thing led to the other and she got pregnant. That was when she got to know the man is married with kids. Things didn't work out.
And I've come to realize that we have lots of people out there who are being judged by people who have different narratives about them.
Many peoject lots of assumptions on females that are of age. Many of them had never had abortions, never slept with a married man, but careful in choosing and I feel they shouldn't be judged.
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this society.. kinda sucks. their expectations sucks. just because someone is single doesn't mean she's living a pitiful life. some just chooses to stay single. we are all responsible on our every actions. it's our life, our choice.
I just hope people will learn not to judge people because of the decision they have made. What we need is support, not judgment.