Not everybody criticizes...

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“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”

Dale Carnegie

I love it when it's Saturday because it's the end of a wonderful week and the next arrives with another great week. Happy weekend everyone. How are you doing? This week has been great just as I narrated in my post yesterday and I look forward to many amazing weeks till the end of the year. May God continue to keep us safe and spare our lives in Jesus' name.


Criticism comes from people and I don't think there's anyone in life who hasn't been criticized in different ways.

Have you been criticized before? What did they say? How were you able to overcome it? Are you the one that feels less of yourself because of what they say to you? Do you try to confront them or do you ignore them? Do you allow their definition of negativity to affect your life?

One thing I want to tell you this morning is that those who criticize you, are the ones doing less than you and not someone doing more than you.

@HappyBoy replied to my post a few days ago and differentiate between being envious of someone and being jealous. Being envious is wishing you have what others have and being jealous happens when you start wishing them bad and trying to hurt them.

This is why you see many friends ruining themselves and wishing them dead because their existence and excelling in life is making them hurt the more and the best thing for them is to kill them so they won't see more of them again.

The truth is that when you are making progress in life and another isn't, they will start saying things behind you and making you feel as if what you are doing is wrong.

Though there is positive criticism that helps you improve in your life. People who do this are those who are doing more than you but they also want you to be great. They professionally criticize you and give you some guidelines to help you grow too. This kind of people wants the best for you and they understand that they also started from somewhere and seeing others becoming great than them isn't any problem to them. After all, let's be great together makes a friendship last longer.

The negative critics are those who are doing less than you and are unhappy when they see you doing better than them. They start to talk behind you, finding ways to stop you and working different tactics to prevent you from getting something which could benefit you.

They are happy sending negativity to you and telling you what you are doing wrong and aren't ready to help you. They believe if they give you some information, you might be better than them and so, they prefer to take the praises all the time without giving you a chance to prove your ability.

The best way to avoid them is to know the kind of attitude they bring to you. Be careful not to release too much of yourself to them. Look for people who are ready to see you excelling and associate with them.

Don't expose your goals to people especially the ones who wouldn't want to see you happy because they would eventually ruin it all for you.

Not everyone would like you and how you are doing better than them. They keep finding means to bring you down and once they get some information about you, that is the end.

Instead of them trying to improve too, they are seeing you doing better and sad. The problem with this kind of person is that they are too proud to come to you for help and so, they make you feel bad about yourself. They paint different pictures and scenarios into your head and make you change your normal ways just to suit them and once they have achieved their aims, they start to work behind you and go better than you.

Don't give them the chance at all but keep improving and learning the best. Do what is right in your eyes and never listen to their negative criticisms.

Those who criticize and never proffer solutions for you are the worst people ever. Even your friends can be in that category and would never want you to live while doing better than them.

So, always believe in yourself and your ability. Find those who want to see you doing better too while they are also improving.

Thanks for reading

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Criticisms may help you actually to classify people in your life. Instead of feeling sad about negative criticism use it as a tool to know whose real or con in your circle. If all they do is to criticize you without solid basis then put them aside classified as" The destroyer" and those who are good critics are " The builder". Who would have want to be attached with "The Destroyer" anyway? So avoid them and stay for "The Buillder friend.

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I used to have a very hostile reaction for negative critics, anybody that criticizes what I am doing negatively will receive verbal violence 😆 but these days I just ignore them and keep doing my thing. The only criticism I pay attention to are those that are actually trying to help, they let me know about areas which I can improve upon

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2 years ago

We are only wahalaing ourselves 😂😂 better to ignore and move on while we do our thing.

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2 years ago

Those kind of friends are so manipulative they act like they are your intimate friend but will never pray you make it,they want you to always ask and then give you nothing or little so you can come back. criticism can be good and sometimes it can be bad . you just don't give it a chance to overpower you. when stones are thrown at you ,you don't pick it up and throw it back but you use it to build your empire that is when people will come to you and start asking questions like "man how did you do it"

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2 years ago

That is it. Thanks for your beautiful comment 😎

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2 years ago

Most times, people derive pleasure in doing all of those things like gossiping, backbiting. The annoying part is that I don't care...maybe there thoughts and ideas are limited to gossip so let it be....a busy mind have no time to embrace disgust from people's attitude rather they bullshit it.

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2 years ago

Naso, once I am busy doing my business, I don't even bother what people are saying or doing behind my back.

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2 years ago

That's the best way to grow

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2 years ago

Even if we do everything we could, show the good side we have, there's always something that people throw to us

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2 years ago

You are right.

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2 years ago

We also need to accept criticism for us to learn from our mistakes and to improve the things we do,whether it is good or bad

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2 years ago

Yes, we shouldn't mind what they say but listen to them while we improve.

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2 years ago

We shouldn't allow bad energy people to come closer to us cos they will definitely try to ruin us. This is the reason wizkid said "bad energy stay far away".

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2 years ago

Naso my dear.

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2 years ago

I loved criticism whether it's good or not. You know I always find ways to improve myself and that includes people views too.

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2 years ago

You are right. We must always improve ourselves irrespective what circumstances around it.

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2 years ago

I used to think everyone is happy when they see others succeed until when things started changing for better for me. For no reason people will hate you. The best thing is to hide one's victories. Thanks for the mention by the way .🙏

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2 years ago

Yes oo, you will see those who loves and hates you when you are making it but we won't bother about that once we are doing the right thing.

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2 years ago

Once we are doing the right thing, we need to ignore all criticisms arising from anyone.

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2 years ago

That is right. Thank you 😊

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