Yesterday, I talked about "Communication In Relationship" and I said 'Lack of Communication breeds Disorganization'. You can check it out if you haven't.
Do you know there won't be Communication if there is no Relationship?
This is why I would be taking us into what Relationship in marriage really means . I know we have professionals on this platform who are into Relationship matters and I would want you to follow me and perhaps disagree with me on some things, only if you found one though 😁😁
I think it was a coincidence to have stumbled on an article and I decided to tag her so she can understand some things about this as it relates to what she has written.
@Deeepensiverse wrote an article where she said marriage worries her and here is the link
Actually, to be sincere with us, we would get discouraged when we see marriages going through a lot in their homes and it looks as if we shouldn't risk our lives going into marriage at all. But is that true? We still have some marriages that are existing and love is found in there. It all depend on the kind of foundation your marriage is laid on.
Before proceeding, I want us to understand some points about relationship and here they are;
We serve the God of Relationship ( remember, the Holy Trinity: God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit and they work together as one. That's relationship.
The first need God has placed in the heart of man is the need for a relationship (we can see this in the Bible when He created Adam and said, "it is not good for a man to be alone" he created a relationship between Adam and Eve.
Relationship means connection or association with two or more people. It may be a relationship between a father and son, mother and daughter, husband and wife, employer and his employee etc. Without a relationship, there won't be any association. Even when God sent Jesus into the world to save us, He related with Adam first and because he disobeyed God, He didn't want to leave us alone and this is why out of His love, He sent Christ to us. A relationship was activated between God and Man.
If there is no need for a relationship, God wouldn't have ordained marriage. We need to understand that God is the initiator of Marriage and Relationship.
One of the importance of Relationship is found in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12. Two are better than one. When a person falls, the other would try lifting him or her up. The purpose of Relationship is to be of an helping hand to one another.
In a house that is full of chaos every day, no understanding, no agreement between them. It means the relationship wasn't built on the foundation of God. This is why many marriages have crumbled because God isn't allowed in it. When God has hand in the relationship of two people, even though there is challenges in it, it will rise up again if they call onto God.
An author of a book I am reading recently said something.
When God ordains relationships, it depends on the people in it to keep it growing and if such home falls, then it means there is a "Fifth Columnist". Who is a Fifth Columnist? This is someone who allows the devil to take over and controls the home. It might be from the wife or husband. This is why you shouldn't allow third party in your home. In a situation where the wife is listening to her friend or someone who keeps dictating to her on how to run her home, by disobeying the husband or fighting back her husband in any situation, the wife is the fifth columnist because she has allowed a force to help her run her home in a bad way.
Do you now understand?
There is no relationship between two people without both of them actively participating in it. The task is not left for one alone. Both of them are in it and should work together to make progress. In a relationship, there must be contribution among both parties.
There are differences in relationship between two people in marriage.
MINIMAL RELATIONSHIP: When we talk about "Minimal", it means something that is little, there is no real engagement in it. Some marriages are just the type that do not relate so well in the home. Just "hi" "hello" . There is no commitment to the relationship. They hardly have time for themselves and this keeps them at a distance from each other. In this type of relationship, they wouldn't be able to understand or study each other and this is what causes fight among them.
MODERATE RELATIONSHIP: This is different from minimal relationship because there is some kind of emotional attachment between both. When a partner travels, the other is expecting him or her to be back soon.
STRONG AND QUALITY RELATIONSHIP: This is the strongest relationship between minimal and moderate because there is this strong and binding connection between both. Partners aren't ashamed to see each other's nakedness. They are free with each other. They don't hide feelings or secret. They prefer to open up with each other instead of keeping it to themselves.
There are laws in relationships which I would be talking about in my next article to avoid writing a long post.
Thanks for reading and stay tuned to my blog for the next part.
|October 13, 2021|
I think the first statement that there wont be communication without relationship should have been without relationship there wont be communication. There are so many things that happens to us humans that has nothing to do with God, and one of those things is in a marriage. God has set everything in their order and set laws to govern them, if will follow the rules we enjoy the benefits, if we chose to go against the rules we faced the consequences. There is nothing God can do about them, he made all things beautiful in his time.
So many people spend a lot of time praying to God to make their marriage work when they are the ones to do the work. God cant work out anything we have not work in. It is not God that would teach a woman to be submissive to her husband, nor is it God that would make a man chose to neglect his wife, it is left to us to chose how we want our life and relationship to go.
Marriage is work, if you don't work it, it will never work out. Those getting ready to go into marriage must be ready a life time work if they want to enjoy their marriage.