"You build a man for another woman"

Does it ring a bell? Is it familiar to you?

What if the man you love right now is not for you at all? What if you're building a man for another woman? Are you willing to let go?

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Every relationship has a cycle, at first you deeply fall hard for your partner. Anticipating the call, text and even the touch. Craving for the moment, the laughter and the place that you used to. Falling in love wasn't that hard. We can easily fall for someone as it shows pure and genuine love. The promise that we're holding, the words that we're believing and the action that speaks louder. Who wouldn't fall for that?

But after a few months or years, the euphoria of love fades. The calls and text bother you anymore, the touch isn't welcome at all. You feel yourself heating up not because you're excited but it drives you nuts. You feel annoyed when he's around. You don't want to feel his presence anymore. That's how things instantly change. Blaming each other as the unhappiness felt inside their heart and would look outside for fulfilment. Upbraiding that one has fault for being inside the relationship. You both want to end but the word "LOVE" keeps you both together.

You too grow and mature, willing to give and take each other's time. Understand the situation when one is busy enough for whatever the reason. Supporting each different goal in life. Know how to appreciate it's simple yet exciting efforts. The promise became firm day by day. Love became it's foundation as trust is building inside it's solid relationship. A scheme that you will end up together building your own happy family. As you two believe that "happily ever after" exists in your love story.

But your world crumbles right after you too end. When he discerns that you're not the woman he wants to be neither a person he wants to grow old with. He doesn't see you as a material wife nevertheless but a plain ex girlfriend, no less. He doesn't see you as a woman who walks in the aisle wearing a white dress gown holding a bouquet of flowers. He doesn't see you as a woman whom he'll tell his vow "till death do us part".

Your role is only to build him as man, your role is to love and trust him without knowing that you'll end up broken. The memories that keep on hunting you, the flashbacks of how happy you were before and the touch that you're longing for won't shrug off your mind. The place that reminds you of him, the sweet gestures that will make your heart flutter. The pictures that you both shared, as a smile appears to your lips but instantly turns to tears when reality snaps at you. The promise that breaks into pieces that shutters your whole self. Let the tears ease your pain, let the memories fade and give yourself time to heal. Things happen for a purpose, we might don't see what it is for now but surely we'll be able to recognize it and we can say, "Thank God for letting it happen". Love is not a mystery nor a passive experience. Love is not a destiny it's a CHOICE.

Are you willing to let go if it means losing your happiness? Or would you rather stick to him knowing everything? Would you act like a sort of martyr? Are you willing to sacrifice?

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