We are our own enemies.
I was listening to an audio podcast last night and I was inspired. It's not that most of those words said were new to me. I decided to use the word "we" so we can learn from it together and not only myself keeping the knowledge to myself.
We have been made to know what enemy stands for and how they are tagged "our enemy". When we are hurt by people, we immediately turn them to enemies. When we ask for support from people and they do not help us, they have become an enemy. When our friends are not happy with our achievements, we immediately say "he or she is my enemy." Of course it's true. Anyone who doesn't want our progress definitely do not like us and they are enemies to us. Do you also know we are our own enemies too?
Many of us tends to get worried over things being said to us and because of that, we feel sad and get depressed. We decide to hold onto those words which deprive us of our happiness and peace. We would never satisfy everyone and people will never appreciate our efforts, but they are fond of criticizing other people. Then, when we now accept everything said to us, we are our own enemies. We do not love ourselves at all.
Something most importantly that also leads to becoming our own enemies is comparing ourselves to other people. Involving in negative competition with other people means you do not appreciate yourself. There is need to practice self love and never accept what people say to you negatively. Listening to what they say to you, criticizing you and also harbouring those words in your heart will never give you peace of mind and it will hide your potentials.
You know when you have an enemy, they will continue to hunt you and find means to deprive you of your happiness but when you do not allow negativity or criticism, you will be fine. That is one thing that is sure. Enemies look for ways to bring us down and draw us back from progressing. They would try every means to stop us and create different excuses to block us from succeeding.
There are many activities going on social medias and we have allowed them have their way in our lives. We forgot that things we see on social medias, most of them are fake and not real but because we see those swags and paparazzi being flaunt around by them, we look down on ourselves and think we aren't better in our own world. There is nothing wrong with us, we are only creating false words into our heart. When you are pessimistic about your life, you will never do something tangible because all you will keep thinking of is that "I can't do it."
When we keep comparing ourselves to others. When we keep accepting those bad words into us. When we decide to live by them, we are definitely our enemies. I have always been someone who loves to ask for other's opinion on things I buy for myself, perhaps I shouldn't have done that but I see these kinds of people as friends but I think they keep having their own say while I accept everything they say. Whenever I ask if what I have is okay, some would compliment me while others would say it doesn't look good, don't use this, don't use that etc. I allowed those words dictate me which I would also change my mind and feel sad. It got to a point, I felt I wasn't good at things. Then, one day I stopped telling them or asking for their opinions and I was fine with my things.
There was a day I was putting on a short trouser and someone started criticizing me, saying what I wore isn't good, it looks childish, it's local bla bla bla.... I immediately replied her to "stop it and I am okay with it." That was how it ended. I found out not everyone would like you if you are achieving a feat or doing things they never expected you to do. We would always have the bad ones among us, but not being influenced by them is on our own to decide if we want to live a happy life.
There was a lady who made a beautiful hair and added some beads to make it cute. Seriously, there wasn't anything wrong in it. At least she did something that made her happy and it's her preference. When she entered, people started saying negative words and criticizing her for making the hair. I had to look at the hair again and I saw the lady's countenance as she went inside. I stood up and counter their words making them to know there's nothing wrong in what she did and it's her preference.
Accepting everything being said to us will automatically control our feelings and dictate our actions. You are your own enemy if you keep these words in your heart as it will not help you grow as you had wanted. It's normal to listen to the words but you shouldn't allow that hold you down or dictate your life. You own your peace and nothing should hinder you from doing what you ought to do on time.
If you have read to this stage, I appreciate your time. Thank you for reading.
Photo by Martino Pietropoli on Unsplash
[January 03, 2022] (No 3 article)
It is a given that the majority of people would attempt to change you to conform to someone they would like to see and hear, not someone who actually knows how to live their own life and have their own opinions on different subjects, whether it is foods or clothing etc. This is the much preferred way to lead the person straight to the photo, not to the open image finding website which is not correct, but you have the right idea, just use the URL address instead of the image address. Martino Pietropoli Here is my latest post that you may find helpful: https://peakd.com/theterminal/@jamerussell/easy-and-correct-minimal-sourcing This post was obtained through Dreemport.